Background - Colin and Betty spent Christmas alternating between their families with their 1 DC. They spent Christmas with Colin’s family in 2014 then split up in 2015. Not wanting to miss seeing the DC, they spent Christmas in 2015 with Betty’s parents. By this point, Betty was seeing Alan who spent Christmas 2015 with his former PIL and his 1 DC. Alan’s family are all based overseas.
Come Christmas 2016, Alan and Betty were on a break but Betty was newly pregnant with their DC. It was Colin’s turn to go to his family but he chose to stay at home and invited Betty to spend Christmas with him and their DC. Separately Alan decided to go with his DC overseas to see his parents. During 2017, Alan and Betty reconciled and now live together with Alan’s DC, Betty’s DC and their new baby.
Here is the WWYD...
Alan’s sister, Diana, did not go and visit him Christmas 2016 as she was at her DH’s family so she booked flights to come for Christmas 2017. Alan’s parents were invited but declined due to cost of flights.
This would be Betty’s year to take her DC to visit her parents. Betty offered Colin to swap so he had their DC this year and Betty and Alan could go to her parents next year. Colin agreed and Betty’s parents agreed 2018 for hosting and made alternative plans for 2017.
Diana has now cancelled her visit as her MIL died so Alan and Betty are left without visitors or Betty’s DC who will be away with Colin. Alan’s parents and Diana want to visit next year or have Alan and Betty go and visit with the children but Betty has agreed to go to her parents.
WWYD?
Further info....
Betty’s family live reasonably local and visit/babysit regularly
Betty will have her first DC on alternate years now despite having the last two with Colin and DC
Alan’s family haven’t included him in other family occasions which he is sad about
Alan’s family are a long haul flight and a visit is booked for A, B plus DC to visit in Summer 2018
Diana’s DH didn’t want to visit before his DM died
Alan and his parents think Betty should have spent Christmas 2016 with her parents instead of with Colin
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turkeystuffing · 23/10/2017 11:39
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