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Straw-poll please - Do you make breakfast for your DH /DP?

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rumginger · 25/10/2017 17:42

I told DH at 8am I would put this on MN and give him feedback, but he has no clue about this really.

I do usually make him breakfast in the mornings because I'm doing it for the DC as well, so fine. However, we're now into the second week of half-term which means I don't strictly need to be up at 6.30, but I'm kind of in the habit and the cats need feeding anyway. So this morning I had made him poached eggs with salmon on muffins and this is what he actually said to me - "Is there no hollandaise sauce with this?"

Firstly, as if anyone can be bothered to be faffing with egg yolks that early. Secondly, I told him most people would be lucky to get breakfast made for them at all. I don't think I am BU, but could MN please confirm that he is on his own planet to even ask such a question?

Thankyou.

OP posts:
Ofthread · 25/10/2017 18:29

Fuck that!

LoniceraJaponica · 25/10/2017 18:29

No. We all make our own. He does, however, bring me a cup of tea in the mornings because he is always up first Grin

On the odd occasion we have a family brunch I will make it, but OH always loads the dishwasher and washes up the non dishwasher stuff.

Dodie66 · 25/10/2017 18:29

Yes. And he makes me breakfast sometimes too

Aquamarine1029 · 25/10/2017 18:30

If we're just having cereal, we get our own, but if it's something to cook I usually do it but I enjoy cooking so I like to do it. However, my husband would never be stupid enough to ask where the fucking hollandaise sauce is. FGS.

Tentomidnight · 25/10/2017 18:31

No. Why would I make him breakfast?
I do sometimes cook brunch for the whole family, but usually it's every man (woman & child) for himself, as it should be.

Gillian1980 · 25/10/2017 18:32

It varies.

If he’s about when I’m making breakfast then I’ll ask him if he wants anything. Otherwise I leave him to sort himself out.

I would be very unimpressed with a comment like that - very rude!

AssassinatedBeauty · 25/10/2017 18:32

No, unless I'm making breakfast at the weekend for all of us. If I do that then DP is doing stuff with the kids as well. If I'd got up when I didn't have to and made DP breakfast he'd be very grateful indeed.

The comment about the sauce... is just so rude. I'd have perhaps taken it off him and told him I'd changed my mind and it was now my breakfast!

LoniceraJaponica · 25/10/2017 18:33

"However, my husband would never be stupid enough to ask where the fucking hollandaise sauce is. FGS."

Neither would mine Grin

gluteustothemaximus · 25/10/2017 18:33

On the weekends in autumn/winter I’ll make porridge for everyone.

During half terms I’ll do a cooked breakfast on weekend.

Otherwise we get our own, or offer if we’re making something. So DH might have toast and tea, and he’ll ask if I want some too.

He gets kids breakfast too.

If you don’t have to get up, I think you could have a longer sleep and your DH can make you something. He sounds spoilt.

Parker231 · 25/10/2017 18:34

During the week everyone fends for themselves and at the weekend we have breakfast at the local coffee shop. I’ve no idea what, if anything DH has for breakfast during the week.

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rumginger · 25/10/2017 18:35

Thankyou for all the responses - it looks like at least 90% are not in the habit of making breakfast for their DH and I did suspect this.

He doesn't get in until about 8.30 normally which I suppose is why I help him out in the mornings and that's fine. What irritates me is that he's the first to admit he has no idea about cooking in general, but then comes out with statements like that. He says things in a quite deadpan way. He's not meaning to be critical, but he's not joking either, it's more that he is clueless.

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DeadGood · 25/10/2017 18:36

Is it possible that your husband has never realised that hollandaise is famously really, really fiddly to make, and doesn't keep?

Like does he think it comes out of a squeezy bottle, like ketchup? Hmm

Jasminedes · 25/10/2017 18:36

No, he brings coffee and toast up to bed most weekend mornings though.

OldWitch00 · 25/10/2017 18:36

We ask and generally take turns. “I’m making scrambled eggs and toast, would you like some” type thing.

ownedbySWD · 25/10/2017 18:37

Neither of us eat breakfast, usually. We make each other a special one for mother's/father's Day with the DC helping.

IAmBreakmasterCylinder · 25/10/2017 18:38

We both work and start at different times so rarely have breakfast together in the week. If we are both here, whoever is making toast will ask if the other wants some.

At weekends one or other of us will make breakfast for everyone.

I am off this week and DH would never expect me to get up and make his breakfast.

BakedBeans47 · 25/10/2017 18:38

No during the week I am up and out before him and at the weekends he’s usually up and out before me.

If we were both around though and I was doing something like eggs/bacon I’d make him some but not likes of cereal/toast

DailyMaui · 25/10/2017 18:40

Nope.

As we both work full time I've found that delegating works best: he does breakfast for the teens, I sort out the meal for that evening and put it in the slow cooker. He goes to work without breakfast but that's his choice, he's perfectly capable of making toast but he faffs about and so it is his loss.

We used to share the breakfast duties at the weekend but the sleepy git has been sleeping in the past few weeks (I work longer hours so this does grate). Consequently he doesn't get breakfast at the weekend either.

If he even suggested hollandaise sauce he'd be wearing it.

AssassinatedBeauty · 25/10/2017 18:41

Do you mean he doesn't get in until 8.30pm? I don't see why that's relevant to the breakfast situation?

zeebeedee · 25/10/2017 18:41

No, I've left for work before he is out of bed! I make mine and DS3's, occasionally put some toast in for DS2 - not sure if DS1 even eats breakfast any more (he is 18)

confusedlittleone · 25/10/2017 18:42

I do weds-sat and he does for me Monday/Tuesday.

OstentatiousWanking · 25/10/2017 18:42

Did he say it from behind a newspaper? All 50s style Grin

Im with a pp. It would have all gone in the bin. Probably why I'm divorced.

PickAChew · 25/10/2017 18:44

Hollandaise? Bugger that.

DH makes breakfast for himself and the boys, if they're up (ds2 usually is, as he tends to be up with the lark) and makes me a cup of camomile to wake up to. I make my own breakfast. I can just about manage not to tip coffee into my muesli or chop bananas into my mug at that point in the day.

steppemum · 25/10/2017 18:45

no.
we don't do cooked breakfasts.
cereal, toast, maybe toasted bagels, maybe croissants.

kids aged 15, 12 and 10 and all help themselves, (and have done for several years)
dh makes his own, I make my own.

We usually do eat at the same time round the kitchen table.

At the weekend I might make pancakes or french toast for everyone. Even my typical teen says 'thank you mum' with a smile.
(he has been drilled into this!)

We do often make each other cup of tea etc

AnathemaPulsifer · 25/10/2017 18:46

Keep a jar of Maille in the fridge...

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