Not a complicated one, but just want to know how others have dealt with this, and name changed because reasons. Noticed that his tablet was where it was meant to be (charging) after he'd gone to bed. DH checked if the Google account was active, which it was, so knocked on his bedroom door and asked him to bring it downstairs. After DS had handed it over and gone back to his room OH told me sites he'd accessed included pornhub and others, including lots of message 'find sexy women to fuck near you right now' type sites. I completely get the whole teen curiosity/wank material side of it, but what he was watching wasn't channel five soft focus stuff, it was properly graphic - and of course because of the way so much of the porno industry works, this includes aggression and demeaning language, as well as all the typical boob jobs and less common (?) sex acts that I don't want him to think is what women all look like or want to do. I'm genuinely a bit panicked because I didn't think he was that interested (I know, I know, completely naive of me, obviously!). The message type sites worry me too - I don't know whether he's actually used them to 'talk' to others, or if they just came up as pop ups when you're on a site like pornhub. When I was a teenager there was nothing like the kind of access that the internet gives everyone now, and photos of a naked woman in a top shelf mag that you and your mates would randomly find in a bush are a million miles away from the hardcore videos of woman being shagged up the bum by two men at a time that seem to be 'the in thing' on pornhub. So what now? Do we say nothing, or should we have a matter of fact type chat with him along the lines of "We get that you're growing up and know you probably know this, but: women don't all look like that; it's not a realistic portrayal of what most people do in bed; behaving aggressively isn't okay unless it's something you've agreed together and you have safe words". And talk to him about the messaging sites too, remind him of the conversations we've had before about people not necessarily being what they may appear to be online, don't give anyone your personal real life info, don't swap photos or videos of yourself doing anything private because you don't know what they might do with them. Or should we be letting him have his tablet in his room so he does have some access to stuff that turns him on, or buy him some of those magazines for 'private' use?!? I'm confused and don't want to do anything that will mess him up (although obviously as his parent that is my job, which I'm sure I'm doing wonderfully).