To ask which one sentence changed your life?

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I’ll start.

‘My god girl- You’re pregnant.’

Said by a Dr to a 14 year old me.

I am really sorry but the tests confirm what we expected that your baby will not survive even if he made it to full term. I am afraid you have some difficult decisions to make now.

She's blue. We need to take her to SCBU.

"I think you look lovely" as said by a 19yr boy in the computer room at college to a 17yr old me. The boy is now dh and we've been together 15 years, married for 9 years.

Showgirl.

"We don't accept C's"

During clearing, by a lecturer at the university I didn't get into. I got one C, I got more A's than I needed, but I got a C.

@Lobster12345 does that mean you had quads? Or have I misunderstood?

'I've come to the conclusion that people can only treat you as badly as you allow them to' when l was in a long term abusive marriage that l could see no way out of.
Within four years l had left, (with the help of Women's Aid, the police and the local housing authority) met my now lovely dh and bought a house together.
The words were those of Sarah Ferguson when asked how she stood up to the most powerful family in the world, the Royal family obv. when she was ousted by them etc.

Never say you are ok when you are not ok.

Said to me when I was about 10 by an elderly family friend who took on the Grandad role as I had no alive Grandads. At the time it was about physically being well as I had been pretending i wasnt poorly so I could go on holiday then collapsed unconscious in departures. But nowadays I always remember him saying that when dealing with anything physical or mental.

You only fail when you give up

Many years ago - first parents evening at my secondary school - English teacher to my parents: 'do you realise that Cortex has a lot of potential and should be aiming to go to university when she leaves here?'. Parents came home gobsmacked - no one from our family/street/council estate went to university at that time but they supported me as best they could bless them - and I ended up studying law.

@Easilyflattered One we've always gone by in our family:

"Those that mind don't matter. Those that matter don't mind."

"Mr .... You have been found guilty of all 5 counts of category 1 assault by beating" - taking my son's biological dad to court when I was 7 months pregnant after he had beat me senseless.
"So now that you've had the baby can I take you for a drink" - as said by my now OH who I met after i had left my sons biogical dad and was 14 weeks pregnant, we were like best friends ... three years later we live together, my son has always known him as his daddy and we have four month old DS together too....

"Does he speak to you like that often? It's not nice to see" said to me about xh by a very new friend that came round for a play date with her kids. 12 months on, she's one of my besfriends friends and helped me realise that my husband was abusive and get the courage to leave. Life is so much better now

Bunnybigears Wow

Never say you are ok when you aren’t ok

You have made me cry but I’m a fabulous way.

Thank you

I say it every day but I’m not

NO MORE ‘ok’

"you can't play with us any more"

Said at age 9 by my so called best friend

I've found it difficult to make friends ever since

From a doctor when I was battling a toxic boss "do you want to be happy or right?"

tunnocks your post made me silently cry. Poor poor child.
Actually most of these posts have made me cry. so many people going through such hard times.

'You need to come upstairs, your dads breathing has changed'
From the nurses telling me my dad was taking his final breath.

"So, we know there's a growth on your ovary. Now we need to work out if it's cancer." Gynae consultant. Aug 13

"Pregnant? Naturally? Well, they say miracles can happen, but that's what it would take." Same gynae consultant 1 yr later. 2014

"There's no heartbeat." Ivf clinic, 9wk scan. 2015

"It's a girl!" 2017

"Mumma!" 2018

"Bullies know what they are doing " (paraphrased)

Said by ea ex husband about a child at dds school. Made me realise that he himself knew exactly what he was doing with crazy making behaviour etc. He's an ex now.

"The hospital I've just called, dad has cancer and has 4 hours left to live"

Said to my by the step mother I hated when dad was unwell and in hospital waiting diagnosis.

He actually took 3 days before he gave up.

Any man can be a father, it takes a special man to be a dad.

Said to me a few months after DW and I moved in together, along with her son. He was a little shit too! Definitely ADHD and other behavioural issues. I thought it was just me being young and treading water.

I still remember the first time he called me Dad instead of Steve. He's 22 now, I've been in his life 21 years. Love him so much, couldn't love him anymore if I'd been his biological father.

These posts are very emotionally charged, I think you're all incredibly strong 

‘Mum it’s only a house’
When I was trying to leave an abusive relationship and could have ended up homeless with 2 DC
I realised that I was their security and that was all that mattered which made it so much easier to leave

‘But you’re screaming inside aren’t you?’
From an old friend who looked beyond my protestations that I was ‘ok’ or ‘fine’
Made it ok for me to talk which I neefed

Needed obviously!