Fireworks at home - who should ‘win’?

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I love an organised display as much as the next person, but HATE fireworks at home. I think it’s dangerous, not nice for neighbours, not nice for pets, but mostly, it’s dangerous!!

Dh always had fireworks at home when he was a kid, it’s a very fond memory for him. He has just got back from work with a load of fireworks in his boot. We have two children, 6 and 3, and he is keen to put a display in in the garden for him. He knows how I feel about it but apparently thought I just ‘wasn’t a fan’ rather than being vehemently against it.

Now he’s saying why should he not get to do this as it’s a lovely memory for him just because I don’t like it (I didn’t actually say he couldn’t do it, just reiterated how strongly I feel about it) So we both feel very strongly about this but in completely opposite directions....... who gets to choose?!?

I'm sure the people in the link I provided above thought EXACTLY the same way as the people on here agreeing with the OP's husband. And paid the price

“Don't be one of those moany , miserable, suck the joy out of everything killjoy types”.

Why are you insulting the OP for her opinion that one thing, home fireworks, are dangerous?

Firework injuries do not bring “joy”.

Don't be one of those moany , miserable, suck the joy out of everything killjoy types.

Must remember to tell my youngest that, the next she has a meltdown due to her fear of loud noises. Of course she won't understand, but that doesn't matter, so long as the selfish fucks get their way. 😒

I too have great memories of fireworks at home (apart from a rocket flying past my face from the neighbours garden!) but now I realise how much they affect other people and pets. Me and DP say every year that they should be organised displays only.

I don't like organised displays. They're too noisy (big bangers that sound like bombs going off), crowded and the food is usually over priced and poor quality (if I can even get a veggie option). A box of small pretty garden fireworks just after tea and some nice home cooked food is what we do.

My children and I go out in search of displays. Wrapped up warm in the car with drinks and sweets. It's lovely!!!!

I am against home fireworks also, for many reasons.

Because of the entitlement and selfish reckless attitude of some people, I campaign for a total ban of the sale of fireworks to the public.

Emergency services are stretched enough. Your neighbours shouldn’t have this foisted upon them. Most pets really struggle with fireworks and the consequences can be horrendous, sometimes fatal.

Photo below is from a post going viral on fb showing how a dog has literally destroyed the front door and injured itself to escape when fireworks were set off nearby

There’s no need...go to a public display.

Evelynismyspyname Sat 04-Nov-17 19:05:32
Pretty sure nobody's really said that though Beer only that when someone's cat shits in your garden every day and they couldn't care less the owner's protests won't be as high up your list of priorities asshe might otherwise be.

Pretty sure they have....

IFellDownAHole Fri 03-Nov-17 16:53:14
There’s one woman who doesn’t like it as apparently it frightens her cat. As her cat shits in my garden and in my dc’s sandpit all year I consider it payback.

*JaniceBattersby Sat 04-Nov-17 00:37:21

My neighbors don’t seem to give a shit that my kids step in their cats’ poo all over my lawn, drag it through my house where it transfers to my crawling baby’s hands. Nor do they care that their massive Rottweiler jumping up at my son and knocking him over (he was ‘just playing’ apparently) has given him a phobia of dogs. So I’m not really that bothered about upsetting them really.

Both examples of bad ownership, which is not excusable. But it's not the owner that will suffer is it? The owner may be annoyed with you, and for that yes, I can see why you wouldn't care about the owner, but it's the animal that's going to suffer.
My argument here isn't about the fireworks per se, but the attitude that the animals don't matter because the owners are rubbish. It's ok to scare them because the owners don't control them properly. It's that attitude I have taken issue with.

I really do think it's time that fireworks were restricted more. Not just because of the animals and vulnerable people affected but because of the injuries, fires and irresponsible attitudes towards them. My DD saw some kids letting them off last night, in the street, where had they got them from? The parents had supplied them! It doesn't just affect them, it can and does affect others quite significantly. We have all sorts of regulations for protecting some people from their own stupidity, I really think explosives that can cause major burns and injuries for the sake of some fun and tradition, should be part of those regulations. I don't want to ban them completely, just regulate them so they are less likely to cause the damage they do now.

www.itv.com/news/2017-11-05/wiltshire-hotel-sorry-after-fireworks-shoot-into-crowd-during-display-injuring-14/

www.itv.com/news/central/2017-11-05/cat-killed-after-fireworks-are-strapped-to-it-and-set-off/

YANBU!

Home fireworks are dangerous and produce a shit display compared with a professional firework display.

Your DH wasted money to make a lot of bangs with little to show for it.

Seems appropriate

YANBU. I hate the idea of home displays too. Way too dangerous! We has a wonderful family night at the local village display, which was truly excellent. £5 each and worth every penny. The fireworks and bonfire were amazing and it was very professionally done. A fabulous BBQ, drinks and cakes for sale in the warm toasty village hall, clean loos and easy parking. Safety is paramount and I would be livid if DH came home with a boot full of fireworks!

I do a garden display every year. My parents did all my life. We couldn't just go to a city display as there was no wheelchair access for my sister.

I went to an organised display in Knaresborough a few years ago .It was quite windy - I think they should have cancelled it really.The fireworks were not getting up high enough and then blowing back over the crowd
Burning embers landed in the handbag of a lady standing in front of me and set it alight.Good job it wasn't her baby's pram!
I have never got on fire from our twice yearly home display!

Organised displays aren't always the 'perfect solution' either.

The one we went to was appalling - people sliding over in the mud (as in literally falling right over), burning embers falling all over the place, and everyone so packed in that they couldn't get out of the way. Kids unable to get anywhere near the viewing bit and terrible access in and out. It's hit and miss whether you get a decent one.

And that was the best one for miles in a really nice area!!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/legal_matters/3078732-Fireworks-how-do-we-deal-with-breaking-the-law

I wonder if the horses had been shitting in someone's garden.

Stickthat have you ever tried pushing an adult in a wheelchair over muddy grass?