To ask which one sentence changed your life?

[broccoliicecream]

I’ll start.

‘My god girl- You’re pregnant.’

Said by a Dr to a 14 year old me.

What a sad & gorgeous thread. I'm sitting here crying but don't feel so alone reading others stories.

I've got 2 - I'd been on the phone to my brother for about half an hour having a really nice catch up, I said I've got to go to cos I need to get ready, I'm coming to see Nan today. He rang me back 2 minutes later screaming, you've got to get down now, Nan's dead, Nan's dead.

Then 8 months later, Monday afternoon, I was off work & had a missed call from my mum, rang her back & she told me my uncle was dead, it was 3 days after my Nan's birthday, he was 32, he'd taken his own life, left his wife, 2 boys & all of us and done the same as what my grandad/his Dad did when he was 18 months old.

I've never ever been angry with him, it makes me desperately sad to think of him in that moment, thinking that was the best thing to do when I know how much he struggled with my grandad having done it, to do the same to his lads. It breaks my heart.

to everyone.

"She's got a developmental delay, it's ok though some children get over it"

She never will, but I love her anyway and always will.

And then earlier this year

"I think it'd be safer if you and your daughter left"

After my husband had attacked me and threatened to kill me. Has been the hardest but the best 7 and a half months of my life.

Do you know where Foyle's Bookshop is?

I lied and said I did. I had to ask directions. We met at 3pm.
16 years ago, we have been through so, so much.
Foyle's Bookshop has now gone, it's a TK Maxx now.
We still laugh, if we are ever in that town, when we pass it.

I'm crying my eyes out at these, so much hope and strength.
"im coming to get you" , spoken by my late cousin when I rang her and told her exh had thrown his cup of tea over myself and dd1.
"the smear test came back with abnormal cells" me telling my dd1 who was 29 what was in the letter she asked me to open. She's fine now but can't have children.
"he really likes you, just doesn't know it yet" to me by my dh best friend, our 29th anniversary was on the 13th.

‘Miss, you’re the only person who is ever happy to see me’

Said by a really naughty boy in my class who had a really abusive and neglectful home life. It taught me that behind nearly every awful child, there is more than likely a shit parent.

‘There are two babies’
When at 12 week scan
And
‘I’m the anaesthetist - I’ll be sitting by your bed all night to make sure you don’t go into a coma’ - when I had meningitis

"She is the sickest person in the hospice right now" - said by a doctor at the Marie Curie hospice my mum was at, she died less than 12 hours later, 3 months before my wedding

@Swissgemma
Your post made me cry.

I've just had my fourth ivf round fail, am utterly exhausted and heartbroken, and my partner has just said these very same words to me.

You've given me the courage to think about giving it one more go. Perhaps I can do it after all.

Thank you xxx

@Botanica

"Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent"

@ftfoawygtfosm not at all. Your post was exactly what this thread asks for. It's just that unfortunately most of them are sad.
I loved your post.

I also loved @moonkin s friend said "don't come looking for me until you're old and have plenty of stories to tell." What a wonderful, poingant thing to say.
My best friend died at 31 to breast cancer and I know only too well how words like that stay with you.

Mummy isn’t coming back

To me aged 5 after a long and violent mental breakdown and the end of my parents marriage.

She never did

That life sentence cramped my style a bit.

"You don't need him" from a friend 're an unhealthy relationship and "I think you'd be really good at that" from an ex who encouraged me to do my nurse training.

"Do you NEED to have an opinion on this?" (extend to all possible things)

This made me really think - do we need to have an opinion?

Can I bring a friend ? - a friend who came to see me. The friend is my dh now been together 12 years.

We have found something on the scan. - a brain tumour and I was later diagnosed with a rare condition

1. "But you've done nothing wrong!" - a complete lightbulb moment when my newly discovered half-sister had listened to how I had dealt with my guilt over the years - guilt about my birth. I just stared at her. It was true! I had done nothing wrong!!!

1. 'We met last night at the wine bar - do you still want to meet up for a drink?' - married within 6 months, 25 years later.

Said to me by my lovely gp when I was having anxiety attacks and I was saying that I had to show I was coping to the outside world as it was expected:

"isn't it enough just to actually cope?"

Changed me completely and I remind myself if I have a wobble now and again that I don't have to prove anything and just do what I can. The more I opened up to friends/family and admitted I wasn't coping too the more people opened up and told me their stories of their depression or anxiety or panic attacks etc and I knew I wasn't alone.

“Fuck off!” - as screamed by my ex-husband. I decided I would.

It wasn’t easy but life is now very good indeed.

"I think what you told him caused his heart attack" - one of the men on camp, attributing my disclosure of my sexual assault on camp to the padre's heart attack.

"I think you need to go and see the doctor" - said by my lovely HoD when I went into work and couldn't stop crying. He saw it way before I did that I was on a path to a mental breakdown.

"Time is the most precious thing someone can give you." - a friend after I was horrendously late meeting her.

"Do you just want to quit now and not come back in?" - asked my senior management about my resignation. I didn't want to go back in ever again.

"You either marry me or we split up" - I chose the latter. And it was one of the best decisions of my life.

"Yes, I'm sorry to say that it looks as if there is an empty sac. However there are still 4 heartbeats in there. Said at 7 weeks when I thought I was experiencing a miscarriage" Total and utter shock

"I'm sorry Symphony, it is cancer". The phone call with the results of my biopsy for a tiny barely visible breast lump that the doctor was "99% certain" was a benign cyst earlier this summer.

Also, special mention to "Symphony, Dad died". I'll never forget the anguish in my sister's voice.

@Tunnocks34

That's a very poignant post.

Makes me very grateful for the wonderful people who look after our children and notice those who aren't getting what they need at home (I'm sure you couldn't do much but it's wonderful because that child recognised your kindness)

'But you weren't a normal 13 year old' - my uncle, when I disclosed sexual abuse. I was 16 by then.

'It was abuse' - my husband, 12 years later

“You have to understand, she’s going to die in this hospital, and soon” - the doctor who had to correct the misunderstanding that his colleague had given us 3 days earlier; the misunderstanding that DM would wake up.