Hairzilla 2

[KungFuPandaWorksOut16]

Thankyou so much for so much support over the previous threads.

I thought a lot about how to respond to F1.
I told her without a proper talk I dont think I can put it behind us.
She suggested we meet up tonight after Ive finished work so we can talk properly.
F2&3 have agreed to be there so another repeat of her flying off the handle doesnt happen.

This time around Im hoping for an explaination and an apology now shes had time to calm down.

Sorry to hear she's been such an idiot Kung, I almost feel sorry for her tbh, she's totally shot herself in the foot and has no one to blame but herself.

I'd like to think the whole thing hadn't left you feeling shitty because you really don't deserve to feel shitty but you're a kind, decent person so I know it will have had an effect on you. I hope you won't dwell on it though, you were absolutely not in the wrong here and the outcome is on her head, not yours

I'm so sorry to hear this, however in the long run you're probably better off. I can't see from what you've said that you've done anything wrong. It seems as if she has made her self implode because you guys weren't pandering to her every whim.

I fell out with my BF around 3 years ago, initially it really did feel like a grieving process as I missed her but I got over it. As did she, we're now civil if we meet and if we're out in a large group socially she's fine with me and vice versa. However, I never meet her in a small group or 1;1. Apparently she's voiced through mutual friends that she's sorry things have turned out this way. I'm not, really I'm relieved. And given time I think you will be too.

I am so sorry to hear it Kung

What an absolute embarrassment! Fuck her!

brilliant.

Like, actually, there's nothing here to rescue.

What an absolute twat of a woman. Her, not you. As if hat needed clarifying.

God never fails to amazing in these CF threads, how much the CF assumes that the other persons finances means that they owe them something, it’s mind boggling!

Best off without this non friend.

I am always pleased when people stick up for themselves and stop rolling out the doormat and learn the lessons faster than dh and I learned them. It really is a shame the women from his former friendship group couldn’t bring themselves to like me and could only be jealous. He met them after he met me but they still wanted him for themselves.

Once we moved abroad, we had regular parties. They were lavish affairs, legendary and awesome but they just used to take the piss, some behaved appallingly (including having sex with someone other than their partner and leaving the evidence in my bathroom bin -ew). They bitched about me in my own home to dhs work colleague and generally arrived empty handed. None of them could bring themselves to thank me for my hospitality.

When one of them went to far, I challenged her. Their reaction was quite an eye opener for dh.

She's going to get a shock when she has to pay full price for her next hairdo, isn't she? (And I hope they butcher it!)

DancesWithOtters just hit the nail on the head OP but I'm so sorry for you

Wow, what a bitch! I think you have had a lucky escape, nobody needs people like that in their lives.

I hppe you are ok

You know what, though, Panda - at least it's all out in the open, your other friends were there to see how it played out, NONE of you could think of anything that F1 had done for you Ever (and now they're probably wondering if she ever did anything for them either!).

Yes, she's a twat, yes, she's also an entitled wanker who clearly has envy issues. I'd say good riddance to her, tbh - but I would keep a weather eye open for any backlash in terms of her badmouthing you or your business - at least the PTA lady knows the truth of the situation and should be able to make things clear with anyone at school, but still, watch out.

I still can't believe she couldn't see that she was completely in the wrong though - that's some impressive level of delusion!

You haven't lost a friend, you've lost a user. I'm glad f2 and f3 are standing by you, they sound like real friends. Hope you're ok.

The thing about CF is though, for all her faults (arrogance, selfishness, delusion etc.), underlying it all is insecurity about herself and she actually admires you, whether she can admit it or not. You were good enough for her to use as a service (discounts or not), and good enough for her to want to show off her contacts with for a top prize.
Anyway she’s not a friend and you can walk away with your head held high.

Like PressPaws says above, you haven't really lost a friend. She was never a true friend in the first place. Your bond with F2&F3 is stronger due to them having stood by you. Overall that's a win.

She was never your friend Kung, you were clearly a meal ticket to her so you’ve not lost anything, you’ll actually gain from her fuckwittery.
If only you’d slow clapped her entitled arse out the door, how satisfying that would have been for you 😂

What's happened to F4? Is she still friends with CF.

Fortunately you had F2 & F3 to witness this, & none of you really imagined she would back down.
So now she will be dissing you on fb.
Who is collecting the voucher from "Kung hair shop" ?

What a silly cunt. You're well rid of her.

Couldn't have put it better myself. I'm aghast at her behaviour. Absolutely unbelievable!!

Good grief. How are you feeling about it all now?

Blimey she is proper jealous isn't she

Meh the 3 of you are best off without her

So - she is going to tell all her friends that she donated one of her own discounts/freebies. And you 'wouldn't accept' that.

The Colour/Cut expense of it will not come up. The 'donating without telling you' will not come up. The fact that it is right before Christmas (your busiest time) will not come up.

Keep a close eye on her, OP. If your salon is mentioned, you must get on that straight away.

Tbh if I thought that a salon was going to donate a c&c which was then changed to an "updo", I wouldn't think anything of it-other than that they didn't have the time/money for a c&c.

It wouldn't put me off going there if I already did or using it for a first time if I wanted to.

How could people be stupid enough to think that she could donate a c&c?

Look after yourself Kung .

Oh honey. Sending you very big unmumsnetty hugs. That sucks but it really does sound as if you’re better off without her.
I’ve been through a similar experience but mine was played out behind closed doors so no one else witnessed what a CF and absolute bitch my ex best friend really was. That meant that she could put her own, unique spin when telling the story to mutual friends.

This way - you’ve got both back-up and support, which is wonderful for you.

I reckon you’ll probably go through some kind of grieving process after the initial shock/anger wears off. DO NOT CONTACT HER AT THAT STAGE!! You’ll regret it if you do!