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To think 1 year old twins are bloody impossible?

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TammyswansonTwo · 01/11/2017 08:59

Okay, when they were babies it was bloody hard. Like, going insane levels of hard. But at least I could bloody put them down and they'd stay where I put them.

They can't even walk yet and they're already driving me crazy. Let's recap:

  • they have 1 x 20 minute nap a day
-one has figured out how to escape from their very expensive, should last til 2 bouncers
  • got a very pricey big playpen which has saved me but now they've refused to stay in it, and have figured out how to gang up on it and prise it open
  • they wait until I'm just starting to relax, or I'm busy changing the other and then they dart off in opposite directions - one attempting to pull the TV over, the other heading straight for the baby crusher (just kidding, I don't have a baby crusher but everything in the house is a potential baby crusher

Would a big dog cage be unreasonable?

Just kidding. But any suggestions that will stop me losing my mind. My vocab seems to have shrunk to their names, "stop it", "no" and muttering expletives.

OP posts:
WittyJack · 02/07/2018 04:34

The OP posted nearly a year ago - hopefully she’ll come back and say things are now much easier! 🤞🏻

sunnyshowers · 02/07/2018 06:40

I remember needing 2 large playpen s as my two bite each other too. really badly and I had to knock the kitchen into the dining room to manage that. totally worth it.
I d a small gasp at the bottom of the stair gate so I'd to fix a plastic panel to it (stopped them squeezing under) then they'd climb up the outside of the banister instead...they were actually really hard work. I look back at photos and think...omg was that really that our home was like?
I used to step on their backpacks (the ones with the leads) and walk the legs off them 3/4 times a day just to take the edge off their adventurous antics.
(the walk wasn't long just to end of the road and gradually built up to down the street...toast and scone in local cafe, for a rest and walk home)
I remember that just before they could walk it was tough as their minds were plotting what their bodies couldn't accomplish.
didn't get a nights sleep for 3 years either.
It's horrendously hard but does get different as they grow.
mine are 7 now and it's more about emotional needs which is tricky as not only haave they the regular needs but also the...he's better than me my friend likes my brother more etc emotions. but th st said they re the best if friends, my dd wass 3 when they were born and she added to the stress...because she was inl y a bazby herself at the time.
however these days...they are heaven on earth...I love them more fiercely every day, they re so different ( for example if their friends jumped off a bridge f2f would say NO, DS1 WOULD DO A RISK EVAKUSTION, DS2 WOULD JUMP) SORRY about the caps there .
It's way way easier now and they play together so never lonely. (they 've different classes activities etc so rarely fight as they 've space from each other...space is v important for them))
best of luck ...it's a special experience

sunnyshowers · 02/07/2018 06:42

omg on hols and on my phone.
apologies I didn't see it's was an old thread and my massive amount of typos

user1471558723 · 03/07/2018 17:03

Your post took me back in time!
I felt exactly as you feel now, 20 years or so ago, I had forgotten until I read your post.
So thank you for the lovely burst of nostalgia!
All I can offer is, it did get better for me quite quickly, after this stage.
Now they are adults, holding down successful careers, and still occupying my time and entertaining me one way or another, but I think I would still rush to avail myself of a time slip, if it could take me back to where you are right now !
I hope you get some peace soon.

nokidshere · 03/07/2018 17:19

This might help,if you are in the right area.

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Urubu · 03/07/2018 20:15

Twins here as well, 4 1/2yo.
From 2 and a half it gets easier and unhill from then. Still challenging but less physically demanding.

Norland nanny student is a great idea, a friend of mine did that a couple of months ago and the nanny was a great help.

With mine, days out became easier than staying home, they behaved better for some reason.
At home lots of new toys all the time so they are focussed on something else than climbing the furniture... Calm things like puzzle or books, duplos, magnetic building sets, stickers... Always one each so they don't fight. I would set them up each in a corner of the living room and sit on the table having a coffee (on the table so 1) you can supervise everything from above and 2) tje don't see you at their level so they tend to interact with you less and focus on their game instead.

I hope this helps Smile

Vikstar86 · 17/05/2019 21:12

Hi ladies I’m in the process of long term fostering 1yr old twin boys it’s all happened rather quickly so I’m just looking for any advice you can give me and any tips, tricks or must haves.. any advice on what I need to get or they will need would be much appreciated.. thanks

Houseonahill · 17/05/2019 21:17

@vickstar86 you're better starting your own thread than posting on an old one

ittakes2 · 17/05/2019 21:24

I bought 3 baby Dan play pens and put them together so our lounge became one giant playpen. Two bath seats for the bath.

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