To think that bar soap is perfectly acceptable?

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I only use Dove bar soap. Shower gels tend to bring me out in a rash (sensitive skin) and this is the only thing I've managed to find that does. Also the Dove shower gel is expensive.

I had a friend stay over last night and when she went to get a shower I gave her a new bar in a box and she asked if I had any shower gel. When I told her no she said I was rude for not picking some up because I knew she was coming and not everyone likes to use bar soap.

AIBU to think it was perfectly fine or should I have got shower gel in? I'm panicking a little now as I have another friend coming to stay in a few weeks.

We do have shower gel/cream in our bathroom but I often enjoy a soap shower, especially with a bar of Imperial Leather, I always feel clean and fresh after. Plus, we often just take a bar of the above lovely soap on holiday as it takes up less space if we only take carry on luggage.
She was rude (and I never go anywhere without my own toileteries anyway, don't invite her back).

she's one of those people who says ''I just tell it how it is''. If that makes sense

I hate this. It's just a way of saying "I'm rude and tactless".

I'm a very open and up-front person, I don''t get involved in any kind of nonsense mind games among friends or family or in relationships, and never have, but I still know how to act politely and I still keep my mouth shut if all I have to say is something insulting. Being rude cannot be excused by saying "oh I just tell it how it is".

So yeah, if she's so fussy that she can't even use a NEW BAR (which was already going above and beyond by you) then she should have brought her own shower gel with her. Anyway, a good friend would never speak to someone that way so I'd be ditching her anyway.

P.S. Dove is too creamy, I prefer harder bars, and they last longer too. Haven't used shower gel for about 3 years.

Your guest had no manners. Perhaps you should tell her this 'like it is'.

I don’t like bar soap. But I also bring my own toiletries. I would have greatly appreciated being given a new bar. Self entitled madam.

Your guest isn't very tactful, on top of which most people would take their own toiletries anyway and she was expecting for you to supply whatever.

Bar soap is fine but only, like you offered, it is a new bar. Memories of horrible old bar soaps cracking up and covered in hairs at old relatives. Yuck.

I use dove for my face now and find it no different to the ludicrously expensive Clinique facial soap, which by the way also cracks up.

But all my grandkids like the shower gel. I think bar soap is a mystery to them.

Your friend is really rude and I would defriend her for this entitled comment alone.

YANBU, she definitely is. Bar soap is fine.

Telling it how it is just means she's a twat with the thought that she is more important than others.

I'm not sure she's in any position to call others rude.

I don't like bar soap, so if I didn't have my own toiletries (which I might not if I was only staying for a night in a close friend's house), I'd just use shampoo. No big deal at all.

Oh, and I'd never expect a friend to bring toiletries if they were only staying a night! If they were staying longer they might like their own things, but of course they're welcome to use whatever I have.

Sorry, was she a guest, or a customer ?

She is BU. You either take your own or use what’s there! Especially since you gave her a new bar!

yanbu
bar soap better than shower gel is just fine.

if someone has specific preferences they should provide it themselves.

bar soap is better for the environment as less waste. I don't buy special toiletries for guests. We often have some shower gel for taking to gyms etc but mainly use soap bars and if people are that fussy they should bring their own. I supply a towel for them. Suspect I wouldn't invite her again if she wants to pick a fight over something that petty.

I can't remember going anywhere without my own toiletries.
Your friend is really rude.
Bar soap means less plastic, so it's a big yes from me.

she said I was rude for not picking some up because I knew she was coming
Are you sure she wasn't joking OP?
I find it hard to believe that a friend would say this and mean it. And if they did mean it why would you want to be friends with this person?
Its the kind of flippant remark someone might make as a joke.

Bar soap dries out my skin, so I don't buy it or like it.

But if someone had been kind enough to think to buy a new bar of soap for me when I stayed over, I'd smile and use it and say thank you. She's a rude mare. I take it you won't be extending your hospitality to her in the future?

Your ‘friend’ is very rude in expecting you to provide toiletries.

OMG, I was coming on here to say what a CF but everyone has beaten me to it!
If you stay at someones house, you take your own toiletries!

Use shampoo instead?! I'm not made of money!

My mum says she is a friend I should ''fizzle out'' with.

it has never crossed my mind to provide guests with a new bar of soap! Or expect one when I stay with friends.
Do most people do this?

I do have shower gel too, but mostly I like bar soap. I have a cake of coal tar soap by the side of my bath now!

Soap's better for the enviornment, too, as you get a small wrapping for a thing that lasts ages, not a plastic bottle for something that's blink-and-it's-gone.

Also your friend is a grade-A CF for calling you "rude" for not dancing to her every whim.

You ‘friend’ is a twat.

Rude rude rude

What a rude guest. She wasn't cheeky to ask for shower gel but was rude to complain when you didn't have any. I'm not mad on shower gel. Silly gloopy stuff. Give me soap any day or even a beauty bar.