To ask which one sentence changed your life?

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I’ll start.

‘My god girl- You’re pregnant.’

Said by a Dr to a 14 year old me.

Not so much something somebody said to me, but the in the U2 song ‘Stuck in a moment’ Bono sings, “Now you’re stuck in a moment, and you can’t get out of it”. And he was right. I was stuck in a job I hated and relationship I hated, and the words in that song gave me the courage to dump my BF and go back to uni. I’ve never regretted it. I’m not a big U2 fan, but that song still stops me in my tracks when I hear it.

we found him he's dead 😔 about my partner and father of my kids

You need to come to the hospital now, dad's dying.

From my sister. I didn't get there in time.

I was raped.
My Mum when I asked who my biological father was.
A further can of worms.

I’m sorry to say that your son has died. 3rd Jan 2009.

So sad 😭

I’ve met someone else (from partner of 32 years)

"We're really sorry. Your daughter is a Paranoid Schizophrenic. It's unlikely she will ever live completely independently but she can have a good life with your support".

Said to my Mum by my psychiatrist when I was 15.

"She was predicted A*'s, it's such a shame she didn't finish her GCSE exams" also said to my DMum by a teacher, who really liked me.

I'm now an Executive Assistant to a Finance CEO - I'm only 23. I don't live with my mum, I'm married with a lovely DC and a mortgage 

"You're a pathetic excuse of a human being, pull yourself together" - Said to 10 year old me after asking to go to the loo in front of the class because I was on my monthly and flooding. I did pull myself together, I walked out of that room and reported her to the headteacher. She apologised that same day.

This will probably sound very frilly, so I do apologise, but ...

I was going through a really, really shit time of it a few years back and my head was all over the place. I always used to read my DD a story before I settled her down for the night, so we were curled up reading Dr Seuss' 'I Had Trouble in Getting to Solla Sollew' for the first time. We were on the last page, and I was reading aloud to her:

'But I've bought a big bat. I'm all ready, you see. Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!'

I burst into tears. For some reason, those words hit me incredibly hard. It's sounds ridiculous, but they did. The got under my skin for reasons I still cannot explain. And my scrumptious 6yo blonde haired, blue eyed angel grabbed my hand, looked up at me and said in a very serious voice, "Oh mummy, I think we need to get you a big bat!"

My heart honestly broke into pieces, but in the best possible way. It was like the 'snap' that had been looming over me for so long finally happened, but I was much better for it. It was just what I needed to clear my head and get a little perspective. It was the first time I properly realised that I could draw strength from my daughter - that my daughter made me strong and that there was absolutely nothing I wouldn't do or face or tackle for her and the precious life we have together. We're a wee team, her and I, and we don't need no bat! It was a massive turning point for me, daft as it sounds.

Bloody love that kid!

I ve remembered another one and lve posted about this one before lm sure.
I was about four or five at most and sat with my dad listening to a radio programme playing all the old show songs when Que Sera Sera by Doris Day came on and we were singing along when it got to the line '' 'Will l be pretty, will l be rich?' and I asked ' Will l be pretty daddy?' 'Well' he said thoughtfully...... 'you will be to me'
I only really understood this when l became a parent myself and to this day whenever l am unhappy with how l look (l have very low confidence) l always hear my lovely late dad's words and always gives me the boost l need.

"I'm so sorry. There's no heartbeat"
Around midnight and being scanned in a scan room. 6 months pregnant with first baby. We'd all gone down to the deserted scan room and had to switch all the lights and machines on, just to confirm on the screen what I knew we all suspected already. My life is divided into before and after that moment. It changed me as a person completely.

"Your daughter meets the criteria for a diagnosis of autism."

Life changing but not life shattering, that one, so if you are awaiting such a diagnosis don't take that to mean It was a horrible thing. That started the journey of understanding so much more about her than before, and accessing help. Six years on and I wish I'd known then how brilliantly she'd be doing now.

