To ask which one sentence changed your life?

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I’ll start.

‘My god girl- You’re pregnant.’

Said by a Dr to a 14 year old me.

‘He denied it’

A family member after confronting my abuser (another family member)
They chose to take his side and I’ve been NC with them ever since

It's twins.

Total out of the blue shock at the 12 week scan. Children number 3 and 4. They are teenagers now and both with a genetic physical disability that can make life a bit tough sometimes. Very, very loved though.

'You teach people how to treat you'

life changing for me.

@tooold you're a good daughter. I want to adopt you after reading all that

"Hello is that Bananas? Your mum wanted me to call you to let you know your dad has died"

Said cheerily over the phone by a nurse as I was on a train home.

In chronological order:
"Did the little baby have a nightmare last night? Poor baby, go and sit down and try not to cry." My Year 7 teacher, in front of the whole class. She called me 'baby' for the rest of the year.

"You're going to be awake for this," said to me by the anaesthetist, during my c/s. I was almost unconscious, but he was determined I'd be awake for her birth. I was. It was tremendous.

"Mmm...mmm...MUM!" DD, aged almost two and a half years. She'd communicated by patting certain items or bringing things to show me until then. Always silent, unless she was laughing or crying. It was such a relief, even if she remained mostly silent, I knew she could. She's a real chatterbox now, and has no idea how worried I was.

"He took advantage of you, he pressured you into sex, and if I ever see him again I'll spit on his feet." DH, about an ex. I always thought I'd deserved everything. He was so, so angry that someone had hurt me. Nobody had ever been angry on my behalf before.

"Everything is moving towards fine," DH, on many, many occasions. Pulls me out of a spiral, every time. It's moving towards fine.

"You can get off the train." My counsellor, telling me that I could, actually, choose to allow the anxiety to pass me by. It wasn't obligatory. And now I watch the train roll past, and flip it the bird on the way.

You won't get into Cambridge.

Said by a teacher.

I did.

If you do what you've always done you'll get what you've always got.

Your son has select mutism,i was told by Cahms.He might never talk in school.

But the school worked really hard and his friends in school where so good to him.

He started talking in bits and bobs in Senior Infants.And he got student of the year for First Class.

Which is amazing as he didnt talk for 2 years of playschool or the first 3 years of school.Now they cant shut him up.

You've got a beautiful, healthy baby girl

After an EMCS for a breech baby. She was unresponsive for 7 minutes in delivery and the crash team were bleeped.

The consultant came bursting through the doors, scooped her up and gave her a quick rub (as if she was a new born lamb) and she let out a teeny cry.

He came over, knelt down to be eye level with me, said those words, shook my husbands hand and gave me the most caring, in control smile I've ever seen.

Never knew what his name was, but he is my hero

My daughter is now two and coloured in her teeth and tongue with a blue felt tip as we were leaving the house this morning!!

Don't wait until you are old and in poor health. Travel when you are young and in good health

"Your life will be the choices you make"

This thread has reminded me that women are magic - for you all x

DH 'you don't give yourself enough credit, you are exceptional at it' - talking about how good a mother I was when i was having one of those days.
DH 'you have no idea how beautiful you are' after I'd fallen asleep in the car on a long journey. He properly loves me.

and the worst 'hiya love, you need to come over to the hospital, your nan has taken a turn'. She passed a few days later and broke our hearts.

Can you open the door? I'm outside.

Family friend had driven two hours in the middle of the night to tell me that my dad was dead. She didn't want to tell me over the phone. I was 22 - my mum died when I was 4.

"Is this Miss Ankasi? My name is Dr SoandSo, I work at xyz hospital. I'm really sorry, but your mother is dying, if you want to see her again, you must come immediately."

That call came at 11:15 at night, I was 20 and woke my two younger siblings, dashed to the hospital and spent the last 30 minutes with my mum.
My dad had died three years earlier and her death meant that I was suddenly responsible for two teenagers. I was really, really angry with my mother for a very long time. She died of multi-organ failure due to her alcoholism.
She died 19 years ago, and only in the last five or six years did I understand that she didn't stand a chance after growing up with my grandmother, the most toxic person I have ever met.

We have managed, somehow, and have come through the other end. But I had to put my life on hold for a long time.

There's two in there

"You have you understand, I have a new family now" Said by my dad when I was 15. I was angry for a long time and NC for a while. Now we are civil but strained.

"I'm just going to get someone to have a look" Said by my midwife as my baby's heart rate dropped to 80 during a failed induction. The sound of the alarm and feet running down the corridor whilst I can't move on the bed will stay with me forever.

"You have a beautiful, healthy baby boy. Lazy, but beautiful" Said by the consultant and surgeon of my EMCS who had been through 4 days of no progress in induction and 2 weeks overdue.

Some of your stories have made me sob. All of your stories have shown dignity and strength.

Mine sounds a bit shallow after reading the thread, but here goes...

On leaving a pub with a group of people, including DH who I hadn't met at that point, and realising I hadn't had a chance to finish my drink..."'Ere! What about my Bacardi and Coke?"

At which point DH-to-be produced it out of his jacket pocket.

Also the Green Day lyric, "There's nothing wrong with me, this is how I'm supposed to be..." I say it to myself multiple times a day. It helps.

"You are an abomination and can't even give your parents a grandkid"

• Said by one of my cousins because i'm lesbian

"You don't have grandkids, i do! You should be the one to be in charge of mum!"

• Not said to me but to my father by his sister/my aunt. My gradma has Alzheimer's and my dad had been her sole carer for 8 years and was telling my aunt he wasn't going to do everything by himself anymore as he is the only who is not yet retired. I did hear her say that. It was my favorite aunt, she knew i was infertile and pretty much devastated about it. It also made my dad extremely upset.

'The baby isn't breathing' - said to me by DH when DC1 was born and had been whisked to the other side of the delivery room.

She let out a big cry about 30 seconds later, felt like hours! Never felt terror like it and it has stayed with me.

Also:

'It's back, and they can't let me have chemo again' - by my lovely Nan who had been in remission for 15 months'.

You will never amount to anything when you grow up, said to me by a teacher. I proved her wrong.

"The Doctors have asked if we want to baptise him".....on the birth of my first son by my DH. Son whisked off to SCBU and we didn't know if he was going to live. It was hubbies wobbling bottom lip that killed me. Life changed from that moment and took me down the route of special needs and all the fighting that entails.

The 2 police officers at my door, they didn’t even say anything.
Confirming my husbands death.

“I love you and I’ve loved you for so long”

My husband’s email to a work colleague.