To demand a parents evening meeting when I next have to pick my son up?

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I was informed today at pick up that it's parents evening tomorrow (first time I'm hearing of this) and my time slot is 7.15pm! I immediately said that wasn't possible as that is past my son's bed time to which they replied "oh well". There are a few things I've been meaning to bring up with them anyway and my son isn't in tomorrow. Would I be unreasonable to demand a parent's evening meeting next time Im there for pick up?

Sounds like there are other issues from OP.
But being angry doesn't solve anything. Being sensible does.

With regards to the time please bear in mind that a lot of working parents would be really grateful for it. Some of us can’t be at the school gates at 3.30 every day so maybe that’s why the school have allocated late time slots.

There's nothing wrong to ask to rearrange the meeting. That's all we are saying.

It was actually rather funny watching people get so triggered over just one inoffensive word.

I still managed to gets As in college for English, so I do have a firm understanding of the language.

Erm...well, no. You clearly have no such thing.

Why is everyone being so rude and offensive

I don't quite see the point in your original post, if you weren't going to listen to a completely unanimous majority.

Sounds like you didn't get the response you wanted so every single one of us is wrong

Nobody was 'triggered'. Peoe were only pointing out your approach to this was wrong.
By drip feeding you got different answets to what you might have had if you had given the full story first off.

But you are still wrong in what you said aboyt 'demanding' no matter how you try to deflect from it by turning on the people who posted on here.
If you think it was funny then that explains a lot about your maturity and understanding about working with people who are there to help your child.

Just ask for another appointment at a time that suits you both.

Why are people so weird in their dealings with schools/teachers? There really is no drama here.

Can't make an appointment? Rebook at a more convenient time; same as you would in any other situation.

Why does it warrant a thread on Mumsnet? It's bizarre.

People!

Apple, it is even odder because it isn't a school, and they aren't teachers - it is pre-school, and she would like a meeting with the pre-school staff.

Honestly, OP, it's easy. You say 'I know that you're really busy, but is there another time that would be convenient for you for me to pop in to see you about how X is getting? I can make x,. y and z dates over the coming couple of weeks - would any of those work for you, or do we need to look a bit further into the future?'

I demand that you listen to what people are saying OP.

Triggered...? What a strange interpretation.

You said yourself OP that you meant ask and not accept no for an answer. If you were going to ask them to meet you on his next day in and not accept no for an answer then yes you would be unreasonable to do that. Quite reasonable to ask and expect to find a mutually convenient time for a chat. You can suggest a particular day, but then they may not be free.

I'd also ask what went wrong with the notification, and see what you or they can do to make sure you have more notice next time.

When mine were at pre school they were generally quite flexible around timings of parents evenings -I’m sure they can work something out if you speak to them and I’m sure they won’t see it as unreasonable to ask.

Mine at that age would be fast asleep by 7:15 and a babysitter last minute is not easy. Again things I am sure the preschool will understand so just speak to them.

Seems to have gone crazy on here tonight!

OP It sounds as though you need an early night yourself. I suggest you place a few less demands on the people providing childcare services for your DS and start speaking to them as you wish to be spoken to yourself. You didn't like being told to have an appointment at an inconvenient time, so neither will they. A few manners will go a long way & provide a far better example of how grown ups behave to your DS than your current approach. You really are going to find his school years difficult at this rate.

Triggered? Oh lord, are you 12?

What have other parents said? Have they just been told as well? It seems really strange that a school would do this considering parents' evenings are planned far in advance to take into account report cycles?
YABU for your username unless it is some obscure reference. Yep, it's mumsnet but there's a whole cross section of people related to and invested in children here.

Thank you tictoc I think I might give them a ring in the morning to see if I can talk to a more senior member of staff rather than wait till I see them again

Sorry, what's your problem with my username?

If no one is going to offer a sensible reply I shall leave this here.

I know right. I feel for you OP. All those people saying you should keep your child up a little late, and the ones that suggested you ask nicely to reschedule, omg how ridiculous.

Not a single sensible reply. I think you are probably right to leave it here.

Well done on getting an A at college btw

You have to be male, op. This level of entitled surely must be a man!

Well that was wildly sexist