To think getting quite drunk with a baby is odd??

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NC as could be outing.

So we are suppose to be visiting friends this weekend. They have a 6 month old we have a toddler. They want to go out for dinner and drink then go back to theirs and pop open the champagne. Apparently they have quite a few bottles. My DP friend then said he's going to guzzle the wine and his wife will be drinking too.

Obviously most of the drinking will be when the kids are in bed but AIBU to think you wouldn't do this?? What if something happened like an emergency and you needed to go out or the baby needed something. I wouldn't want to get really drunk while caring for my D'S.

I'm all for having fun and a laugh but a glass or 2 not 3 bottles of champagne and guzzling wine!

AIBU or would other people do this?

Blimey, people actually need others to explain the "valid" reason why it's not reasonable to be intoxicated when caring for a baby (as this is the age of the child op was talking about).

At no other point in the day would any parent think it ok for a baby to not be under the care of a responsible adult, not for 1 minute, but seemingly when it is in the benefit of the parent who wants to get totally wasted, then it's apparently ok.

Yes emergencies in the night are rare thank God, and if you want to be THAT parent that is happy to take those risks with an innocent child because you would rather take the risk than have some self control then go ahead. Obviously that's a risk your happy with, but lots of is aren't.

None of us have said not to have 1 or 2 glasses, we are talking about being totally intoxicated. If you have missed this point then perhaps you have had too much already!

None of us have said not to have 1 or 2 glasses, we are talking about being totally intoxicated. If you have missed this point then perhaps you have had too much already!

Exactly!

Yes emergencies in the night are rare thank God, and if you want to be THAT parent that is happy to take those risks with an innocent child because you would rather take the risk than have some self control then go ahead. Obviously that's a risk your happy with, but lots of is aren't

Sanctimommy Alert! Did you get your medal yet?

None of us have said not to have 1 or 2 glasses, we are talking about being totally intoxicated

Yes but you can't understand that there is a LOT in between those two extremes. You keep banging on that anything more than 2 glasses is wasted/intoxicated/incapable of parenting.
Why can't you get it into your head that everyone has very different levels of tolerance and that some can drink lots more than others and still be perfectly capable of parenting?
Would a brandy help you to tease it out?

Where are these pious people in RL? I only see them on the internet.

Anyway, what are these life-threatening emergencies that occur from nowhere in the night? I'd love to know.

3 weeks old, heavy cold, airway blocked with huge mucous plug, turned blue. Thankfully I acted quickly and dislodged with a thump to the back.

2 years old, severe allergic reaction to penicillin, developed erythema multiforma where everything swells up including the throat.

6 years old, croup attack, blue lips unable to breathe, thankfully had steroid inhaler in the house and gave several rapid doses to reduce swelling in airways.

At home, not socialising, because they hate everyone?

See now that’s an assumption and a half hot, I socialise regularly, sometimes with friends who are drinking. As long as they’re not pissed round my kids that’s fair enough.
But then they’re not determined that I’m a sanctimonious twat because I don’t drink and we have a laugh.

My eldest is 26 and I still don't drink anything more than a little wine at mealtimes in front of him, or when he stays over

Funniest thing I've read on here for years, I'm crying

I hate people who judge me for not drinking, but I don't hate everyone. Tonight I will be at my local for live band night with my friends, socialising and having fun without the need for a particular liquid.

Last night I was indeed at home, having fun in a different way.

Just because my fun doesn't involve a drink, doesn't make my enjoyment less.

hot still missing the point. Do you understand what intoxicated means? I'm well aware there are levels in-between. For the hundreth time we are talking about parents who get blind drunk.

But then they’re not determined that I’m a sanctimonious twat because I don’t drink and we have a laugh

I think this is the 4th time I've said this but its not the non drinking that gives rise to the charge of sanctimonious twattery. It's the sanctimony and twattery that does it.

Is that not clear?

Gosh, if that's the funniest thing you've read in years...

Why is someone's choice so hilarious? My parents don't really drink and I'm in my 30s. My mum might have a glass of wine with Christmas dinner, or a sherry when wrapping presents but that's it.

Your sides must be splitting!

You calling anyone else a twat is about the funniest thing I’ve ever heard, oh the fucking irony

Do you understand what intoxicated means? I'm well aware there are levels in-between. For the hundreth time we are talking about parents who get blind drunk

Actually you're not. RTFT. Some fool says if you are over the drink drive limit (one large glass of wine) then you are intoxicated and unable to parent adequately. Lots of similar stupidity from the sanctimommies.
You might want to check who you are aligning yourself with before you try and speak for them.

You calling anyone else a twat is about the funniest thing I’ve ever heard, oh the fucking irony grin

Where's the irony? I'm a massive twat, that is obvious enough.

lol u compared the legalities of drinking with the legalities of raping one's wife so u compared them!!

hot so because one person mentions the drink drive limit that now applies to all of us ....ok then.

I said that about drink driving and I stand by it. I also said I couldn’t give a shit what risks other people choose to take with their kids because their kids aren’t my responsibility.

Your propensity for namecalling and insults really doesn’t do you any favours hot, it just makes you look like a bit of a lush tbh.

mommytoboo86 no, once again, I didn’t. I said that screeching “it’s legal” isn’t a valid argument because what is and isn’t legal changes and hasn’t always been what should be acceptable.

It still confuses me that people who choose not to drink either in front of their children or while their children are in their care are sanctimonious or twats.

Because we care about our children? I'm SO sorry.

I said that about drink driving and I stand by it

hence why people are saying your stance is idiotic. One drink and you are incapable of parenting? How crap at parenting (and drinking) would you have to be sober that one glass of wine renders you incapable?

Because we care about our children? I'm SO sorry

Whereas those of us who have a few glasses of wine clearly loathe our children and hope the wolves come and eat them so we can go to the pub.

hot I would be pissed after one glass, and unfit to parent properly. Hence it being MY standard for myself. What is hard about understanding that?

Because you have applied it to everyone else.

like I sed valid reasons being 1s not thought up in fantasy land.
the difference between drinking in the middle of the day and at night is that the child will be ASLEEP so unless u have a child that sets fire to things, stabs people or generally hurts themselves while their asleep then there is hardly any chance at all.
The fact that u can't read my post properly suggests that actually it is YOU who has had too much to drink and at 12.46 in the afternoon that's slightly disgusting!!!