Hairzilla 2

[KungFuPandaWorksOut16]

Thankyou so much for so much support over the previous threads.

I thought a lot about how to respond to F1.
I told her without a proper talk I dont think I can put it behind us.
She suggested we meet up tonight after Ive finished work so we can talk properly.
F2&3 have agreed to be there so another repeat of her flying off the handle doesnt happen.

This time around Im hoping for an explaination and an apology now shes had time to calm down.

Good luck.

You're a better person than I, OP. I'd just think 'fuck her' and walk away.

Good luck for later.

Hope it goes well.

If you feel your canker rising take deep breaths. Don’t speak without taking 2 or 3 controlled breaths first. Don’t allow yourself to get dragged into a fight.

Taking a few deep breaths calms your brain, you may not feel it but it does.

Another one wishing you luck. And glad you've got Fs2 and 3 to watch your back.

Actually, I think you hold all the cards here... I think F1 has realized she's not only on the brink of losing your friendship, but that she's alienating herself from her other friends AND potentially the PTA and other mums at the school.

Therefore, I think you'll be under pressure (I suspect a LOT of pressure) from F1 to "forgive and forget" and to "move on".

But just as a reminder, you don't have to be bullied into anything. It's fine to say something like "....I'm still too hurt to react to this now, but I'll think about what you've said and come back to you in a few days".

I think the notes thing is fine. You can always put them in a pocket and check them quietly when you go to the loo.

Going to also cheekily suggest you don't drink too much tonight, so that the drink doesn't take over and speak for you. You can always have a glass or bottle once you get home

Unless the first thing she does is apologise profusely for her appalling and outrageous behaviour, I can't see how this "talk"can go anywhere. Do NOT apologise for anything OP!!

I've been thinking about one of my CF Ex-friends who after some outrageous behaviour was dropped. Things ended badly between us and I'm sad about that and miss her. She did make efforts to renew our friendship but I initially ignored them as I felt I needed some admission from her that she'd acted badly. We are superficially friends again.

The thing is though, she hasn't changed; her facebook shows the same pattern of behaviour. I wasn't happy with her behaviour for a while but it was the major CF-ery that forced me to act in the end. Without it we could have continued for years with her continuing to take advantage and abuse our friendship. A part of me is glad we fell out and I hadn't fully realised that until reading some of the CF threads on MN.

Best of luck for this evening Kung

Good luck!

Best of Luck. I

Good luck tonight, I’ll be thinking of you. Lots of good advice here! Deep breaths and rise above any nonsense, you have absolutely nothing to apologise for.

Good luck - you're very tolerant - I wouldn't even entertain a second meet up !

Good luck Kung. You're so lovely, I can't see any way forward though, she's behaved in an appalling way to you, unforgivable. I mean the initial cheek, then she made it worse, then coming to have a go at you in your salon... personally I wouldn't be seeing her today or any other, she could fuck right off. No interest in her excuses, any apology will be a fake one. She is a shitty person, and you know that about her now, so going forward even if you're civil, please don't ever do her any favours, share anytime with her, confide in her etc. She's the type to use anything she can to get back at you for showing her up as the tosser she is.

Does she know Fs2&3 are going to be there. That’s going to put her right on the defensive. I’m another in the don’t expect an apology camp. She’s going to try and justify her POV again. Brace yourself.

I've been following the last threads and just wanted to wish you luck! The way you've handled this has been brilliant!

Good luck! I think she will come expecting you to apologise and take the hump when you don't accept her generous offer to accept your apology.

Hold your ground.

Good luck, although I don't know if I'd be able to get over it and forgive her even if she apologised. Like you've said, she's shown a horrible side to herself and I wouldn't be sure if I even wanted to bother with the friendship.

Good luck ..thinking of you.. ( more like hopelessly over invested in this thread but there you go.,..)

Good luck. Do.not. Apologise. Let her do all the talking. I could never forgive and forget personally. After all, you're 'dead' to her. That's pretty horrible.

What time are you meeting?

Hope it's not too harrowing, and neither drinks nor punches are thrown, Kungfu.

I don't think you should meet her. Sorry. By meeting her, you're giving her power. You're telling her that she can do all that to you, and yet you're still willing to possibly give her another chance.

Setting off to meet her soon. Doing it a pub near my salon. Dont want to feel threatened or intimated on my own property again.

Wish me luck!

Good luck!