To think that bar soap is perfectly acceptable?

[HannahHut]

I only use Dove bar soap. Shower gels tend to bring me out in a rash (sensitive skin) and this is the only thing I've managed to find that does. Also the Dove shower gel is expensive.

I had a friend stay over last night and when she went to get a shower I gave her a new bar in a box and she asked if I had any shower gel. When I told her no she said I was rude for not picking some up because I knew she was coming and not everyone likes to use bar soap.

AIBU to think it was perfectly fine or should I have got shower gel in? I'm panicking a little now as I have another friend coming to stay in a few weeks.

It's a generational thing I think. None of my kids will use the bar soap on the basin in the bathroom even just for hand washing - they use the shower gel. Ditto their cousins on both sides. Apparently it's messy and sticky . How all those pre-shower gel generations coped I do not know.

Your guest is a tit.

tell her if she wants to visit again the local hotel is much more accommodating with regards to her shower needs!!! Cheeky Mare!!!

Doesnt she understand shower gel is you know, erm, sort of, liquid soap in a bottle?😉

Definately got tickets on herself i wouldnt be rushing to have her back again. Very ungrateful and rude.

What’s CF??

Misses point of thread!

Cheeky Fucker

FizzyWaterandElderflower Good for your Mum.

My Granny had a huge jar of guest soaps in her bathroom when I was a child. I thought it was the height of sophistication and looked at them longingly each time I visited never daring to ask for one to use. I said when I had my own house I would do the same and hoarded hotel soaps for years to do it. As some are old and a bit manky no one would want to use them but they would be welcome to.

Happy to donate the most grouty for the use of your CF friend OP.

As a soap maker, a bar of soap can be a lot better for your skin than Gel.

If it drys your skin then try using a salt bar

Aaaaah of course, thanks @Auldspinster* *

You’re absolutely right, definitely a CF.

I thought I was doing a good thing giving her a new bar!
So do I. It's more than I'd have done as I'd expect guests to bring their own toiletries if they are particular about what they use. I have a selection of soap bars they'd be welcome to try otherwise. Besides, there are no bottles of shower gel in my house as I'm trying to reduce plastic waste, and there's no way I'd buy some for a guest either.

She's BU and I wouldn't blame you at all if you decided you no longer wanted to see her. Cheeky rude mare!

Bar soap dries out my skin, so I don't buy it or like it
They vary a lot and I've found the more "natural" ones made with olive oil or soapnuts aren't drying, unlike the common high street shop-bought ones.

If it drys your skin then try using a salt bar
Wow, I love non-mainstream soaps and I'd never heard of these. Thanks for the heads up Kursk

The only one rude was her....for calling you rude.

OP how did you respond when she claimed you were rude?

How rude! Although I gotta say I would happily share bar soap in a wash basin but wouldn't use someone else's in the shower.

She was the one being rude.

Wow,how rude was she?not a good friend and certainly not one you'd want to invite again.

HannahHut
Yeah, she said it those words.

I'd have asked her to leave then and there, or at least told her how very rude she was and invited her to leave if the facilities chez Hannah's Hut are not to her liking.

she's one of those people who says ''I just tell it how it is''

Yep: rude, gobby mare, lacking in social skills

I'm impressed you gave her a new bar, because it wouldn't have occurred to me. But then I take my own stuff anyway. CF indeed.

(Another one allergic to Dove soap, as is my DD)

She's rude! I provide shower gel, shampoo, soap (mainly nicked from hotels!) in our main bathroom, so people can choose and use if they forgot to bring anything. As far as I can tell, it all very rarely gets used though as people tend to bring their own. I usually take toiletries with me when staying at someone's house - if I forgot and had to use theirs I wouldn't dream of complaining about what was on offer though!

I don't stay in hotels so no plan to stock up haha!

I just sort of looked at her with my mouth open a little and was like ''Sorry, I only have this''. I feel so stupid for apologising. I haven't seen her for about 2 years in person and she was never that bad. I think she's got a new group of uni friends and her personality has changed a little (got worse) as she's gotten older.

She sounds very rude. I wouldn't be inviting her over again.

Yup she was very rude. It isn't unreasonable of her to need/want specific types of toiletries. But if she is particular, she should bring them with her!

I would expect my hosts to provide me with something soap-like, whatever they normally use.

I left half used soap bars in the sink and shower when my brother and his family came as I always use them up and hate waste. It really never occurred to me some people would have a problem with this. When did we all become so precious? It's just a bar of soap not a poisoned Apple

I thought everyone knew that bar soap is better than shower gel. Shower gel makes you stinky within hours, whereas soap washes you clean all day unless you're doing something especially strenuous.

Why do people insist on having a new bar? If you're precious about germs just rotate a used bar in your hands under the water a few times. Or 50, if you're a really freaky germophobe.