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Hairzilla 2

405 replies

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 21/10/2017 11:08

Thankyou so much for so much support over the previous threads.

I thought a lot about how to respond to F1.
I told her without a proper talk I dont think I can put it behind us.
She suggested we meet up tonight after Ive finished work so we can talk properly.
F2&3 have agreed to be there so another repeat of her flying off the handle doesnt happen.

This time around Im hoping for an explaination and an apology now shes had time to calm down.

OP posts:
Blackcatonthesofa · 21/10/2017 22:45

At least you discovered who your real friends are. You deserve better OP. Flowers

Motoko · 21/10/2017 22:46

So basically, because you work and she doesn't, she's entitled to some of your wages. You can bet if the situation were reversed, she'd change her tune.

Well, it's over now. Take some time to allow yourself to grieve for the loss of the friendship you thought you had, and walk with your head held high.

Flowers
knowsmorethansnow · 21/10/2017 22:47

Wow your well out op, you don’t need ppl who just shit all over you. Horrible story but she has shown her true colours.

LagunaBubbles · 21/10/2017 22:47

Aw that's rubbish, she still can't- or won't see what she did was wrong.

Jux · 21/10/2017 23:01

I’m sorry, Kung, that is just so horrid. At least the 3 of you have been dumped together.

dustarr73 · 21/10/2017 23:03

You are well rid.Celebrate rather than been done in the dumps.You are CF free.

CarpeVitam · 21/10/2017 23:10

That’s a really sad update Kung. Hope you are ok. Hugs Flowers

CarpeVitam · 21/10/2017 23:11

Oh, and sorry for the hurt you must be feeling x

RandomMess · 21/10/2017 23:14

Still hurts doesn’t Flowers so glad F2 & F3 have your back.

HughLauriesStubble · 21/10/2017 23:17

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GabsAlot · 21/10/2017 23:19

how though hugh sh annoucnd it hrself on fb and everyone seems to know about it

Schmoopy · 21/10/2017 23:23

I wonder what all those posters who thought you should have 'honoured' her promise for the sake of the 'friendship' make of it now.

Storminateapot · 21/10/2017 23:28

Just as I thought. This has blown the lid off a long-standing seething jealousy and resentment that she perceives you have more than her. She can't stand it and feels you should pay, that's why she wouldn't stump up £15 - why should she when you can shell it out without blinking?

She is not your friend. Friends celebrate each others' achievements and feel glad for them doing well. They don't secretly resent it and assume themselves entitled to shares. I'm so sorry for you, but she has used you for mates rates & freebies all this time whilst secretly despising and resenting you. At least the whole festering mess is now revealed, what a vile person she is.

TathitiPete · 21/10/2017 23:28

Well, you have to hand one thing to her at least. She's certainly committed. Committed to beng a twatbadger, unfortunately.
Wine OP

MoveOnTheCards · 21/10/2017 23:30

Sorry to hear it's come to this Kung but well done on staying strong. She's acted like a dick and has properly backed herself into a corner. Hopefully it's self-shame that's driven her this far.

I'm glad you, along with F2 and F3 have stood firm (but totally fair). I'm sure she'll come crawling back, eventually. She'd be very lucky if you'd have her though.

Flowers
UnicornSparkles1 · 21/10/2017 23:39

Sorry you had to find out what a nasty piece of work she truly is. I hope you're okay x

TwentyFive · 21/10/2017 23:40

Well done for standing up for yourself but how sad for F1. She sounded very insecure to be trying to impress the PTA in the first place. How silly to have thrown away her closest friendships over something that could have easily been sorted out. Flowers to you OP.

Whinesalot · 21/10/2017 23:49

I must ask some of my better off friends to subsidise my lifestyle if this has suddenly become socially acceptable. Yay, I'll go now and plan what I'll spend their money on. After all they can afford it Smile

BubblesBubblesBubbles · 21/10/2017 23:51

Sorry KungFu I wished for a better outcome for you Flowers

Rescuepuppydaft2 · 21/10/2017 23:51

I am so sorry Kung Fu, it must be awful to discover that someone who you classed as a close friend, has all this time been seething with bitterness and jealousy against you!!

I can't say I am surprised that she has discarded your friendship so cruelly, as well as her friendship with f2 and f3! As a narcissist she will never admit to being in the wrong! She actually believes she has done nothing wrong!!! So to have three friends point out her wrongdoing she just won't be able to cope with that! She has this perfect image which she projects to the world, and within two days, that image has been destroyed and her true narcissistic self has been revealed! She can't continue a friendship with any of you now that you have seen that! She needs to find new friends who will fall for her perfect image! (I bet she dumps your other two friends as well!!!)

I am sorry that you are left to deal with the aftermath! I am so glad that f2 and f3 have stood by you! She could have so easily isolated you and turned your other friends against you! You have still got good friends Kung fu, I hope that you can comfort each other!

TheMaddHugger · 21/10/2017 23:54

(((((((((((Hugs KungFu))))))))))))))

really, I am Not surprised

HashiAsLarry · 22/10/2017 00:00

I was going to write a post about how you shouldn't look too harsh on f2 and f3 if they end up retaining a friendship with f1 as she pulled this stunt on you.

Then I remembered the dignity you've held this time so I'm sure you would just pull your big girl panties on and suck up being civil. It will be far harder for her when you do that.

HashiAsLarry · 22/10/2017 00:01

The dignity youve held all this time even

Phalenopsisgirl · 22/10/2017 00:07

I’m shocked that she thinks that she has the right to decide how much someone else can afford to give to charity, let alone the rest of it!

AngeloMysterioso · 22/10/2017 00:08

Friendship is over. Shes a twat.

F1 cut the frienship with F2&3 before her exit.

Good. All 3 (potentially 5) of you are better off without her.
Well done for standing up for yourself OP. It’s a pity it took something like this happening for you all to see it, but she wasn’t a good friend to you.