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To think getting quite drunk with a baby is odd??

576 replies

Choccywoccydoo10 · 16/11/2017 12:14

NC as could be outing.

So we are suppose to be visiting friends this weekend. They have a 6 month old we have a toddler. They want to go out for dinner and drink then go back to theirs and pop open the champagne. Apparently they have quite a few bottles. My DP friend then said he's going to guzzle the wine and his wife will be drinking too.

Obviously most of the drinking will be when the kids are in bed but AIBU to think you wouldn't do this?? What if something happened like an emergency and you needed to go out or the baby needed something. I wouldn't want to get really drunk while caring for my D'S.

I'm all for having fun and a laugh but a glass or 2 not 3 bottles of champagne and guzzling wine!

AIBU or would other people do this?

OP posts:
Notreallyarsed · 18/11/2017 13:20

Because you have applied it to everyone else.

And then revised my statement, more than once. Did you miss it deliberately or were you seeing more than one of the screen?

To think getting quite drunk with a baby is odd??
Oblomov17 · 18/11/2017 13:21

Do parents who drink not care about their children? Hmm

mommytoboo86 · 18/11/2017 13:24

ok so some think it's unacceptable (and makes u an alcoholic) if u have more than a few glasses of wine while in charge of kids at night while asleep.
So ur opinion of ppl on pain medication who are completely wasted on sed pills are irresponsible as well then?

ProfessorCat · 18/11/2017 13:28

Oblomov - those who get wasted while their children are in their care. No - how can they?

I'm take pain medication. It doesn't affect my ability to parent and it doesn't make me violent, angry, sick or behave any differently to when I don't take it.

Fresta · 18/11/2017 13:31

But scrabble, your child clearly has a history of breathing related problems there, and was ill before you put them to bed. I wouldn't have had a drink on nights like that either.

But tonight, when my very well dd aged 12 goes to bed I will have a few glasses of wine while watching t.v. As will my DH. We will not be sober 'just in case' we need to drive her to hospital. Neither will we be paralytic to the point we couldn't call an ambulance if one of us needed it or react appropriately to a situation which needed it. There are in-betweens.

Mumsiemummy1 · 18/11/2017 13:38

It's also somewhat amusing that people on here seem to also consider the drink driving limit as set by over protective morons. The drink driving is what it is as it shows your judgement is impaired at that level of alcohol consumption.

I presume these are the same arseholes who drive when they are infact over the limit because "they know their limits" and "know the roads"

Let's say it all together now one more time...we aren't talking about caring for a child after a couple of glasses of wine, we are talking about complete intoxication.

ScrabbleFiend · 18/11/2017 13:49

Nope, no history of breathing problems, just 3 separate incidents several years apart. Obviously i was aware he had a cold when he was a baby, the croup and allergic reaction both happened suddenly in the middle of the night, went to bed perfectly fine on both those occasions. Anyway another poster asked I was just responding with actual emergencies I have dealt with. Just this week I was woken at 3am, DS had succumbed to the dreaded winter vomiting bug, vomit and diarrhoea everywhere, again no signs when he went to bed. He's not a sickly child in general, 100% school attendance last year and the first time he's ever had the vomiting bug.

Fresta · 18/11/2017 13:50

Why were you giving your child penicillin if they were fine?

Bubblebubblepop · 18/11/2017 13:52

Crikey scrabble, to have had 3 out of 3 children almost suffocate at no notice whatsoever is extraordinarily unusual and unlucky. How scary.

Fresta · 18/11/2017 13:53

I don't consider a child waking in the night being sick an emergency though! It's not life threatening and having had a drink of wine wouldn't render you incapable of dealing with it.

Mumsiemummy1 · 18/11/2017 13:56

@fresta not a drink of wine... intoxication...why do people keep deliberately missing this point?

Bubblebubblepop · 18/11/2017 13:57

Umm mumsiemummymama the drink driving limit relates to the damage that can be done being in control of a 4 tonne aluminium and steel car moving at 30mph. Nothing to do with parenting.

For example, if I'm over the drink drive limit am I incapable of strapping my child into a buggy and getting on a train with them?!

