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Original poster

Hairzilla 2

405 replies

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 21/10/2017 11:08

Thankyou so much for so much support over the previous threads.

I thought a lot about how to respond to F1.
I told her without a proper talk I dont think I can put it behind us.
She suggested we meet up tonight after Ive finished work so we can talk properly.
F2&3 have agreed to be there so another repeat of her flying off the handle doesnt happen.

This time around Im hoping for an explaination and an apology now shes had time to calm down.

OP posts:
MyfatheristheKing · 21/10/2017 21:31

Sorry to hear that, but I think everyone will not be that surprised. Hope your other friends are with you

bettytaghetti · 21/10/2017 21:32

Has CF had some sort of head trauma recently? How can she not realise that with a bit of grovelling she could have made this all go away? What do F2 & F3 think of her after tonight?

geologyrocks · 21/10/2017 21:32

Hope youre ok op

KitKat1985 · 21/10/2017 21:32

Oh sorry Kung. x

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 21/10/2017 21:33

Sadly I'm not surprised. You should be proud of yourself. You gave her many many chances to redeem herself. No one can say you didn't give this friendship every chance of survival

Hope f2 and 3 are with you. Take care Flowers

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KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 21/10/2017 21:33

Her apology wasnt really an apology.
I believe it was along the lines of
" I meant everything I said, but Im sorry if it upset you " Hmm

It boiled down to because Im finicially better off than her (shes a SAHM but husband works) I should have done the donation as a favour too her. Instead I made her look ridiculous and cheap. I wouldnt understand what its like living in a household where only one adults income comes in.

She brought up how shes done everything for me, F2 asked her to name one thing shes done for me. She couldnt name one single thing.

Bit more sob stories, name calling and Im priviliged Hmm and should share it amongst others.

It was an elightening moment for me, that after all these years of friendship she couldnt think of one thing shes done for me and I couldnt either.

OP posts:
Veterinari · 21/10/2017 21:35

So basically she’s jealous that you run a successful business and thinks she’s entitled to benefit from your hard work?

Hugs Kung

FizzyGreenWater · 21/10/2017 21:36

☹️

Really sorry.

You're totally in the right but it still must feel shit xxx

MadForlt · 21/10/2017 21:36

Privileged? Because you actually get off your arse and run a business and have a husband that works? She clearly has no clue how much work that running a business actually involves.

You are well rid IMO. How are F2 and F3 feeling about the whole thing?

Ellendegeneres · 21/10/2017 21:36

What a cunt. You're well rid.
Much better person than me, I wouldn't have given it the time of day. Massive hugs Flowers sorry she is that person

FiveGoMadInDorset · 21/10/2017 21:36

Sorry to hear this, hope F2 and F3 stay friends with you

ArchchancellorsHat · 21/10/2017 21:36

It;s not privilege - you work! Nasty cow. No wonder she always enjoyed turning up at closing time and expecting you to stay late - she was jealous. F2 sounds like a real keeper though.

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 21/10/2017 21:37

What do f2 and f3 think now

Can they be friends with her after all this?

I'm so sorry

BewareOfDragons · 21/10/2017 21:37

Wow. That would be enlightening.

I'm sorry she didn't turn out to be a friend at all, OP. But I'm glad you have F2 and F3 who are clearly true friends.

Dobopdidoo1 · 21/10/2017 21:37

Good riddance. You need her like a hole in the head.

Aeroflotgirl · 21/10/2017 21:37

Says it all really, she is a CF of the highest order and just not get it. Good for F2 for being there and supporting you. I think the others will see what she is like and pull back from her. She a jealous and spiteful.

GabsAlot · 21/10/2017 21:38

wow and hav f2 and 3 cut with her aswell
so your better off than her coz u both hav jobs

does she know your personal finances

even if you were sh volunteered your services without asking first why cant she see that

OuaisMaisBon · 21/10/2017 21:39

So she just ignored the bit where she didn't ask (or even tell) you about making a donation on your behalf and making it look as if she'd paid for it? Unbelievably bad behaviour on her part.

Aeroflotgirl · 21/10/2017 21:39

You have worked for what you have, and she could have the same if she put the effort in. I hope the others see her for who she is.

KeepItAsItIs · 21/10/2017 21:40

What a fucking bitch!

At least tou hsve seen her true colours and what she really thinks of you. Just know that you are the far better person here and she has come out of it looking like an absolute bell end.

BelleandBeast · 21/10/2017 21:40

To think all that seething resentment was there, how awful.

No matter what she thought, she should have asked and not presumed. She still hasn't got it has she? Wine Cake

HashiAsLarry · 21/10/2017 21:41

The jealousy was definitely all hers.

I hope f2 and f3 are questioning whether to remain friends with her. Self entitled twat.

Sorry you've found this out the hard way.

Kintan · 21/10/2017 21:45

How did she explain ignoring your messages when you found out what she was up to? And how did that fit in with her narrative about how you owe her because of your success? Very odd behaviour, I’m glad you have F2 and F3 backing you up! If F1 is so upset about having only one income, why doesn’t she get a job? Hope your faith in humanity isn’t too shaken by this whole situation!

MumW · 21/10/2017 21:45

What an idiot. Presumably she chose to be a SAHM. She could easily choose to get a job if she feels her household income needs a boost.

Flowers I know from personal experience that it really hurts when a long term friendship ends even when the ex-friend is a CF of the highest order.Flowers

AtrociousCircumstance · 21/10/2017 21:47

Wow. The scales haven't fallen from your eyes - they have been ripped off by her fuckwitted, entitled, envious crap. You can see her in all her glory now. Ugh!

It's so hard but you are validated by F2 and F3 and you are now free of someone who never had your best interests at heart.