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5 year old and TV in room...

164 replies

Grimbles · 03/11/2017 21:35

Short and sweet!

AIBU to allow 5yr old DS to watch TV in his room when he wakes up at sparrows at the weekend?

OP posts:

LyannaStarktheWolfMaid · 03/11/2017 22:21

No TV in the room. AV equipment before bed is shown to be really damaging to sleep habits. Teach them how to come downstairs and tune the tv on!

mindutopia · 03/11/2017 22:23

I would not put a tv in a 5 year olds room. But in our house, we allow tablets (put on BBC iplayer kids) on weekend mornings. We don't allow it any other time of the week, but Saturday and Sunday mornings when she wakes up she can come in to us and ask for it (I think that's key, it's not always just there) and then she can watch it for a bit before we wake up. She usually laze around another hour or two before we all fully get up for the day. And it's cheaper than a tv (it's just a kindle).

Lukeandlorelai4Ever · 03/11/2017 22:24

Can he hop in the bed with you and watch the iPad with ear phones?
Dd wakes between 6.30-7am every morning and we give her the iPad and she snuggles beside us until about 8.30 ( weekend) it's her only downtime as she's a VERY active child !!

40andFat · 03/11/2017 22:25

Get him in your bed put you tube on your phone and snooze while he watches should get another hour. Or let him watch your tv if you have one in your room but still snuggling he’s too young to be downstairs alone and for his own tv.

user789653241 · 03/11/2017 22:26

Reading/ drawing/ lego/writing are the things my ds happily does in his room if he is up early.

Floralnomad · 03/11/2017 22:28

ladylapsang , my ds must be the exception to that rule , he has as I said had a TV in his room since he was 5/6 , he is now 24 , stick thin , 11A, A and B GCSEs , 3 good A levels including an A and a 1st in Computing . He also has no sleep problems . As someone said upthread just because dc have electronics in their room doesn’t mean they use them at all hours or without parental consent / control .

Longwalkoffashortpier · 03/11/2017 22:29

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wheresthel1ght · 03/11/2017 22:30

Do it.

Dd has had a TV in her room since she was about 18 months as she shares with her sister (dsd) who is 8 years older than dd. It has nowtv and she knows to only access the kids section. I genuinely don't see the difference between watching it in the lounge and watching it in bed.

I suffer insomnia so have one in my room so I can't argue she couldn't have it tbh. However I do find that it is on as background noise and she wakes me up cos she is playing loudly with her toys.

It won't kill him, if it means you get some extra kip then go for it!

AtSea1979 · 03/11/2017 22:30

No tv in rooms here. They read books and play with Lego, jigsaws, dolls etc

Ktown · 03/11/2017 22:32

I wouldn't have a 15 year old with a to in their room, and certainly never a 5 year old.

Fruitcorner123 · 03/11/2017 22:32

I don't understand why he can't play with his toys. I don't agree with the 'using his brain' comment but he is 5 surely he can play alone. The tv in room thing isn't good for him and agree with the comment that he might get up earlier to watch it!!

We have a gro clock and before the sun is up the children know they can't leave their bedroom (apart from to go to the toilet) but they can play with their toys.

LovingLola · 03/11/2017 22:33

I suffer insomnia so have one in my room so I can't argue she couldn't have it tbh.

I am sure there are lots of things you do as an adult that you wouldn't allow your daughter to do. So why can't you argue that you having a TV in your bedroom does not mean that she can have one too??

40andFat · 03/11/2017 22:36

Meh my 15 year old has his own sky box plus a tv

BrutusMcDogface · 03/11/2017 22:38

I hate all this whining about kids getting up early.

Just to be clear, I do get up at 6 with them (but usually just play/cuddle/chat to them in my bed for a while first)

GetYourRosariesOffMyOvaries · 03/11/2017 22:40

I don't like TVs in bedrooms, I like bedrooms to promote reading and rest (for myself as much as DD)

However from that age my DD was coming downstairs and making her wheatabix and watching telly, letting me have a lie on at weekends which I'm sure many would think is neglectful etc so really each to their own OP!

LovingLola · 03/11/2017 22:41

Meh my 15 year old has his own sky box plus a tv

What did he have 10 years ago?

Sendit · 03/11/2017 22:41

Think ahead. Do you want to have a teenager on their mobile phone all night? I regret having a no electronics in bedroom rule from day one

Poorlybabe4 · 03/11/2017 22:41

We dont have one in his room but he can go down stairs turn that one on. Set the lights with the dimmer switch. He knows what channels to watch and what number they are. Turns it down low and snuggles down with a blanket. This is normally between 6 and 7. Sometimes i go down too but hes quite good for his age and it meams we get a bit more sleep. He takes himself to the loo first and i often leave a drink and something to nibble on just incase he does wake early. He comes to tell me before he even sets foot down stairs but seems quite happy and comes to get me if he needs or wants something bit not very often. So we have no need for it in his room

40andFat · 03/11/2017 22:44

Loving Lola if you read my earlier post I said no to the 5 year old having a tv. My meh was to the poster who said a 15 year old shouldn’t have one that is plain silly. My eldest DS had a tv from either 9 or 10. My 5 year old DS does not have one.

Biffsboys · 03/11/2017 22:44

Both my ds have TVs in their rooms - mainly for gaming not watching . My eldest is 21 , done well throughout school and will qualify as a quantity surveyor in a few months time . He is also slim and fit , does lots of sport and has many friends. I don’t get the mumsnet horror of tvs in bedrooms at all !

Kpo58 · 03/11/2017 22:46

I love the parents who are outraged by TVs in bedrooms but give their children tablets to play on, or allow them to watch TV downstairs anyway. Wtf is the difference?

The difference is that you can regulate what is watched downstairs. If the TV is in the bedroom, they can be watching unsuitable late night TV without you knowing it when they should be asleep.

Fruitcorner123 · 03/11/2017 22:47

Its tvs for 5 year olds that we are against not 21 year old adults!

Research indicates they are not good for childrens' development

pinkliquorice · 03/11/2017 22:48

@Kpo58

They could just as easily go down stairs and turn the tv on, I would here if my 4 year old had the tv at night because he’s in the room next door but I wouldn’t hear if he was in the living room.

Unihorn · 03/11/2017 22:49

Kpo58 the OP has already stated it's for early morning use, and multiple posters have given stories of only allowing their children to watch DVDs.

I had a TV from age 8ish in my room and was a high achiever at school, and very sporty. I much preferred watching TV with all my family downstairs anyway.

pinkliquorice · 03/11/2017 22:51

@Fruitcorner123

So watching tv for an hour in the living room on Saturday morning is fine for development but if it is watched for an hour on Saturday morning in a room upstairs with a bed in suddenly they are going to be developmentally delayed?

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