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Hairzilla 2

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KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 21/10/2017 11:08

Thankyou so much for so much support over the previous threads.

I thought a lot about how to respond to F1.
I told her without a proper talk I dont think I can put it behind us.
She suggested we meet up tonight after Ive finished work so we can talk properly.
F2&3 have agreed to be there so another repeat of her flying off the handle doesnt happen.

This time around Im hoping for an explaination and an apology now shes had time to calm down.

OP posts:
GabsAlot · 21/10/2017 22:02

just unbelivabl!

shs going to regret this lost 3 friends in one night over somthing sh could hav just apologised for

jayne1384 · 21/10/2017 22:02

Your better off without her! I’m glad your other friends were there to see how she is really is!
What a drama you’ve had, I hope it’s over for you now xx

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KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 21/10/2017 22:02

She can work. She just doesn't. Her husband is ok with her being a SAHM and shes ok with being a SAHM. Her husbands wage isnt too shabby either, obviously me and DH earn more but two adults are bringing in a wage.

OP posts:
thetemptationofchocolate · 21/10/2017 22:02

I know it must feel awful right now, but your life is going to be so much better without her feeding off you.

Iaccidentlykillplants · 21/10/2017 22:03

Oh I see, you are working just to give her freebies -!!

So sorry this has happened but at least you know who your true friends are.

Nocabbageinmyeye · 21/10/2017 22:05

God I an sorry it all turned out this way. Poos consolation but rested assured this is entirely her loss x

BewareOfDragons · 21/10/2017 22:05

She really has to be a whole new level of self-entitled deluded.

Grim.

You are all well rid.

MyBrilliantDisguise · 21/10/2017 22:07

Blimey, she's a piece of work, isn't she?

KeepServingTheDrinks · 21/10/2017 22:07

I'm so sorry it's ended this way. Flowers

alfagirl73 · 21/10/2017 22:08

OP I've been following what's been happening with this woman... you really are better off - that is not a friend - that is someone who uses you and then throws a tantrum when you do not allow it.

For what it's worth, my boyfriend has his own business, and recently he has had people taking the piss. People expecting him to do freebies all the time and it's getting beyond a joke. Someone made a comment to him recently along the lines of "well you can afford it..." when they wanted him to do all this work for free. What they don't see is what I see - which is him working INSANE hours - sometimes weeks without even a day off. He's put his heart, soul and so much of his own money into building his business. Yes he's doing well and the business has grown actually very fast, but it's not just happened by magic - it's his blood sweat and tears that has made it happen - and people DO take the piss.

I'm sorry this has happened but you are absolutely right to stand up for yourself and not allow people to take liberties. I'm thrilled you're doing well for yourself but I am under no illusion about how hard you must work to make that happen. It's not right for anyone to behave the way this woman has.

HashiAsLarry · 21/10/2017 22:08

I have a df who runs her own business and works her arse off in it, they can't afford for her not to work. I'm a sahm soon to change as we couldn't afford for us both to work, DH liked his job whereas I hated mine so it was the obvious choice.

Two parents working or one parent working doesn't mean rich.

I think my df may be tempted to lamp me if I offered her services up without asking her. Though she'd probably just shout at me then tell me I'm free childcare that day and I owe her.

ohfourfoxache · 21/10/2017 22:09

Sounds like this "friendship" isn't a loss at all.

I am very, very sorry you have been hurt though Thanks

ToadsforJustice · 21/10/2017 22:10

She will have no friends left when the PTA ditch her.

YouStoleTheBowlFromTheRoom · 21/10/2017 22:14

So sorry to read your updates, Kung. Not shocked, after how dreadfully she's treated you, but was hoping for better from her, finally. You deserved a sincere apology, not to be treated appallingly to the end by someone you'd considered a good friend.

Hope you've got lovely people with you now x

ohtheholidays · 21/10/2017 22:17

Bloody Hell Kung she really is a cunt and she's the one that's now fucked up 3 of her own friendships!

Good riddance to bad rubbish!I hope your okay? Flowers

CallMeDollFace · 21/10/2017 22:22

Oh dear. That sounds pretty permanent. It’s awful when you think you have a long-standing friendship and it turns out to be a bit of a house of cards. Hope you can both move forward without too much awkwardness Flowers

Piffpaffpoff · 21/10/2017 22:23

Oh dear. But I am not at all surprised. Better I guess that you find out her real views now. What a twat though.

WhatchaMaCalllit · 21/10/2017 22:25

I've been watching the situation unfold over the past two threads (and this one) and while you are probably disappointed that F1 clearly didn't and doesn't see anything wrong with her behaviour and how she conducted herself, and that the friendship is over, do not be surprised if, after a few weeks of no contact that she does try and make contact again (without seeing the error of her ways and definitely without making an apology).
I think you carried yourself with dignity and class OP.

buckeejit · 21/10/2017 22:27

That sucks but is better in the long run. Still feels shit when you loose a friend-you're entitled to grieve over what you hoped you had invested in over the years but the best is yet to come

littlemissglittersparkles · 21/10/2017 22:28

Wow she's a complete entitled deluded cunt isn't she!

Glamorousglitter · 21/10/2017 22:29

So essentially she wants you to support her financially in her decision as a SAHM

FrancisCrawford · 21/10/2017 22:36

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StaplesCorner · 21/10/2017 22:38

Wow. I'm sat here wracking my brains about friends I might have who I can ponce off of. Whose income do I feel entitled to benefit from? Damn, I can't think of anyone at the moment .... Hmm !!!

didnthappeninmyday · 21/10/2017 22:39

do not be surprised if, after a few weeks of no contact that she does try and make contact again

I agree with this, I fell out with a friend who I had daily contact with, we didn’t see each other at all for 6 weeks and then she suddenly turned up in my doorstep with her DD because she needed childcare. No mention of the fall out, all happy and smiley as if nothing had happened.

I would expect a visit to the hair salon sometime before Christmas cos you owe her one 🙄

Tapandgo · 21/10/2017 22:40

You are well shed of this leeching 'friend'. Just move on and have friends that don't begrudge you having what you have worked for.