To ask which one sentence changed your life?

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I’ll start.

‘My god girl- You’re pregnant.’

Said by a Dr to a 14 year old me.

So many to be honest, good and bad. But you have MS has been one that has hit very hard

"I don't feel the same any more, I don't want to be here any more"

Said by XH a few weeks before my 40th birthday, when he announced our marriage was over, with no prior warning whatsoever. Total and utter shock to me which took years to get over.

It seems trivial compared to some of the sad stories on this thread, but was a defining moment in my life and changed the person I am forever.

1997- Well there's always "Job's in Slovakia" - ref to a job ad in the Times Ed when I first graduated. I rang up, they sent me to Poland and I came back 2 ½ years later engaged. We've been married for 18 years.

"He's a drain. You're a radiator. Get rid"

So I did.

"But I love you" said after he called off our engagement.

to all who have suffered terrible and tragic loss on this thread and indeed abuse in whatever form.

Mine is less important, "I don't love you anymore, I'm leaving you". Five years ago today actually. I am still recovering because he and OW have spent the last five years making my life an utter misery. It has changed me and I am no longer the person I was.

However, I appreciate very much that I do have a life and reading some of these posts has given me food for thought.

"I can confirm she is autistic" said by a leading doctor after 23 years of trying to find a diagnosis and years of hell for my parents and me.

The second "Autism doesn't happen to normal pit Village families" by a doctor my mum approached when I was less than a year old because of lack of eye contact and other sensory issues.

The third "I don't believe you are autistic, because you can stand and talk to a whole audience no problem, I'd like to meet the idiot doctor who diagnosed you" said the doctor I'd been seeing for the first 20+ years who just happened to be watching a Speech I did on how autism affects me and my late diagnosis. This doctor fobbed us off for years and made my mum believe everything was her or my dad's fault.

Fourth "I'm right here if you wish to question my proffessional judgment" by the doctor who diagnosed me who was stood right behind the said doctor. Who had also heard my speech and had introduced me to the idea of talking about my experiences. The look on the other doctors face as he wanted to be swallowed up as him A mesely child phychologist was confronted by one of the UK"'s leading experts in autism. First doctor just muttered "sorry" and scuttled off.

'She's in!'
Said to my mum by the director of music at a prestigious school after my audition at the age of 11. I came from a very modest background and my mum was trying to hold everything together whilst my dad was critically (terminally, it turned out) ill and unable to work. We didn't think I'd get the scholarship in a million years but that amazing man saw something in me and was willing to give me a chance. It opened doors to an amazing, music-filled education and a wonderful life and I am grateful every day.

My son has recently won a similar music scholarship and I am so proud that I could burst, just like my mum all those years ago.

I’m sorry, it’s not good news... an Ot to me

Love and admiration to you all.

Said by a fertility doctor to me this afternoon:

"Your AMH is extremely low and your husband's sperm count is also extremely low."

As an only child and my mother is dead, I don't now how I can keep going. All I ever wanted was a baby. Now it's too late.

Are there any tickets left for tonight's gig?
Said to me 10 years ago by my future husband.

during therapy to help me after the long term trauma from caring for several family members (who are all doing ok now) and being asked if there is anything I always wanted to do - I said "do a degree, because I left school at 16" therapist said why don't you?
3 years later - my tutor about my dissertation "its a first" (I was in my late 50's)

"My arm is tired" said by the very good looking boy sitting next to me on the sofa. His arm was tired so he draped it around my shoulders. We were 17. Forty years later we have 5 kids and his arm still gets tired.

Which one to choose.
It's cancer, sorry. (Twice)
You're pregnant ( after being told they thought I had cancer a 3rd time)

All moments the world stopped spinning.
and hugs

“Be brave and try the medication”

2 1/2 years after having DC and still in the firm grip of PND. Had been given a prescription many times - a simple reframing of taking the medication being a “brave” action changed everything.

‘It’s never too late to get out of the wrong relationship.’ Stopped me getting married.
‘...’ nothing, just a worried face during a 20 week ultrasound, followed by the dreaded ‘I need to get someone else to look at this.’ I knew before she said that that I would be having to give birth to a dead baby

I'm sorry he has no heartbeat ( said me me at 37 weeks pregnant)

'Oh look, she's crying with love' said by the cat co-ordinator at Battersea Dogs' Home the very first time I held my beloved Mr C.

He was so thin and dirty we all thought he was a young black cat. He is now a 7 kilo magnificent figure of a tabby. A year later I discovered a secret spot of peach fur under his chin.

He's brought happiness, stability and a lot of hoovering into my life.

" is she the same one?"

Said at 3 am to my DH by a fertility doctor who suddenly appeared in front of us while we where going to the theatre for delivery.
One year before he had diagnosed us both as 100% infertile.

The police ringing my home phone at 1am. When I answered they said, “it’s the police, we are at your front door can we come in? ”.

They had come to tell me that my lovely mum had died in an accident.

'Is one tumour not enough for you , do you want me to find more' said to me when my four year old son was diagnosed with Neuroblastoma.It was the pre op discussion with the operating team with the so called 'Professor'.Originally that had told me that my son probably had tumours in his brain and spine but he only had one and I was so relieved and just wanted to reassure myself.My son is now 20 years old

"Just because that's his story doesn't mean it has to be yours" - when I was explaining why I couldn't leave my emotionally and financially abusive boyfriend because he'd had a truly horrendous upbringing and had no idea of what happy or healthy looked like. I'd hung in unhappily for 2 years, after hearing this he was gone within a week.

" you only need one"

Said by a very old doctor when my DH and I were diagnosed with infertility.

For Clueless 1980 with love

"Sit there and be quiet and eat your dinner" the moment I realised I had to leave a sham marriage of 33 years. Happily married now.

"Bloody hell dump him and move to London" glamorous 40 something stranger at a party to 25 year old me. Followed her advice. Great advice actually.

"This is our new trainee" looked up and it was DH. After a succession of not right boyfriends and a few months single in aforementioned London I was so relieved I had finally met my husband we both knew as soon as we set eyes on each other.