AIBU to withdraw consent for hpv vaccine

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Signed the forms ages ago for DD to have the HPV vaccine tomorrow. I didn't really read up on it, other than the NHS info leaflet she bought home with the consent form.
Tomorrow is the day she's due to have the first jab. I'm now regretting signing that form so readily, having read more about it. I know in my head that the stories I've read are just the very, very few that went wrong out of millions. But, at the same time I'm thinking what if..
Would it be totally ridiculous to change my mind at the last minute? I think I just need a few people to tell me I'm an idiot for believing the evidence of a few, over the evidence of many!

I'm sorry that you took my comment about your dad likely having cheated to cause your mum's cervical cancer as such an insult. It wasn't a character judgement.

That's an interesting approach. Not "I'm sorry I was an arse" (because you were), but "I'm sorry you took my comment... as such an insult."

No thought to whether or not you needed to comment on that. What was your point? You've clearly stated there are exceptions, so one with common sense would note that this was likely the case. Instead you felt it necessary to impugn someone that you didn't know. This isn't a thread about cheating partners where someone has stated they are worried about it.The poster was very clear that there was no cheating involved. Your accusation that he likely cheated was nasty and unnecessary.

And your "apology" absolutely dripped with condescension. Whether or not you would have thought that about your father is irrelevant.

Ds is having it today. Ds wIll have it when he is old enough. It protects them and their future partners. No brainer.
To the point casting aspersions on another’s parents, that is awful and bears no significance to the op’s post whatsoever!

I didn’t realise boys could have it too. All of mine will have it when they’re old enough in that case.

Notreally It's something I've been thinking about too. They didn't offer it when my dd was in her teens. Now that my younger boys are approaching that age, I'll need to look into it.

What the fuck, Cote?
Totally unacceptable to make that suggestion (which I won't repeat).

GingerIvy I’m pleased to see it’s available for boys too, something useful has come out of the thread for us

Thank you to everyone who challenged the comment about my parents. My reaction isn’t one I’m proud of, and I’ve reported myself. But I’ll be damned if I let a keyboard warrior denigrate my dad who is one of the best men I’ve ever met.

Really CoteDAzur?

Stating that a mans dead wife is likely to have cheated because she had cervical cancer?!

Wow! To think it is one, to voice it is another - you dont know these people! Who are you to make such a judgement on the character of someone you dont know and have never met? Could you have been any more insensitive if you had tried?!

FFS...

Ahem

Peace and love.

@Notreallyarsed you really have no reason to apologise

I’m really heartened that people are responding to the nasty comment and calling it out. Thank you.

@MNHQ peace and love? That’s it???

Here is a vaccine that cam prevent your daughter from getting cancer in later life.

Well done on the head wobble

@Dobbyandme thank you I’m now regretting letting someone who really doesn’t matter one way or the other wind me up like that. But the support from other posters has been very humbling, and I appreciate it x

@MNHQ thank you for your emails.

And OP I’m sorry for the massive detail

Derail not detail!

Two people married to their first sexual partner and staying faithful throughout their lives (I myself to the best of my knowledge, have a partnership like this), doesn’t discount the possibility that one, or both, of the people in the marriage has been sexually abused or raped at some point in there lives.
Children and extended family are quite likely NOT to be aware that a parent has been attacked or abused in the past.
Unfortunately, consensual sexual acts are not the only way to contract HPV.

Up to 8 out of 10 people will be infected with the virus at some point in their lives. HPV infections are usually on the fingers, hands, mouth and genitals.

That's from the CRUK website and matches up with what a nurse told us at school prior to the vaccine. Obviously sexual activity is the most likely way to catch it, but it could be caught through other physical contact too.

“it (HPV) could be caught through other physical contact too.”

Yes but that something will still have to penetrate the vagina and bring HPV to the cervix.

It’s a local infection that takes hold on a specific type of cell. That is why it causes cancer on the cervix, anus, and mouth and not in any other internal organ or on the leg, for example.

That was about the cancer-causing strains of HPV.

I hate the insinuation from some PP's that "making good choices" protects from high-risk HPVs. Many women and girls experience unwanted sexual contact.

Somerville I really agree with this too. As if it’s someone’s fault they’ve got cervical cancer, like having to endure the treatment and side effects isn’t horrific enough.