Is MIL's slice of cake a bit stingy? (Picture)

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MIL is a lovely women really, but positively enjoys being frugal and detests any excess in all its forms.

She's baked us a lovely cake, but is determined for it to last for as long as possible. She is the master slice cutter and won't let anyone else near it.

AIBU to be a bit disappointed with the size of this slice?

(Everyone disappeared into the other room, so I was able to take this sneaky photo with handy scale provided by new pound coin!)

I'm not a cake fan but that is small.

My gran does similar, she's financially stable and has been most her life but grew up poor (shes 80) and its affected her.

It's just food though, the same week she helped us with buying a not cheap car she complained about my mam getting curry and peas with her fish and chips. It was too extravagant and should have been one or the other.

Op I read this before going to Sainsburys to buy this for Sunday dinner - thanks to you I also bought cake —and have eaten it—

OP,

If your MIL has a sense of humour, and wouldn't take offence, call her bluff: a doll's house miniature as an extra Xmas present?
(Even their portions are bigger than hers ).

Something along these lines:
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Just say 'yes, it's lovely! Thanks for letting me try it before you gave me my proper slice!'

That's the size of slice I know I should have, not the size I cut myself

That’s one third of the size I eat of cake. Pointless.

My bouche would not be amoosed.

cake is a treat, not for every day

Naaaaah. If you eat a Standard 3 healthy meals of plates of veg, palm sized protein, hand sized carb - then a decent wedge of cake, or chocolate bar or bag of crisps or glass of wine is totally fine.

If you eat shite all day then cake is a treat.

I only clicked on the thread to read the 'it would take me a week to eat a slice of cake that size' and rants about vanity sizing but I'm disappointed!

I think I'd get the inappropriate giggles if someone offered me food that small and it wasn't a canapé. Especially if they have form. You need to get bets going beforehand as to the size of cake.

Sometimes I feel like I'm not a properly functioning human as I don't like cake at all. I've now started admitting it and stopped forcing a mouthful in before stuffing the rest in my handbag when no one is looking.

at homeopathic! And ilegal!

For those that want to know, it's apple cake made from home grown apples.

I didn't ask for a medium slice, I was told "is a medium slice good for you?" And I got the sense I had no choice but to say yes!

Very nice squidgy cake I can report.

At least you get offered some. MIL usually says to me “you won’t want any, will you?” Or at best “just a small piece?”

Which is just fucking rude, really. The assumption is because I’m female, I’m watching my weight.

Apple cake = fruit = virtually fruit salad.

So, yes, is "good for you".

(That's my logic for Fig Rolls, and I'm sticking to it).

Skinny cake. No. It's. Just. Not. Right.

^ Gah...I missed out the bit about adding banana bread, date & walnut loaf etc...and it'd virtually be a healthy fruit salad.

Ruined the joke.

You should have resounded with “fuck no, if I’m going to eat cake then I’m going to do it PROPERLY , cut it thick lady and push it my way, “

She's also not bothered icing it the cheeky mare!

My mil would serve that to a female,with comment you don’t want to get fat!
She’d serve a male 10x that with comment you work sooo hard dear

haha!! maybe she prefers to give several small pieces so nothing goes to waste?? but yes, i would want something much bigger than that

That's ridiculous. YANBU

My Mum used to serve portions like that, " to make it last longer" ! It used to make my DH laugh. His Mum always serves up nice chunky portions!

That's the stingy piece left when you've fucked up the slicing.

Apple cake?? There's not even enough there to count as one of your 5 a day

OMFG it reminds me of the time I went for Christmas dinner at the ILs and they thought it was ok to serve us all 1 chicken breast, 3 tiny boiled potatoes, 4 sprouts, a table spoon of carrots and a tablespoon of peas... Nothing got put on the table and we weren't allowed to help ourselves to anything at all. There were no seconds, because they had cooked so little, and we had the tinest mince pies for pudding, 1 each... This wasnt unusual, I had got used to taking stashes of cereal bars to prevent stomach rumbling hunger on previous visits.

The next time we went over Christmas I cooked, with substantially larger portions.

Now you tell me it's apple not fruit cake that's different.

Oh and I really want a protractor cake plate now. Christmas pressie sorted.

I grew up on these portions It was also with the constant judging that people who ate bigger portions than that would drop down dead. I feel really sorry for my Dad who was over a foot taller than Mum and did quite a physical job yet still got rations at home. Both were born nearly a decade after rationing finished. He would stop at a shop and buy, which we couldn't really afford at times, enough food, often really unhealthy choices. Who actually has half a can of curry for tea and a small portion of rice after a hard days work? Then she pushed him into sweeteners instead of sugar, poo poohed my general concerns, have you seen the report that links extreme dementia with sweeteners, guess what's happened to my Dad?

Butter and cream (replaced with evaporated milk) were never bought, a nice victoria sponge made with margarine with margarine icing was a treat. All cake is cut into slices just thick enough to hold them selves together. Everything, always was rationed for health and/or financial reasons, which ever made most sense to Mum. I get there wasn't much money when I was a DC but as an adult Mum even rations the food I buy and put in the fridge for my DC. Who wants a sandwich with a quarter of a tin of tuna salad cream in it?

We all became secret binge eaters to try and avoid the judging from DM. But then we were over weight so the judging continued. My Dad is finally the correct weight now he has been in a home for some time, away from DM. I did manage to remain a healthy weight for many years until the dc were born, two stone to go! DM, well she spent her whole life telling us she was overweight, never once lost it though. I was 25 when DM said she would start buying fun toys now, for other dc, and 30 when DM informed me fashion could be fun It is a dull existence and smugness is her only joy. DM no longer gets almost hysterical about DS1 eating an egg a day, because a woman in the war became ill and eventually confessed it was because she was eating 8+ eggs a day every day for months. Along with all beds must be hard or you will have a bad back. And washing all my HH wired bras and lambs wool jumpers in the machine, destroying them, even though I had asked her NOT to wash my clothes.
OP YANBU it's controlling and smug.

I think I'd rather have no cake. Like if someone offers you a crisp from their packet. Noone can eat one crisp...whats the point?!