Mummy, we don't belong here. We would be happier with Aunty and other brown people like us in America- my four year old DD. I year later we moved to the US and are finally happy.

“I need you to keep breathing, we don’t want to be resuscitating you as well” said by the anesthesiologist in my c section after my son was pulled out blue and floppy. I held my breath until he cried. I remember seeing stars and thinking if he goes so do I. Then we found out several hours later he had esophageal atresia and a fistula between his trachea and esophagus and needed lifesaving surgery at one day old.

On a happier note, my son is now amazingly healthy, plump, eating and developing well. I hear happy news from his medical team every month. Last week they said “He’s clearly thriving under your care, keep doing whatever it is you’re doing, he’s an absolute rockstar!” After several months in and out of hospital and his continued complications, it’s so good to see him doing well.

"Jamie's been sent to prison"

"There's a massive bleed around the baby. I need you to understand that things aren't looking very good at all."

About DS2, who I was told I could lose at any point in the pregnancy. I felt like the world had come crashing down on me. He's now 8 weeks old, happy and healthy. I'm so incredibly, incredibly lucky.

 to all those who've faced the loss of loved ones or ill health.

“Your son’s had a grade three brain hemorrhage,sorry” (my preemie in NICU after the staff noticed he was blue/had no oxygen monitor on him to alert them due to negligence) day we were SUPPOSED to bring him home-has cerebral palsy and severely disabled but 18 and light of our lives

Said to me,and my late ex Husband,at a hospital spinal unit, about 20 years ago, Your son is paralysed from the chest down,and won't be able to walk again.

My son, now 47,had had a motor bike accident, caused by another person... He is a wheelchair user of course.but travels.and does mostly any normal things independently.

"We have a problem, there is a tumour."
2012 - a very upset gynae telling me I had cervical cancer.

2 years later. "He's ok - he's breathing by himself and is doing great". My miracle IVF, premature, post cancer baby being born.

Toooldtobearsed

I'm at a loss with anything constructive to say really, but I feel for you so much.

So many much loved babies that have passed on too (I miss my two so much and they've been gone 25+ years).

Your sons breathing is rapidly deteriorating so we've put him in a coma. (After 2 weeks intensive care he recovered and is now nearly two)

You need to come now your brother has taken very poorly (he was dead )

“Cheerio”. My beloved dad used to say this at the end of phone calls and in person. He died recently (luckily I made it in time to have a lovely last few days with him). Struggling a bit with lingering grief. Remembering his “cheerio” makes me feel better and sadder all at the same time. It reminds me to try as best I can to make sure I share good things with my aged ma. Find it comforting. Sorry if this was sad for anyone else to read. Life is tough but we do our best. Sorry for all difficult situations posted here. Good thread.

Your daughter has type 1 diabetes....

Oh god these are so sad. It’s amazing what people can survive!

“Uhh, the NT is higher than we’d like”, said by a sonographer at out first baby’s 12-week scan. That was the start of a 6-week ordeal of tests and consultations before being told that our daughter’s condition was incompatible with life.

But to keep it positive, fast forward a couple of months and another 12-week scan. After the bad news in my previous pregnancy I stopped looking at the screen during scans (cvs, amniocentesis etc) because I couldn’t handle seeing the baby that would never come home with me, so I told the sonographer doing this scan that I wouldn’t look until she was sure that everything was fine. She did her measurements and to my surprise everything seemed to be ok, and she said “are you ready to see your baby now?” That’s when I started to think that this one might be in it for the long haul, and he was! He’s almost two now and I love him desperately.

@Bahhhhhumbug that gave me a lump on my throat and a tear in my eye! How sweet.

 to all

Thinking of all of you who have suffered loss

Mine:

"No one will want you anyway , you have herpes" nasty ex boyfriend.

"Here she is!" When I had my daughter age 18.

" You're the kindest person I've ever met you're a lovely mam. If anyone tells you any different they'll have me to deal with"
said by work colleague ( who is the nicest person I've ever met!)