Calling an unborn baby girl "a little bitch"

[Pandoraphile]

And then going on to refer to older nieces as "little bitches"?

Overheard the nail salon and I couldn't believe my ears. It wasn't being said nastily, it came across as a term of endearment

AIBU to have been shocked??

Some people are just vile. Using such language about, or to, a child says a lot about the sort of person you are.

Madam and tinker were the usual terms in my day

An unborn child being called anything derogatory is beyond horrible.

I agree OP. I hate to hear people say things like this about their children, and would never say it about my own, no matter how annoyed I was with them.

I call my ds a little bollox and sometimes I tell him to stop being a dick. I have also told my dd to stop being a bitch. But then I'm Irish and we seem to casually swear alot and so actually use swear words affectionately.

One thing I discovered as a parent: whatever we call our kids, they will eventually call us. So if we don't mind being called a bitch or a cunt by a five year-old, maybe that's reasonable. (But I still don't like it much.)

My God. The things on this thread.
3mo having "slutty behaviour"

It's just abhorrent.

mathanxiety you need to understand that I think it’s disgusting and awful but those saying it clearly dont. When I say I’m trying to understand that what I means is they aren’t using the word correctly so I try not to feel too disgusted by it but I do judge and think it gross myself.

I think once you start calling them horrible names it's a very short leap to start thinking they are being purposely horrible to piss you off, rather than being horrible simply because they are children and tired/hungry/fed up.

And once you start thinking they are being purposely horrible to you, then it's a very short leap to being horrible to them.

Many reported abuse cases mention the abuser calling the child horrible names.

Tinkly you put it far better than me. totally agree.

A bitch? Wake up

Tinky. Wish there was a like button for your post.

Maybe it's OK inyourworld and with therough as a badgers arsepeople you knock around with; but it's NOT OK in the world of most normal, decent, well-mannered, well raised people.

Yanbu. When I was pregnant with my second I went into work one day and had lunch with a male colleague. He asked what I was having and I said no idea. He said ‘you better hope it’s not another girl. I have two little girls and they are both bitches!’ His daughters are 7 and 9 . I went on to have a boy and when he found out he said ‘that’s lucky!’

It’s not bitch it’s biatch ie strong independant female.

It is not funny or cool. And makes them sound incredibly common.

Maybe it's OK inyourworld and with therough as a badgers arsepeople you knock around with; but it's NOT OK in the world of most normal, decent, well-mannered, well raised people.
Amen EleanorXx here is yours

It’s not bitch it’s biatch ie strong independant female.

WTF?

Any male who refers to any woman or girl as a "bitch" is a misogynist.

It’s not bitch it’s biatch ie strong independant female.

Sorry but I've only heard the word biatch used on South Park, and not in an endearing way either!

Well educated and married friend had been telling her 3 year old ‘Don’t do that, darling’ in a strained tone for about an hour. Then she picked him up and said ‘Come on, off to bed, you little bastard’ in a calm and affectionate tone. Several of her friends present laughed at the contrast. So did she when she came back into the room. I don’t recall hearing her call him that again however.

I find little bastard less offensive than little bitch. In my head little bitch and little shit are both equally vile, little bastard not so much.

I call DS a terror, horror and probably a bastard but never to his face or in public. Heck, I never call him naughty either, just define something he's done as naughty.

I call him cheeky, monkey, pain and buggerlugs to his face quite happily.

I don't think calling unborn children names is quite the same really and whilst I'm not keen and didn't do it, I can't say I find it atrocious.

Oh, and he was called demon child for a long time, probably until he started talking really.

Though I wouldn't call him that now because he'd demand explanations about demons and I really don't fancy getting into that.