To think my medical notes are confidential

[jessicathecat]

I was recently in hospital and dp picked up my medical notes and started casually leafing through them

He got all huffy when i asked him to stop! Was i being unreasonable?

No, I mesn i am not 18 snd a half. Nearly 10.

The lies and subterfuge that goes on between couples never ceases to amaze me.

@sunandmoonshine

Blimey, it's a bit strange that you are getting so angry :-)

Why are people so angry

Why does he care what weight you are op?

Not normal behaviour between people that have healthy relationships.

kali

I blame Brexit. And Trump. And possibly SAD

He should respect your privacy.

He had no right to get huffy when you told him to stop.

YANBU

Personally I'd be horrified if anyone other than a HCP read my medical records. That doesn't make me less "open" and I am quite irritated by the condescending, slightly sneering tone of some posters on this thread. I actually don't have any deep, dark secrets, but I would be furious if my husband thought he could just leaf through my records without asking.

^This^

I have the right to privacy. I have the right to decide what information about me gets shared and what doesn't. That includes any future dp/h I may have, especially about any confidential medical information.

Im a brexiteer, don't mind trump and was an autumn baby so love this time of year, maybe you need to think again yoda

silverbell

Just me then.....

Hang on???? You don't mind TRUMP!!!! What the hell????

Brittbugs80 "I still feel bad I lost my shit with her!"

I don't blame you for doing that! Did she apologise?

The notes at the bottom of your bed just have the Daily mess, BP, orbs etc. don't they?

It's not your full medical file.

Unless things have changed drastically since I last visited relatives in hospital.

Mil read my notes while in was in hospital. She's made a few sly digs about things in them since. Massive breach of trust.

America is still on the map.

I have read my grandads file in hospital, just as well with the treatment he was getting, it wouldn’t bother me at all, my mum asks me to read notes on consultations with doctors,

Op if you are that bothered complain to the hospital and or don’t bring your husband with you

Quite difficult getting rid of him!

I don't blame you for doing that! Did she apologise

She did to be fair and she stood and took it. I also apologised when I went back to maternity with a gift for my Midwife. Not my proudest moment.

Ah dear. I feel bad now, my sister and I read my Dad's bed notes when he was dying. He had dementia, and would not have had capacity to consent, but anyway was unconscious. It wasn't a deliberate infringement of privacy, we didn't realise it wasn't allowed and wanted to understand a little more about what was happening.

For patients without capacity to consent, and with no POA in place, I guess no one has the right to look at the notes, other than the HCP?

So note at the end of the bed are not the issue at all. Of course they aren't.

Hmmm most things I would be ok with but if he wa rifling through them to get something you would prefer to keep private YANBU. My husband doesn’t know my weight (I am very ashamed of it) although he obviously knows I am v large but I would be upset if he was looking through them trying to find info I would prefer to keep private.

I'll preface this by saying I don't live in the U.K.
My DH has had treatment for cancer and was awful about not giving me full information regarding treatment thinking he was protecting me. Luckily, he's improved but can still be a bit evasive and head in the sand about his health. However, his GP's have cottoned on and now following his appt. phone me if they think he needs nagging to do something. Last time I had an appt. for something for me, I also asked the GP about DH's recent tests and she happily explained the results to me. I passed on the info to DH later that day.
It makes my life so much less stressful knowing I can ask the medics and get full honest answers. DH is also happy that he doesn't have to deal with my anxiety.
My friend also liaises with the GP for her elderly father and her husband. Both of them are hopeless at looking after their health.
I'm so glad I no longer live in the UK!

I think it's only the admission notes that would have your weight? May be wrong on that. Nurses do sometimes leave them on the bed while they toddle off to do something.

The notes are normally at the end of the bed are generally just nurses obs so your temp/BP/oxygen level.

I also have a nosey know-it-all ex. I'm still reaping the repercussions of him blabbing to all and sundry about me when I was in ICU. Clearly I couldn't stop the stupid bastard as I was in a coma, but it was all poor me poor me so now I'm getting people telling me I've been given a second chance at life and randomers who I've never even laid eyes on knowing every bloody detail about my time in ICU. Stupid cunt. I'd happily put him in ICU myself if I had my way.

The only ones who bring your medical notes around to the bed are the doctors.

I'm with you on this one OP.

Meh. Couldn't get worked up about dh reading my medical notes, it's not like I've got anything to hide and it'll all be pretty boring reading anyway.

I think people are getting mixed up between bedside notes and nursing notes. Nursing notes are absolutely confidential and are kept in a locked cabinet.