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To think no you don't look gorgeous with silly dog ears, a silly dog nose and a massive fake tongue

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witchofzog · 23/10/2017 21:38

Stepdaughter is 14. Every few days she posts on Facebook what looks like the same photo with the dog ears and nose and huge tongue. After which she gets 50 or so identical comments saying how gorgeous she looks. But you can't see her. All you can see is the ears etc. It was fun the first few times but I just don't get it. I know it's the thing at the moment but a local girl to me went missing a few months ago and her parents struggled to find a photo of her as she wouldn't let them take any and all she had were the daft Snapchat ones with the ears etc.

I am officially old and am going to need to hide her posts aren't I? I know I definitely did daft things at 14, thankfully without the internet to record it all, but all.these almost daily photos are nearly exactly the same and it's getting so boring Confused

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Bluelonerose · 23/10/2017 21:49

I don't get them either. I don't get selfies either tbh.
My dd tried to get me to do streaks or something but gave up explaining telling me I'm too old.

Santawontbelong · 23/10/2017 21:51

My dd 10 does ones of witch 'accessories' the reality is scarily real!!

honeyroar · 23/10/2017 21:53

At least she's 14 - I know 30yr olds that do it (although they seem to want to be cats😖). I don't get it!

SeaWitchly · 23/10/2017 21:55

YANBU... I bet she does the kissy duck face pout too.

yawn

LolaTheDarkerdestroyer · 23/10/2017 21:56

It is cringe, especially the adults that do their baby’s I find it a bit duster I gotta that you don’t think your baby Is pretty enough they need a filter.

RitaMills · 23/10/2017 21:57

I find the ones that make people look like cartoon characters quite creepy, I get that the filter gives you bright flawless skin but the big sparkly anime eyes look silly and it makes everyone look the same, everyone has weird eyes and silly flower crowns.

Sirzy · 23/10/2017 21:57

I don’t get it either.

What I get even less is when people do it to picture of babies/young children. You can imagine the conversations in 30 years “Mummy why did you have funny ears as a baby?”

NoLoveofMine · 23/10/2017 21:57

She's 14 and she's posting photographs which make her happy, receiving compliments from people which are hopefully also making her happy and good for her confidence. A shame her stepmother is starting threads about her on a forum complaining about it. It's harmless. Adults judging a 14 year old for posting photographs enjoying playing around with filters is lamentable though.

GeillisTheWitch · 23/10/2017 21:57

At least she's 14 - I know 30yr olds that do it

This, I have a colleague in her 40s who posts constant dog filter and flowers on head selfies. At least with a 14 year old you can blame the daftness on youth.

NoLoveofMine · 23/10/2017 21:58

I bet she does the kissy duck face pout too.

What does it matter if she does?

NoLoveofMine · 23/10/2017 21:59

What's "daft" about it? They're filters some people enjoy playing around with. Who cares.

NotAnotherUserName5 · 23/10/2017 22:00

At 14, she can be forgiven. It's adults doing it that look stupid.

C0untDucku1a · 23/10/2017 22:02

We had the same in my local area last week. A child went missong. Police circulated a snapchat filter photo as that was the only one they had. Looked absolutely nothing lile her when a real photo emerged. And it made her look significantly older. Not at all useful.

mimi14 · 23/10/2017 22:04

I'll take the dog filter any day over the ones DSD (16) and her friends all seem to do... Cover 3/4 of their face with their hand! Wtf?! Each photo has lots of "gawjus bbz" comments... How can you tell? You can just about see her right eye 😂

DioneTheDiabolist · 23/10/2017 22:04

I agree withat Nolove. It's just silly pics and a harmless enough teen trend. If you don't like them scroll on down.

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witchofzog · 23/10/2017 22:05

Yes to those who mention adults doing it and to babies too. The big eye thing makes people look like aliens imo

*noloveofmine" I seem to have hit a raw nerve. This is an anonymous forum where people can complain about things they think are ridiculous. I do not say it in real life to her or anyone else, so no harm done

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NoLoveofMine · 23/10/2017 22:06

Exactly Dione. All the better if friends are complimenting one another. It's nice for friends to raise one another's confidence and make one another happy.

NoLoveofMine · 23/10/2017 22:07

There's nothing ridiculous about it. She's 14 and posting photographs of herself using filters she finds enjoyable. Friends are then praising her photos. Sounds positive all round to me.

mammmamia · 23/10/2017 22:09

Think your thread is mean and agree with nolove
She's 14. Why start a thread and bitch about her? I think those filters are daft too but I wouldn't call out a teenager on it.
Do you remember what it was like to be 14 OP? It's not a nice age for girls.

NoLoveofMine · 23/10/2017 22:14

Indeed mammmamia and her friends are posting comments complimenting her photographs and being supportive. Hopefully this is all helping her spirits and making her happy. It's nice and I can't see how anyone could get angry over it, let alone her stepmother.

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witchofzog · 23/10/2017 22:14

But also in all seriousness there is quite a sinister undertone to this sort of thing sometimes. Sdd has actually told me it's often a measure of popularity at her school. If you don't get many likes and comments then you are not popular. She posts at "peak.times" to maximise the likes she gets and she has often asked me and her dad to like her photos to increase her likes. She told me about a friend of hers who was devastated because she had copy pasted a status asking people to.comment on one thing they didn't like about her. She said she could take it. But she couldn't. It is actually quite sad what teens these days have to.put themselves through

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SuperBeagle · 23/10/2017 22:16

Sure, but that has absolutely nothing to do with the Snapchat dog filter...

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witchofzog · 23/10/2017 22:16

mamma Mia if you read my op you will see that I have already said what I was like at 14. Equally as daft. Luckily with no internet to record anything

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NoLoveofMine · 23/10/2017 22:17

witchofzog whilst it's somewhat linked that's a separate issue and not what you initially posted about. That kind of pressure is very difficult to avoid but wasn't mentioned in your initial post. Most importantly I hope the girl local to you who went missing was found safe.