about birthday chocolates from DH?

[BendMeOver]

It was my birthday yesterday.

We set a budget of about £30 for each other for birthdays.

For the last few years for birthdays and Xmas DH has bought me chocolates from a shop whose chocolate I don't actually like. I told him years ago I didn't like it but he still buys it me from there citing reasons like "I thought you'd like this filling", "It didn't look too dark" etc.

Yesterday I unwrapped a box of chocolates from this shop and he said he got them me because they were my favourite flavour. So, we ate them after tea and I told them I didn't really enjoy them because, as I've said lots of time before, I don't like this shop's chocolate.

He went mad. We had a big row. He said I was ungrateful. I

I really don't think I was U... was I?

I've told him repeatedly I really don't like the chocolate from this shop so I'm not going to feel bad when, once again, I don't like it and tell him so. The first time he got me them and I didn't enjoy them I told him nicely (i.e. I wasn't ungrateful) but now, actually, I am pretty ungrateful because every fucking year he wastes some of my birthday budget on a present he knows I won't fucking like.

Next time it's his birthday I might spend some of the budget on tampons just to teach him a lesson.

Rubbish - don't feel sad. It just means fewer competitors to buy those things, meaning more on the market for you

My personal favourite is the Dizzy Paralines and the dark slabs with whole hazelnuts.

‘I think he might be trying to convert me’
Yes OP I think that’s what it is.. He’s determined to find something you like there so you can bond over how nice the chocolates are.
Neither of you are being unreasonable IMO it’s just a matter of different tastes

I love the dizzy pralines and passion fruit ones - yum

He’s determined to find something you like there so you can bond over how nice the chocolates are.

He has all around the year to 'bond over chocolate'. Deliberately waiting until a birthday so he can share something he likes is a dick move. It's like if my partner bought me a box set of The Big Bang Theory each birthday, because I must be able to 'find one episode funny' - it's not going to happen just because it's something he enjoys. Sometimes you just don't have the same tastes, and that's ok. It's not ok to try and impose your own tastes on others, especially on their own birthday.

Why did you eat them 🤦‍♀️. I would have said thank you for the gift but reminded him that we had discussed on several occasions that you don’t like the brand and maybe he could return them. Big late to complain once you are digesting them.

I loathe hotel chocolat as well so I don’t blame you for the disappointment. Thornton’s or even better your crunchie and brew.

Next year you need to specifically say before hand to not buy hotel chocolat chocolates. He’s being really rude ignoring your wishes

DH came home with a handful of chocolate bars (not Thorntons but normal ones from the 3 for £1.20 offer) and apologised profusely for being a dick.

He said he won't go there again. I'm sitting munching on a Wispa Gold as we speak.

As a dark chocolate hater, I do sometimes find that people can be weirdly/superior about it. You get people who are so insistent that it's the more sophisticated/'real' chocolate that they treat not liking it as a personal flaw that you could be persuaded/educated out of

My dh bought me lilies every time he bought me flowers (not vastly often to be honest)

I hate lilies; loathe them and he’d have the same sodding discussion with the florist every time.

Dh: I need to buy dw flowers
Florist: what does she like?
Dh: she loves lilies....or does she hate them, I can never remember.
Florist: what do you think.....these are pretty aren’t they? (Holds up lilies)
Dh: yes, I’m sure she loves them. I’ll have those.

Every. Sodding.Time.

I could never understand why my very intelligent and lovely dh could never remember about this one thing, but I think we just have mental blanks about some things.

Hotel chocolate fruit chocs are amazing ... and I hate fruity chocolates ( I mean the milk or dark with fillings of fruit not fruit flavoured chocolate - blueberry is the best.)

I think you confused him by eating them. You can't not like them if you ate them!

Oh he's redeemed himself Maybe now he can get something nice to go with his Christmas tampons

Maybe now he can get something nice to go with his Christmas tampons

We'll see....

Sounds a bit like my dh. He got me a present from the same jeweller 3 years running despite the fact that there is nothing I like in that shop so couldn't even swap the ridiculous last gift he got! And they don't refund. I don't think he was trying to annoy me....

He shouldn't be sharing your chocolates anyway, they are not a present for him.

Who thinks like this? Haven't you read Anne of Green Gables? Don't you know that any chocolates taste better when you share...

I feel your pain op. I love Leonidas chocolates but I only like one type, the big white one with the nut in it. My dh buys me a box occasionally but he always bloody buys me a mixed box. I don't like any of the other flavours, and in a mixed box you only get a couple of the ones I like. It drives me bonkers.

My husband kept buying me lavender toiletries. Now I do like talc and bubble bath but can't bear lavender. Like you, I pointed it out politely a few times but in the end was more clear about my dislike and put it straight in the cupboard ready to be re-gifted.

I later discovered it is my MIL who likes lavender! I regifted her the rejected lavender items but then she complained that they were too posh.

NB I'm quite fond of Thorntons coffee cremes, Lindt, Wispa Gold and Galaxy Caramel too. I like cheap low cocoa British chocolate - I think the problem is that people don't think it is expensive enough to count as a good gift but for me they are the best. A friend gave me a box of Milk Tray as a thank you for helping him with some paperwork, I was made up not had those in years!

I would not eat them and ask him what part of 'I do not like Hotel Chocolat' does he not understand.

I would not open the box, say thank you and return them.

My ex did something similar but not repeatedly. He bought me a pile of Thorntons white chocolate at my b.day. He knew I liked white chocolate but not really wanting several slabs of the stuff and wouldn't go out of my way to go to Thorntons either.

His birthday is a month later. I think he likes Thorntons as he went there for mine. I buy just a small assorted chocolate bag and a chocolate smiley face just for a joke. He eats it and later tells me he doesnt like it, not good quality. But it was ok for me when he bought it for me?

Weirdo

I have a similar problem with my husband.

He buys me flowers. Which is lovely.

But he always buys me the flowers I’d never ever buy myself. It’s always the same. Those rose bouquets with pink, yellow and orange blooms. I hate them. I have mentioned it before but he just won’t stop.

I am aware I sound very ungrateful but it’s such a waste of money!

I can't stand Hotel Chocolate and like Thorntons, although not as much as I used to. But you have named the ultimate with Wispa OP!

Can I do a mini hijack as all the chocolate lovers are in one place? I'm looking for dark chocolate/ chocolate mint buttons. But normal size - not giant. Would be VERY grateful for any suggestions. If I don't have to take out a mortgage to buy them that would be an advantage. I don't eat dark chocolate so I'm at a loss! Thanks

Ah wispa gold for the win. Im munching my way through the first box of roses this Christmas premature I know but I’m pregnant and being sick every day so I don’t care.

I don't like dark chocolate either, but dh knows this. Sounds like the message did get through though in the end, glad you did end up with something satisfactory.
For those receiving unimpressive (to you) gifts, try to implant the words you want remembered. Don't mention the ones you don't if they can only remember so much. "I love fragrant roses", "Creamy milk chocolate makes me happy", "Sam gave Mel a gorgeous bangle engraved with their names"