Calling an unborn baby girl "a little bitch"

[Pandoraphile]

And then going on to refer to older nieces as "little bitches"?

Overheard the nail salon and I couldn't believe my ears. It wasn't being said nastily, it came across as a term of endearment

AIBU to have been shocked??

I think I hit a raw nerve with @OnionShite She hasn't stopped banging on about what I said! (Nearly 2 hours and 70 posts ago!)

Hey onionshite - do you want to borrow my rucksack to carry around that chip on your shoulder hun?

It says everything that you're unable to defend your comment, and instead had to resort to faux jollity and hunning. Flail away...

Bitch is fairly well used, whether you like it or not, or whether you use it when up before the beak

Another here who doesn't consider it to be universally well-used. Any of the places I've ever worked would have considered it verging on a disciplinary matter to use it in anger, and I've literally never heard any friends or family use it in 'humour.'

It's not a word I ever say myself either.

I’ve called my two little shits before because they were being just that. I’ve also said the eldest is a dick before but I love my children just sometimes they are little shits or dicks lol cunt is a bit far for me though and calling children sexy makes my skin crawl a bit. But I still that these terms if used in an endearing way are ok. If used in a derogatory way or as insulting and hateful then I would have a huge issue.

I don't think the unborn baby will take offence.

I wouldn't bank on it in today's climate

"Err - if you are not netting the US."

Don't be daft. No one's got a net that big!

Only a misogynistic emotionally impoverished scumbag would call a baby a bitch.

"Rough as a badger's arse" is a rural expression. I've heard it used by lady-of-the-manor in a cut-glass accent, and by farm labourers. I used to keep a village P.O. It seems funny to me and I've since used it myself

It's not funny. It's the mark of a very very damaged person

THIS^^

It is coarse and disgusting.

...calling children sexy makes my skin crawl a bit
Only a bit, QuackPorridgeBacon?

Sometimes I feel I have stumbled into an alternative universe where decency is long forgotten.

SevenNationArmyWife Sat 11-Nov-17 19:10:54
Only a misogynistic emotionally impoverished scumbag would call a baby a bitch

And THIS^^

@OnionShite

Ignore her, she's not very well mannered at all.

The word is nasty and aggressive, and used as an insult generally, unless it is used in reference to a Female dog. I would think less of a person who calls their baby or child a bitch.

Laughing that someone thinks the term “rough as a badgers arse” or the use of certain types of language is a signal of class. I suspect their experience of class comes only from shameless and downtown abbey. Having spent a lot of time with a large mix of classes, vulgar language is about the only thing they have in common.

Hate hate hate the word bitch. So misogynistic.

One of my oldest friends called my unborn baby girl a little bitch...i never forgot it and still makes me annoyed when I think of it now. Not so close to this friend any more due to him being very anti baby

mathanxiety well it makes me feel sick I say a bit because it’s weird and creepy to me but I know they mean it endearingly so I was trying to understand that.

I don't know anyone who would say this, it's awful.

Actually, we were with a friend and his 3mo baby recently and friend referred to his tiny daughter as having "slutty behaviour". It took my breath away. Won't be seeing him again.

That’s horrible and I’d rather be a pearl clutcher than call children vile names.

How can calling a little child sexy be endearing in any way?

The word sexy means 'sexually attractive'. It is 100% inappropriate, and allowing it to creep into language under false colours eventually damages society as it slowly erodes our sense of what is appropriate in how we treat children and what behaviour we allow ourselves to indulge in.

We have banned derogatory terms that used to be commonplace for various ethnic groups because of the damage they do to perceptions of those people and because of the legitimate desire of the directly affected groups to be seen as equal human beings. I say 'directly affected' groups because use of derogatory language is harmful to those who use it too. It impoverishes us all.

When it comes to speech like this, if we are not against it, we are with it. I do not think there is any middle ground. It needs to be challenged.

Working class does not equal rough ( as a badgers arse) or common. Many many working class people spend a lot of time trying very hard not to be rough or common. Both are behaviours that are nothing to do with income. Rough/common is used to describe people of all classes behaving in inappropriate ( to the observer ) ways. Working class people have standards, and can be as judgey as the next person.
This one is going in the MN 'regional variation' pot.

Sometimes I feel I have stumbled into an alternative universe where decency is long forgotten

^^This.

For gods sake when is it right to call babies and children disgusting names?

shakes head and goes off to drink more wine cos I need it

Actually, we were with a friend and his 3mo baby recently and friend referred to his tiny daughter as having "slutty behaviour". It took my breath away. Won't be seeing him again

I'm not surprised! That's beyond disgusting