To be surprised at the things people judge others for?

[brasty]

One of the things I have learned from MN is how judgemental some people are. I frequently read threads on here where people are judging others for things that would not even have crossed my mind. I have hated realising just how judgemental some people are about minor things that do not affect them at all.

We're all judgemental about other people it's whether we voice it aloud or not that makes a difference. I judge people for swearing around kids, having babies ears pierced, doing the school run in pyjamas etc etc.

I secretly think to myself WTF are you thinking but then carry on with my day as it doesn't really affect me but I've still silently judged

Such as?

We all judge, all the time. But most of us stay silent unless a crime is being committed. That's life.

Is this from the pj's at a hotel breakfast thread? If so I agree.

I judge people who post almost their entire lives on Facebook.

I judge materialistic people - show ponies.

I judge "nice people" who are secretly bullies to others.

I know we all judge. I just find it depressing the triviality of what is judged.

I have a toilet brush. Im judged by half of MN.

Human nature is to judge

YANBU I have also been amazed at the things people get upset and outraged at. Such strong opinions on anything from a kids party, parking at the supermarket, to how you choose to feed your baby.

ostentatious This post is triggered by a few posts. That one and the awful way some people were talking about the children. The face book one and a few commentators being so disdainful.
So it isn't just the case of people slightly judging, it is the absolute disdain and disgust for people making fairly trivial life choices different to you.

Because when people do things differently to you, it feels like they are challenging your view that your way is correct, so you feel compelled to react.

That's judging.

I try really hard not to. Years of my dm doing a cats bum mouth whenever anyone says toilet, lounge, pardon etc does rub off though. I'm not thinking any less of anyone when they say such things but I think in the back of my mind I've been programmed to sort of categorise people iyswim.

I agree, obviously people are judgey but I read things sometimes and think I don't have the energy to be so bothered about half of these.

I really really don't understand feeling such strong disgust and disdain for people doing perfectly ordinary things.

You would hate the 'no no no no' thread. There is a huge amount of vitriol and anger on there mainly directed towards people who are doing absolutely nothing wrong.

The one that really got to me was a thread not so long ago in which hoards of posters lined up to judge a woman for the apparently heinous crime of reading to her child. In public!

Lethal I understand people being slightly irritated by minor annoyances. So I don't like people swearing around kids. But I don't feel disdain or vitroil for them. It registers as a - I wouldn't do that - and then I forget about it.

Tisapity How dare she! Hang the woman for the crime of doing something very ordinary.

I agree. Being on mn has made me realise that I don't care about an awful lot of things others think are reprehensible. I think this is one of the reasons I get less stressed at work than my colleagues, who are forever going on about how stupid other people are. It must be exhausting being so judgemental!

Human nature is to judge

Doesn't mean you can't help it though.

That 'no no no' thread is horrible. I stopped reading it in despair. I've read SO MANY threads on here criticising the pronunciation of words, where it is clear to anyone with half a fucking brain that it's a question of regional accents/dialects. There was so much angst about people pronouncing 'draw' and 'drawer' the same. If you come from the south east of England, they do sound the same. If you come from other places in the UK, you'd say it differently, the words would sound distinct. It's not that one is better than the other, it's just accents!

There are a lot of nasty, judgemental people on Mumsnet (as there are everywhere). It's depressing!

Aren’t you technically judging people for how they judge people?

[yes] But I do find it sad.

I always find it quite surprising how many threads there are about (here and elsewhere) about people doing pretty harmless stuff that can easily be ignored. Like using Facebook in a slightly different way to the OP or struggling with spelling. There was one once about how people pronounce the letter "H" which was very odd, I don't get how that could ever bother anybody.
But people judge. It makes no difference to me if my dyslexia annoys people or if photos of my children on Facebook are considered fake or something but the person getting wound up might want to chill out a little bit.

Meh. Sometimes (on here and in rl) I think people judge too much, other instances not enough.