ScrabbleFiend · 18/11/2017 13:59

All the same child bubble. The reaction to the penicillin happened after he finished a course due becoming Ill after his MMR jab, they're not even sure it was caused by the penicillin, just a guess as he'd had it recently but he was recovered by then. Literally woke me up in the middle of the night and when I turned the light on it looked he'd been stung by a thousand bees and yes it was very scary, thankfully I have a nursing background and am calm in emergencies.

Mumsiemummy1 · 18/11/2017 13:59

@bubble...and why might that damage be done bubble?

God I actually give up...drink yourself stupid and leave your children with no reliable adult to care for them. I'm out.

ScrabbleFiend · 18/11/2017 14:02

And no a vomiting bug isn't a dire emergency but I wouldn't have liked to be scrubbing carpets, stripping beds and calming a distressed child a couple of hours after going to bed drunk.

kali110 · 18/11/2017 14:02

OP the vast majority of posters on here who don’t share your opinion are the parents who are irresponsible enough to get bladdered with children in their care. Justifying that kind of behaviour by saying ‘They won’t need to go A&E’ or ‘you can’t always live on the edge, that’s what neighbours/friends are for’😂 what ridiculous comments.
Really? I don't share it and i don't drink so...

Bubblebubblepop · 18/11/2017 14:03

The damage that can be done by a car? Isn't that obvious? Why are you asking weird questions?

nousername123 · 18/11/2017 14:05

It’s not always about being able to drive to the hospital, it’s about being responsible enough to know what to do in an emergency. I personally wouldn’t get drunk while young children are my responsibility. I don’t think you’re being unreasonable at all. A few drinks is different to getting drunk. Tbh if my partner wanted to have a few drinks one night then I would stay sober for my peace of mind. We would take it in turns. If you’re wasted and your child sees you in a right state it’s not really fair on them and doesn’t set a good example. I agree with OP

kali110 · 18/11/2017 14:06

It still confuses me that people who choose not to drink either in front of their children or while their children are in their care are sanctimonious or twats.
Because we care about our children? I'm SO sorry.

Once again, so people who have one or two drinks dont care about their kids then?
Does that apply to your husband then?
Youve said he has the odd drink?
Im assuming he ofcourse is not judged though, its just others Wink

Mumsiemummy1 · 18/11/2017 14:07

@bubblebubblepop...yes but why might that be more likely to occur after reaching the drink drive limit. A car can always cause damage, it doesn't suddenly get heavier once you start drinking.

I'm officially done now...you can't argue with stupid

hotbutteredcrumpetsandtea · 18/11/2017 14:09

I'm take pain medication. It doesn't affect my ability to parent and it doesn't make me violent, angry, sick or behave any differently to when I don't take it.

I drink alcohol. It doesn't affect my ability to parent and it doesn't make me violent, angry, sick or behave much differently to when I don't take it.

this is the bit you don't seem able to grasp. Some of us drink do drink more than a glass of wine and yet can still parent quite amazingly well.

Bubblebubblepop · 18/11/2017 14:09

I think maybe people who don't drink just assume everyone is a lightweight. I would have to be enourmously pissed, battered in fact, to not understand what to do in an emergency. I have evacuated my house, and my neighbors house, during a fire after a night in a pub. I was the one who called 999. I was the one who waved the fire trucks down. I was the one who dealt with it. I have no reason to think that unless extremely drunk the same wouldn't happen in any other emergency.

People who drink maybe don't understand how drinking works.

Bubblebubblepop · 18/11/2017 14:09

Sorry people who DON'T drink maybe don't understand how drinking works

hotbutteredcrumpetsandtea · 18/11/2017 14:10

yes but why might that be more likely to occur after reaching the drink drive limit. A car can always cause damage, it doesn't suddenly get heavier once you start drinking

You don't understand why accidents are more likely in a car after drinking?

I'm officially done now...you can't argue with stupid
We certainly can't, so thank fuck you're stopping so we don't have to!

Bubblebubblepop · 18/11/2017 14:11

Sorry mumsiemummymamaboohoo you don't understand your own point. An accident is more likely to happen because you are CONTROLLING A 4TONNE SPEEDING VEHICLE not because you are drinking wine whilst your children are asleep

But as you said (or "sed") you can't argue with stupid