To ask which one sentence changed your life?

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I’ll start.

‘My god girl- You’re pregnant.’

Said by a Dr to a 14 year old me.

24 weeks pregnant- ‘ You have a very rare blood disorder. There has only ever been 8 cases in the world.”
Me : “What’s my & my baby’s prognosis “
“ there is no prognosis & no chance or survival”

19 years later I’m here unfortunately my baby isn’t.

I still think of that day. The registrar said ‘ how can you be so stoic? “

You never ever know your reaction when you are told you are going to die just like I never knew my reaction to being told I needed to make the decision to turn my baby’s life support off.

💐 to all

“Reader, I married him”

"I'm sorry, she passed away a few minutes ago". About my mum, when I was 18, we'd just arrived at the hospital after a planned operation. Still impacts my daily life 25 years later because of the long term effects on my personality and nature.

We are pleased to inform you that you have been accepted to the next round of IVF

We are pleased to be able to inform you that your application to study management at postgraduate level has been successful

Two letters to me on the same day in 1997. My daughter was born in the gap between year one and two of my degree

“I want you to help me be a better person”. Intoxicating to my naive younger self, falling in love with someone with issues coming out of his ears. 15 hard years later, I would scream at my younger self, pay attention to that bloody red flag, there is nothing but pain to be had out of this relationship.

I am not coming back home.

"Your a lying bitch" my mother to me when I told her the truth about my stepfather .

"Sorry we can't take the case further" CPS to me

"You have until 12pm to leave." Social worker to my ex husband.

"I have thought long and hard about this. I believe that the girls should be adopted." Me to the social worker.

"I desperately need help." To my therapist.

Can I have a quick word.

'You're just jealous aren't you? You're trying to send him away you spiteful little bitch'

Said to 10 year old me by a close female relative when I finally told her that her partner had been sexually abusing me for months. She totally denied it, broke my spirit and eventually took part in the abuse to please him. It carried on for a few more months until I was brave enough to tell someone else.

It's shaped who I am, how I love and made me realise blood is not thicker than water. I've chose my family now and feel so lucky to have them.

Nurse: "I've made him (my DH, aged 35) a hot chocolate because I wouldn't want to deny a dying man's request".

No one had told me he was dying, we all thought he'd be out in a few days. The nurse was right though 

I’m sure you understand it’s been a very difficult decision, and I’d like to offer you the job.

Would you like to come on a solstice camping trip in Scotland?

Family member to my mum "It's time, you need to come right now"
Same day, my mum on the phone to me "She's gone" my beloved nan had passed away. She was my absolute world, my second mum and I couldn't have wished for a better life growing up with her and my grandad. I miss them both more and more everyday and I would do literally anything to have them back. The day they passed away, was the day a big part of me died and I've never been the same since.

"I've got some really, really sad news for you, yawning..."
"What?"
"Grandma's died."
Said by my mum to a five-year-old me. It was probably worse because it was so unexpected, nobody had ever told me anything, all I knew was that she was in a hospital where kids were allowed but my parents hadn't let me go to see her. I have very few memories of her now but I'm told she was a wonderful (if eccentric) lady.

“I’m so sorry, when we stop he’s going to die”

Doctor over the phone to me following my dad collapsing at work with a massive heart attack. They put the phone to his ear to let me say goodbye from 300 miles away and his colleague offered to sit with him. I will never ever be able to repay that kindness.

“You mean he raped you”
said by my dp about my ex.

"You need to move on!" from the ex who thought I was going to the house as I wanted him back. It was actually as I didn't trust the dc to be OK with him. That night I signed up for online dating at met my dp with whom I've been for 5 years now. Ex hates him and has threatened him. Just did what you said mate!

'You should be in theatre, I can't even wait for the anesthetic to work,' said by the Dr giving me stitches, after I had given birth at home, just been taken to hospital and the midwife had just ripped out the placenta with no pain relief.
Still get flash backs of the fear and pain.
How the hell I left hospital less than 12 hours later with just Iron tablets I don't know.

'We need to talk, we're not getting on'

Then he left for his now fiancée

My DGM said to me on her deathbed "You'll die if you worry and you'll still die if you don't"

She was a worrier her whole life and it was knowing she was passing away that made her realise that whether she'd stressed over a situation or not, it still panned out the way it was always going to. Changed my outlook in an instant and I really don't stress over negative issues now. Yes, I may be concerned but I now plough my energies into how I could turn them around or make them better.

Granny, you were a diamond and almost 6years on you're still dreadfully missed x

 to all those who've faced such hardships

 to all those who have faced hardships xx

I've no idea why the wee bunch of flowers don't show on my post but sending you love and light

“It’s your aunt. She’s dead”

My lovely, lovely aunt who was my second mum had been found dead, completely unexpectedly, and it turned my world inside out and upside down.

“We don’t know what wrong with her, as soon as we do we'll tell you” said to me after my daughter was born and she wasn’t breathing. They were the longest minutes of my life, and I have never prayed so hard before or since, reminding God that if something had to happen it was supposed to be me that suffered or died, not my beautiful babies, and pleading for her to be alive.

She was fine btw, we joke now about how she loves attention so much, that her birth was her grand entrance to upstage her twin brother who was born minutes before with a cry that also changed my life.

💐 to all.

Have you considered having him christened?

He was a day old and I knew they thought he was going to die.

He didn't , he's 3 and whatever his complex needs, it's nothing compared to what might of been. But nearly losing him, living our lives in limbo for so long, has definately changed who I am.

Uggy, there were meant to be flowers.💐💐

“Mum they can’t find the primary, but they’ve found secondaries and they say it’s terminal” my son’s text to me about his lovely young wife and mummy to his babies