To demand a parents evening meeting when I next have to pick my son up?

[OnlyParentsAreReal]

I was informed today at pick up that it's parents evening tomorrow (first time I'm hearing of this) and my time slot is 7.15pm! I immediately said that wasn't possible as that is past my son's bed time to which they replied "oh well". There are a few things I've been meaning to bring up with them anyway and my son isn't in tomorrow. Would I be unreasonable to demand a parent's evening meeting next time Im there for pick up?

Mum of Spring but her child won’t be the only child at the pre-school. The earlier time slots will all be full.

It’s not a case I’d the teachers not doing their job. Besides which the teachers do have lives and children of their own and might not always be available.

It is however extremely simple to politely request a mutually convenient time without looking like an entitled arse.

Ps almost everyone pays taxes, even the teacher, it doesn’t give you or the OP or anyone else special privileges.

We are just forced to follow what the state wants

No you're not. You could always home school

Well done op. You pay your taxes. Here comes the reality check bit, though, so do thousands upon thousands of other people. However most of us do not think that gives us the right to demand.
Small wonder so many are giving up teaching.

Well, just judging from your username it appears that you aren't the most understanding person on earth.

Sometimes schools cannot run at the convenience of parents. In those situations we all just have to suck it up. Which I believe is something similar to what I told a student of mine this morning when she complained that the date of a seminar wasn't convenient for her.

Well if you pay your taxes then yes you can demand the teacher to change the times

Fucking hell.

Just say you can't make it and suggest 3-4 times where you can make it.
Explain you feel that there are items you want to discuss in order to ensure the best care for your son.

Don't be upset about it, he won't remember when he is a grownup!

Now one other thing.. your spelling and grammar is a little unusual and I wonder if this is going to be put in the daily mail.

Words like innate coupled with the error which was except are making my skin crawl!!

Yes 3. You can go back and count if you like

Apparently there is a real crisis in teaching and recruitment and retention at the moment.

Righttttt..... do you realise unless you're a higher rate taxpayer you don't even cover the cost of yourself let alone teachers... hmmmm?!

She needs to do her job if she doesn't like like maybe she should find something else.

Yes, like thousands of teachers are doing on a regular basis. Largely because of the attitude of people like you.

Only have you contacted the school yet?

I do personally feel teachers have too much control over this kind of stuff. Got to the head teacher and complain.

My mother used to always tell me the state robs us of our taxes so make sure you get your taxes worth. I wouldn't demand but I would be persistent that your child gets the slot. Even shed a few tears and white lies if you have to. It's nothing big

It's got nothing to do with taxes. I pay them

Because that teacher is being paid using OP taxes. I feel schools these days don't cater enough to the child's and parents needs! We are just forced to follow what the state wants. It's wrong even the nhs you get choices on what option you want but in schools kids and parents are forced to follow the teachers orders.

Now the child will have to suffer due to the teacher not finding time to push such an important meeting forward it's selfish. She needs to do her job if she doesn't like like maybe she should find something else.

How the freak do you surmise that the child is going to suffer because of one missed appointment?

The nursery staff will be happy to fit in a meeting with op when it is mutually convenient. She doesnt have the right to tell them WHEN as it may conflict with something happening during time at work or her private home time. Its just a 10 minute p/t meeting to see how they are settling in this year, there isnt time to go over issues op wants to raise. If op wants to talk more indepth about issues then she will have to make a larger appointment time anyway so nothing is actually being lost here at all.

My Dr is to all intents and purposes paid by my taxes, I wouldnt get very far rocking up there just now and demanding to see them! Fuck everyone else Doc, I pay your wages, see me now.

Those of you saying that as OP pays taxes and the teacher is being paid from Taxes means she has a right to demand what she wants...are you actually serious? I'm hoping that because I haven't RTWT that you are taking the piss.....
You know teachers pay taxes too right? Which means they are paying themselves, so surely they can demand not to see the OP when she demands?

OP you most likely would have had a letter asking you to pick a slot, you didn't, so you have whats left, untuck your knickers and go to the school, say you cant make it and ask for a catch up.

I am 11 years into parents evenings and most of them are dull, you wont be missing anything that cant be covered in a catch up at the teacher and yours convenience.

Teachers are there to teach, not to cater tot the whims of parents.

I can’t see how a child could have three biological mothers - an egg from one woman, with a second woman as a surrogate mother carrying the baby - I can’t see a way for a third biological mother without genetic manipulation. An egg from one woman, carried by a second woman as the surrogate for the first woman and her wife/female partner would be three mothers in relationship terms, but not biology.

Willow2017

To be fair willow you do get multiple choices on when you want you doctors appointment, what prescription you think will be best for you etc. People complain about out healthcare but I think out childcare is the biggest issue right now. The OP has not control I feel for her.

I don't agree with blaming the teacher though. You do need to show teachers the respect they deserve I'm sure she is just doing her job. However respect works both ways. No offense to the teacher but she shouldn't really bite the hand that feeds her

GoddessofWisdom

“The state robs us of our taxes”

Really? Even my primary school D.C. understand why we pay taxes and wouldn’t come out with such a ridiculous comment.

YABVU. You've been given a time on parents evening. If you can't make that time (and your reason is ridiculous), you can't demand another day.

Parents evening is one day; they don't stretch it out over multiple days.

But considering your further replies, this obviously isn't genuine, so it doesn't really matter.

Have a Google search for 3 person babies. In basic terms they take away part of one egg and replace that part from another person's egg. It's a real step forward in combating hereditary diseases. And the surrogate or birth mother would be number 3

OP sounds batshit

And the surrogate or birth mother would be number 3

Not biologically speaking they wouldn't.

What an argumentative thread. Only just joined MN this morning, feel as though I've joined kindergarten.

Goddess
Not really if they dont have any appointments left for that day I get zero choice and have to try the next day to get through in the 5 minute window before all the damm appointments are snapped up!

Op has no right to demand an appointment at her convenience. It should be mutually arranged as are all appointments I have had with teachers over the years. Teacher isnt biting anyones hand, op couldnt make the appointment, she needs to make a new one its easy to do without her getting all self entitled and stroppy going above the teachers head etc. All she had to do was ask.

Weeeellll you did say mother originally btw, not person. And technically though there have been a tiny handful of babies born in the last couple of years through three-person methods, these have been with a mother/father and genetic donor material from the third person. Not really quite the same as “biologically speaking a child will always have 1 father and between 1-3 mothers”, as you said earlier. But hey, no need to split hairs on this