AIBU re wrapping DDs birthday gifts for Christmas

[Dec13girl]

We threw dd a 3rd birthday party for 15 kids and she got a lot of toys, some of which I put upstairs in the attic (because I wanted to bring her out a new toy each week). Now Christmas is coming up and I am wondering AIBU to rewrap some of the toys she opened for her birthday to give them to her for Christmas? Will she remember unwrapping them the first time?

It's what I would do !
It's not mean at all, actually it is so unimportant as not to matter one jot !

I think I'd probably freecycle the unwanted plastic toys and buy something for xmas.

The clutter associated with small children is really oppressive sometimes. Especially if your kid isn't NT and cannot possibly be persuaded to part with any of their possessions even if they haven't had a use for them in years....

I think it's an excellent idea.

Mine would have remembered at 3. Whether yours will or not, isn’t something we could know. I don’t see a problem with it if you know they won’t recall it.

I got rid of my dd toy washing machine when she was small...she noticed and I had to buy a replacement! She would definitely remember aged three and be a bit bewildered. My dd would probably have said why have you given me x when friend gave me one for my birthday.

Tight and mean. What would the gifters of these presents think. Don’t have a party if u don’t want her to get presents or let her unwrap them all and choose 3 to keep and donate the rest to the local children’s ward.

I would (and did)!

Er... why?

It's not that I'm hard up, but I just can't stand the clutter! I'm trying to keep control of how many toys we have in the house. I guess it just seems economical to me!

Then don't buy her any more toys that add to the clutter.

Kids don't enjoy toys if they get too many of them at once, YANBU to spread them out, it's good parenting

Very, very sensible OP. For those saying it's mean, is Christmas just about giving presents?

They are not your presents, so I wouldn't. Bit of a slippery slope. If yiu really can't bear the clutter why not give them to charity- at least someone will really benefit.

For Santa’s stocking do things like:

New toothbrush
Toothbrush cup/holder
Expandable flannel
Dressing up jewellery from the charity shop (which can be easily stored then returned)
Knickers
Socks
Chocolate coins
Stationery items etc

At your dds age, she saw peppa pig and requested a doll that walks and talks and closes its eyes when it goes to sleep. So we also got into the habit of giving one bigger gift from Santa. Because she thought this was how it worked from then on - ie she had a good memory despite only being 3!

Not something I would ever consider so no I wouldn't do it.

Mine would have remembered at that age. II got rumbled for using the same paper as father Christmas when they were just turned three.

If you hate clutter, you'd be better next year letting her have the lot straight away after her birthday, rather than squirrelling away. Then after a few weeks, look at what's played with/left, and "tidy away" the stuff that might seem exciting to start with, but she doesn't really play with.

By bringing something new out each week, you keep all the toys exciting so you're stuck with them all....

If you don't want 'clutter' - clothes, bath bits, or maybe 'vouchers' - by which I mean either a day out, cinema trip, promise of tea at choice of place, afternoon tea picnic in the living room, family camp out (all sleeping in the living room on air beds etc after films, marshmallows, hot chocolate). Or possibly a pile of books or magazine subscription.

I wouldn't regift those she has already received. If within the last few months to she is holy likely to remember and then it won't be exciting to receive again.

Also suggest you buy her craft kits/materials/playdough etc for christmas. Lots more are suitable after 3. They'll add to the clutter to start with, but get used up so not stay in the clutter pile. Do not buy crazy sand if you like your house neat.

Now you see for me it's not even about whether she'll remember (chances are she will). It's about you making that choice. Why don't you want to gift your child something at Christmas just out of the goodness of your heart? Doesn't even need to be expensive - it's the gesture. Personally, my DD will be 6 months at Christmas and I've got her special Christmas sleepsuits (my family always have Christmas Pjs to open on Christmas Eve), and will be doing her a stocking.

holy shit you can't do that!!!
how mean is that??!
that was her BIRTHDAY PRESENTS.how you feel if somebody decided you had too many birthday presents and you can just get them for Xmas instead?
you should be ashamed of yourself posting that

I don't see the problem with it, OP, if you don't think she will remember. I think it's an excellent idea to keep clutter down, however you do it, and also it's a really sensible, responsible thing not to bring her up to expect Dudley Dursley-level piles of presents on each occasion.

I would be really offended if I bought your child a gift and you stashed it in your attic and pretended it was from you

Is that what Santa does.... every bloody year?

What does it matter she's 3

DD1 is 4 next week and she remembers every single think she was bought for her 3rd birthday and who bought it for her.

*thing

I think that's a great idea. DD will get to enjoy everything over a longer time period. You'll avoid waste - kinder for the environment and your finances too. Kids have so much, piled up, often not played with.