To go to bed in the day?

[Inkandbone]

-i am just wondering if I am.

Dh HATES it. He doesn't mind me having a lie down but thinks I should have a blanket on the sofa, not go to bed.

Says it's lazy and snobby?

So I'll ask here ...

Hes a wally.🙄If you need a nap go to bed. Is he always controlling?

OK, it isn't actually any of his business where you choose to have a lie down. However, if you are doing a lot of daytime sleeping and spending 8 hours or so in bed at night, then he might have reasonable concerns. Lots of napping can indicate either physical or mental health issues, which may need looking at, particularly if it's a fairly recent thing.

Mostly, i dont actually sleep. I just find lying down comfy. But when I was spending days in bed, it was more that there wasn't much to get up for. I am aware of it now so I sort of force myself up.

was more that there wasn't much to get up for.

Do you have children? Family support? Have you thought about working on a more formal/less ad-hoc basis?

It is not normal to need to spend time in bed during the day or have the ability to do so all day. It is lovely as an occasional luxury, whether in bed or on the sofa, However, as part of a daily routine seems wrong, unless the OP is pregnant or unwell.

Well, this was the thing. I used to get up for the children but then dh was off work and did the nursery drop offs and I'd find before I knew it was midday and I hadn't moved. Work is definitely good for me though. I need to find something.

I'd give my left tit for a nap in bed during the day!
The day my youngest child goes to school I plan on spending the whole day curled up in bed!!!!
Before I had kids I would always have a nap in the day in bed if I could! God those were the days...

I probably am sleeping too much and being quite lazy.

It just feels nice and safe in bed, somehow.

DH called me lazy for lying on the sofa drinking milk and water all day when I was 9.5 months pregnant. It was pretty much all I could do. It was August.

Oh my word! Mine wouldn't do that! Are you still with him?

I went to bed for a nap today and slept 3 hours! Woke up even more tired and with the serious grumps 😫

I for one would LOVE to be lazy and slobby and go to bed during the day...if only!

When I had dc1 I used to sleep so deeply in the afternoon and wake up all foggy and tired at 7ish then come alive from 10pm onwards. Not the best pattern!

I’m a term time worker and during the weeks I have off I occasionally take to my bed for an hour or so during the day.

No one is affected by my power naps, I love it.

I LOVE a daytime kip, but I work ft so it's my weekend treat

Yes, and we talked about it after the birth, he just didn't understand how knackered and hot I was.

Oh, good

Mine was pretty good when I was pregnant, but he isn't impressed with the bed thing.

Love every type of nap - disco nap, power nap, snooze in the sun.

Couldn’t exist without my naps

I only ask the circumstances to see how bad he was being....

But yanbu whatever. If you've got time for a nap in bed, have one!

And I definitely agree with pp who said it's anti social to nap on the sofa if others are there.

OK so you have a history of the type of 'napping' that isn't all that good for you. Is your mental health OK? Spending a lot of time in bed and talking about 'no reason to get up' is quite a common sign of depression. It can also be the behaviour of someone who is opting out of adulthood/family life, which can be annoying to the people who live with that person.

As a lifestyle choice (and if there's no health reasons) it is a bit lazy and slobby to be honest but it sounds like you might be depressed.
I couldn't cope with a partner that chose to sleep in the day as an everyday thing personally.

Mrs all the things I’ve read, suggest a short, afternoon nap is actually beneficial.

Yanbu
I’d give a kidney to be able to do this... even just once

So you would go to sleep in the afternoon and sleep so deeply that you didn’t wake up until 7 ish . You have dcs . What are they doing whilst you are sleeping. ? When do you interact with your family ?
To me it doesn’t sound like a 30 min ‘power nap’ or an afternoon snooze. It sounds like you hide in your bed for hours opting out of your family life.
If your DH is signed off then time for you to get out to work. You need some serious motivation OP.

Well, that's taking it a bit out of context, kittens - I did it when I had my first child, who starts secondary school next year, so it's not exactly something I do recently.

And I am looking for work and doing a bit of stuff part time, it's hard though as there isn't loads out there.