To ask for my money?

[Kellyopio]

In March I paid for concert tickets for me,my friend and her cousin.
They were £50 each.
My friend paid a week later but her cousin never paid.
I sent her a message and pic when the tickets arrived and reminded her they were £50.
8 months later no payment and concert is Sunday.
She is writing on her Facebook she is excited and can't wait but I don't think she's going to pay.
I asked my friend and she said she doubts she will pay for the ticket.
I asked my friend can she speak to her cousin and remind her about the £50 and she refused.
What would you do now?
Let her go for free?

No, don't apologise - she owes you the money don't send that message!!

Hi xxxxx can't wait for Sunday,can't believe it's finally here...the ticket was £50, I'll need it before we go, my bank details are xxxx pls transfer it tomorrow.

I wouldn’t put the short of money bit, it’s not that you are short of money it’s that she owes you the money. The rest sounds good but I would put ‘the ticket is £50, can you do a transfer before Sunday please’ you don’t want her turning up ‘forgetting’ her purse. At the moment you have leverage, the minute the concert is over you have none.

Baffleds is fine.
If she'd paid for you would you expect a freebie

So your friend won’t speak to HER cousin? Is her cousin your friend? Well, I would say to the cousin if she doesn’t pay for her ticket then you’ll find someone else who can pay for the ticket!

Sooper’s text sounds good but I would say the ticket is £50 rather than was £50.

Do not send that. It's far too apologetic. You've tried the gentle approach and it didn't work.

Get to the point.
"Hi, since it's so close now will you send over the payment today. Bank detaails are xxxxx. "

Hi CF

How will you be paying for your ticket? If you'd prefer to transfer the money rather than carrying cash I can call you with my bank details?

My friend basically doesn't want to ask her for the money.
I feel a bit stupid as a few months ago we went to London and her cousin drove and charged £20 each petrol and I paid knowing she owed me £50

If you dont give me £50 by x date then i will sell your ticket

Yes, mention a deadline and if you don't have the money by then you can sell it to someone else or take along a friend of your own!

Just message her and say unless she pays the full amount upfront before you set off you will sell the ticket.
Or maybe just put it up for sale on fb. If she says anything, you assumed she must not want it as she hasn't paid for it.

I like Soopers text. I would add to that ‘If you’re not able to pay I’ll have to sell the ticket on as can’t afford to lose the £50’ - just so she knows that if she doesn’t pay, she won’t get to go. I think that otherwise she’ll just ignore the message and turn up expecting to go with you regardless and hope you’re too polite to mention it .

Don't send that message. There is no reason to be apologetic about wanting your cash. You are giving her the option to not pay.

I would find the last post about her looking forward to the concert, and very innocently post - Oh so you have a ticket?

She will of course contact you, because you have her ticket. And you tell her pay up by tomorrow lunch or the ticket is going to someone who will pay.

‘Hi - still waiting for you to pay me the £50 for the ticket. Let me know if you can’t afford it so I can sell it to someone else.’

Hi xxxx. Saw your FB post, I'm excited too! Cannot believe it's finally here, seems like we've been waiting forever!
Has your cousin told you we're meeting at X place at Xmas time to go together?
OH, also, could you transfer me the money tomorrow please? I'm abit short at the moment so really do need it ASAP.
If you're struggling to pay for it, it's OK, I've had a few offers for the ticket already so can sell it on without making a loss! (Phew!).
Like I say though, transfer me the cash tomorrow and I'll see you on x day at X time at X place xx

Terrible message sorry op as it implies you would let her have it if you weren’t short when in reality your financial circumstances don’t remove her responsibility to pay you.
Try
Hi x looking forward to the concert but just a reminder you haven’t paid me for the tickets to x. I am not able to subsidise you for this so please transfer the funds to me (a/c details are xxxxxx). If I don’t hear back I from you I will have to sell the ticket on. Xx

Keep it civil, direct and short whatever you send.

Just say , Hi freeloader, do you still want to buy the ticket for concert? It’s 50£, my bank details are xxxx. It’s fine if you don’t want to buy it, my friend Jenny said she will buy it from me, but obviously you have first dibs. I said I will let her know by noon tomorrow if there is a chance you don’t want it, so she can free her diary.

Let your friend know you can't treat the cousin to this so if she doesn't pay you'll have to sell her ticket to someone else. Friend may want to pay for it to avoid family aggro but no way you should.

If friend leaves it to you, text friend 'I can't afford to wait any longer for the money for your ticket. If you can't transfer it to me today or drop it round, I'll have to sell the ticket to someone else'

No money, no ticket.

If the post was a couple of weeks ago I would be posting:

'Still waiting on £50 payment for ticket. Bank details are xxxx If cash is not in by 12.00pm tomorrow I'll assume you can no longer afford the concert and sell the ticket instead. Thanks'

Do not let her have the ticket without full payment before the concert, or you definitely will never see that money again.

Sunday as in the day after tomorrow? I'd call her rather than send a message as she'll pretend she hasn't seen it. I'd tell her she needs to pay immediately (within a couple of hours of the call) or you'll sell it to someone else. Frame it in terms of if she wants to buy the ticket etc - it is not her ticket. It won't be her ticket until she's paid for it!

You need to pull on your big girl pants OP! A short, polite message will suffice: "Hi xxxx, I need the money for your ticket ahead of the gig on Sat. Please transfer £50 to my account xxxxxxxxx. If you can't afford to go now, let me know asap so I'll have time to sell it elsewhere. Thanks!"

Hi X

I have someone interested in buying the ticket I bought for you but not sure if you still want to buy it yourself? If you do can you send money by tomorrow (£50). If not no worries I'll sell it on

Kelly x