5 year old and TV in room...

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Short and sweet!

AIBU to allow 5yr old DS to watch TV in his room when he wakes up at sparrows at the weekend?

You only have to do the smallest bit of research to see the damage done to kids who are allowed electrical devices in their bedrooms. To ignore it shows bad parenting in my opinion.

Bedrooms are primarily for sleeping in. Put a tv/tablet/smart phone in your kids bedroom and it will at some point interfere with their quality of sleep.

What is wrong with the kids and adults sitting on the sofa together, curled up watching tv as a family?? This modern obsession with each family member being in a different room, on a separate bit of technology......and we wonder why we have non-communicative kids and fractured family units??

I make no apologies ... We have 1 tv in our house, in the sitting room. The laptop is in the dining room for family use. The tablets/ipads can be anywhere but in bedrooms. There is none of this mum and dad watching tv and the kids watching the same thing on the tablets in their bedrooms.

Come bedtime, tablets stay on charge downstairs....as do phones. Kid in his bedroom.....5 mins reading and then to sleep. My son has never had an issue going to sleep ever. And I am convinced its because his bedtime routine was calm....no stupid light and musical cot mobiles to distract him...no soft music....no pretty patterns on the walls from the mobile.

And my partner and I have the same rules....no tv or phones in the bedroom either. This means our bedroom is used for two very healthy things.....amazing sex and deep quality sleep. We go to bed...talk...enjoy a little exercise or we sleep....we don't find ourselves in a situation where one of us falls asleep watching tv and the other stays up for an extra hour or so. To me that's a sure fire way of killing your sex life.

It's a little ironic when people are preaching about the damage of screen time whilst posting on the Internet using some sort of screen.

I don't see a problem with TV'S in bedrooms. You can still regulate what they're watching if you keep an eye on them and tell them yes you can put it on or that it's time to switch off. I've never allowed mine to fall asleep watching tv. Bed time is bed time - no tv, no tablets, no phones!

My girls share a bedroom and ds is in the box room. I think the girls were about 8 and 11 when they had their first tv/DVD player and ds was about 5. They were just connected to freeview so mainly watched dvd's.

Girls are now 16 and 13 and ds 10 and they have smart TV'S in their rooms now so have Netflix, you tube, catch up TV available to them. Ds also has an xbox 360 and Xbox one in his room.

It's never been a problem. They switch off when I tell them to. Also to me bedrooms are where the kids go to play or hang out with friends not just for sleeping.

Do what you need to do. Personally I’d try it and if it works then it’s great.

Yes yabu. I would get a gro clock or an alarm clock. Tell him he stays in bed until this time. After that he can play with toys and then watch 15/20 mins of tv downstairs when everyone is up.
Tv in the room of a 5 year old is a slippery slope!

Only one tv in the house here, though dd is allowed to go and watch cbeebies on a weekend morning rather than bounce on my head going mummy mummy mummy

She has been able to switch it on and find the right channel since she was 3

Generally though, TV is a family thing and we all watch a film together, rather than hours of mindless cartoons. Which is what a 5 year old will do if left to their own devices.

Muppet aren’t you perfect. We have a telly in our room,we have sex and we sleep well! 😲

Isn’t it lucky that everyone is different and different things work for different families?

I was thinking of getting my 5 year old DS a TV for his bedroom for Christmas. I didn’t realise it was such a crime!

Muppet are you aware that all these horrendous devices you hate so much and yet still have! have the capability to be turned off? DP wanted a massive tv in our room for football (grand, we both watch it). But it is never, ever on at bedtime, nor are the kids TVs in their rooms. We all manage “deep quality sleep” and DP and I also manage a sex life.
We’re not bad parents, but thanks for the sweeping generalisations though.
Your house sounds so full of rules I hope there’s space for fun too!

Well if it makes me a bad parent I will live with that as I have 2 adult children who are polite , kind , don’t drink , smoke or do drugs and don’t have any debts .

We only let our DC watch TV if there’s an adult around to keep an eye on what they’re viewing, to make sure it’s not unsuitable. So even if they had TVs in their rooms, I wouldn’t want them watching it before DH or I was awake.

I had no idea you could delete TV channels from the TV though. Is that something that you can do on all TVs?

I babysat for the kids next door when they were 3 & 4 (15+ years ago now!) and they had a tv in each of their bedrooms but it wasn’t connected to any channels, it was just for DVD’s.

I don’t see any big issue in it, it’s not harming them (unless it could fall or they can access inappropriate channels).
Assumably your not going to be sat watching tv for the rest of the day?

I also agree with smeaton’s post...!

Oh wow muppet what an amazing life you must lead 😂

MuppetMagnet

I am 100% against TVs in bedrooms, but I have to admit they are helpful to create some background noise to allow parents to have great sex with children in the house, even when the bedrooms are not on the same floor.

Allowing children unlimited tv to discourage them from watching it is utter bollocks

No TVs in any bedrooms here.
Can you set out toy cars/train track/dolls etc the night before for quiet play?

We have a no tv in the bedroom rule (adults also). My DC play, read, draw until 8am when they are allowed iPads. I learned if I let them have the iPad from when they woke up, they started getting up earlier and earlier!

And, I kind of agree with Muppet, though our phone ban in bedrooms at night is restricted to DCs which may partially explain the lack of sex

The problem with TVs in bedrooms is that the screen brightness interferes with sleep - especially just before bed, but also if they watch when they wake up early.

Mine are allowed to get out of bed and read books in their room until I tell them its breakfast time, I started this when they were tiny and it has become the norm now so they don't challenge it!

One of the child in my ds's class is always late. I heard mum complaining they won't get up because they were playing game/watching tv until late at night.
It maybe easier to stop 5 year old watching tv instead of sleeping, but when they are 8/9, they may not listen to you. I couldn't believe why she doesn't just remove games/tv from child's room, but apparently it makes her life hell.

My son has a tv in his bedroom. He doesn’t have the remote and it stays on CBBC until you change the channel and he has it on when he plays in his room the weekends! He goes to bed at 7.30 and wakes up at 7. I would say it’s switched in about 3 times a week. He is also not obese.

We have a tv in our room, we usually watch the 10pm news and then switch it off. We also charge our phones in the rooms. We both get a good nights sleep and funnily enough we have lots of sex and not just in the bedroom

Grow clock gets set to weekend time on sat/sun which is 7:45am. He isn’t allowed out of his room until the sun comes up. He can do whatever he wants in his room until then, he has toys, books, soft toys etc.

But I’m intrigued that you can delete channels from your tv! How do you delete channels from a sky box?? I would love to delete anything with adult content in case he accidentally pressed some buttons.

I think Muppet touched a nerve with some

I agree though. No electronics in bedrooms here either and no TV's upstairs.

I like a good old fashioned tussle over what we watch as a family on a Saturday evening! I think I'd find it sad to all disappear off to different tellies in different rooms.