Hairzilla 2

[KungFuPandaWorksOut16]

Thankyou so much for so much support over the previous threads.

I thought a lot about how to respond to F1.
I told her without a proper talk I dont think I can put it behind us.
She suggested we meet up tonight after Ive finished work so we can talk properly.
F2&3 have agreed to be there so another repeat of her flying off the handle doesnt happen.

This time around Im hoping for an explaination and an apology now shes had time to calm down.

You're well rid KungFu, a jealous friend is no friend at all.

You're probably feeling relief right now. Relief that you aren't crazy and that someone else has witnessed her behaviour. Not that you won't feel upset later on, losing a friend is quite like losing a relationship. You will grieve.

F1 is probably waiting for you all to grovel to her now. When non if you do I imagine she'll creep back in and attempt to sweep it under the carpet again.

Be sure to show her the price list if she rocks up at your salon again.

Sometimes friendships can weigh us down and we don't even realize it. Especially when the friendships are long standing. Habits and behaviours creep up so slowly we don't even know it's happening. Plus, we make excuses and normalize because 'she's my friend, she can't mean anything by it!'.

This is a very minor thing, but I have a dear friend and I never realized how bloody much she talked (about herself) until she moved away and all our conversations became by phone. We're still friends but I have to admit that I don't answer her calls unless I have at least an hour to spare.

Acrossthepond You're right, the same thing has happened to me twice now.

Kung You're an angel and she's an idiot. Sounds like you're well rid of her!

Well done. Sorry you've lost a friendship but you obviously didn't mean as much to her and in the long term it is better for you, and your friends that she's out of your lives after.treating you so badly.

I must say you handled the whole situation very well. I'm not sure if have been so strong.

None of us have heard from her since last night and no passive aggressive statuses neither

You mean she hasn't blocked you all yet?

Well it would have been a real miracle if she'd backed down and apologised after all she's done this week. She's clearly so up her own backside that she can't see anything.

Your real friends have stood by your side and supported you. The PTA have understood and you've still shown yourself to be kind by donating anyway. You don't need her.

She'll be waiting for you all to realise how much you miss her and come running back.

Do you think her DH supports what she has done? He may be being kept in the dark, but will surely notice when his wife has three less friends than she used to have.

After all the hassle from my CF Ex-friend; she didn't really put any spin on her bad behaviour. I can only think she didn't actually realise what she'd done was so terrible. She eventually went quiet about it after I presume other's had not responded as she'd expected. She'd obviously told people more at first as they were coming up to me asking 'Did she really....' Later on they were asking me what had happened as she wouldn't give them any details. She never lied about anything.

It took about 2 months for her to get in contact but I ignored her calls at first. She never apologised.

Fizzy

She'll waft in for a free hair cut fo sure.

She'll waft in for a free hair cut fo sure.

agree, eventually she will just turn up as if nothing happened. In her head she will never have done anything wrong so everyone should just carry on as usual. Might be worth having a line in your head ready for when your paths cross again. Sorry you lost a longstanding friend over her insecurity and need to impress.

did she even justify not paying the £15 following F2 and F3 contribution?

What will happen to the person who wins the prize? Have I missed that bit?

@caroline161 the prize is an updo which can be a few things but I can’t remember what x

tiny I'm sure in her mind she thought it was completely unjustified that she would have to pay for 'her freebie' .

I don't think you've heard the last of her. I think she will claim to all parents that the donation of updo is still hers and I wouldn't be surprised if she won/got the winner to gift her the prize just so she can waltz in and gloat.

No she hasnt blocked us. Only one status, about how her life has changed massively and shes heartbroken by the change but shes strong so will cope.

If she came to my salon I definitley wouldnt be doing her hair, even if she had massive roots and horrendous split ends

Blimey, I would have deleted her by now, I am surprised she hasen't deleted you. Playing the victim, my goodness your well rid of this CF.

Only one status, about how her life has changed massively and shes heartbroken by the change but shes strong so will cope.

Actual audible, literal LOL.

KungfuPanda... you're a credit to the Trade....

Comment on her stupid PA status something like 'Oh FFS, eyeroll' then block her.

She hasn't blocked you because she's wanting you to see things like that status, while at the same time not wanting to completely burn her bridges as she'll come waltzing back the next time she wants something.

I would get in first and block her.She how she likes that.