To ask which one sentence changed your life?

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I’ll start.

‘My god girl- You’re pregnant.’

Said by a Dr to a 14 year old me.

“No, there isn’t. I’m so sorry.”

On answer to me question which was ‘there’s no heartbeat is there’?

A conversation that has played round in my head for months.

1 week and 3 days after being shown the scan at 13 weeks heartbeat.

We are all equally deserving of happiness.

Every time my phone rings I hope it’s you. I know I don’t have any right to hope, but you’re the person I was meant to be with. PS: it’s your round.

From DH. Almost 12 years ago to the day.

• "there's a fifty fifty chance she will die". She died (my mother).

• I've got some news about your father" (he died- I was in the Maldives at the time).

• "there's something wrong with one of the babies"- 12 week scan with twins. One was gravely ill and would not live, and it's existence was threatening the healthy one.

• "your son has a fractured skull" - this year after toddler had an awful and scary serious fall overseas.

Hugs to you all:

Thread made me cry! to all.

“You need to move out” ex DP to me after 4 years together. Basically had to start life over again but slowly getting there. With somebody really nice now.

IfyouseeRitaMoreno That's so lovely.

to all, this thread is heartbreaking.

Mine is you are having a abortion and that’s it (dm to me at 15, I can still hear her saying it, still devastated that I wasn’t brave enough or strong enough to stand up to her over 20 years later, I try but I can’t seem to forgive her or myself).

There’s no heartbeat, I’m sorry - twice.

Will you marry me?

It’s a boy x 2

"Shame cannot survive being spoken".

I read it somewhere. It has helped me enormously in the last few years in overcoming years of SA as a young child. It enabled me to actually tell my DH, my best friend and a therapist. And it is true; I stopped feeling ashamed immediately; this in turn helped me deal with what I went through, and gave me the strength to go NC with my family.

Justgandering I had sort of forgotten about it, but your post brought it to mind.

On picking up the phone.....' is that Mrs xxx? You have left some lingerie in the bedroom. Shall we post it back or will you collect?'
From hotel 10 miles away, when id been working all weekend and OH supposedly away on lads weekend 100s of miles away.

I lied. I’m having an affair.

By my stbxh of 20 years.
Turned my whole world upside down. Thought I was going to die and, if it wasn’t for my dc, I might have done something silly.

It’s nearly 18 months later and my life is very different but I’m mostly happy. I very quickly realised how emotionally abused I had been; for our entire relationship. Divorce is imminent.
Me and my dc are poorer financially but I’m no longer under the control of a psychopath/narcissist/arsehole. We are richer in every other respect.

I’m actually grateful to the woman I once called my friend, who took him out of my bed and away from me and my dc.

"Cool"

My daughter's first word.

She had a massive stroke at 3 weeks old and we were told that the area of her brain responsible for speech and language was gone. She still has significant deficits and we are facing upcoming brain surgery, but she is one of the most tenacious 12 year olds I have ever met.

I’m sorry, he’s gone.

Said by my fertility nurse for the second time this year.

'I have had your best years anyway you fucking useless cunt'

Said to me by my childrens dad at that moment any love respect or care for him vapourised into thin air.
I have never felt stronger, the prick hasnt had my best years
My kids will

We are putting you to sleep, we need to get this baby out ASAP!

Said during an elective c section, where I was temporarily paralysed on the whole left side of my body having a spinal tap. Which nearly stopped my heart beating

Two for me.

Congratulations, you're expecting twins.

I should very much like to offer you representation.

2 weeks ago, about now “Xxx passed away peacefully at home last night.”

Xxx was a very good friend of mine, and ds’s best friend’s mum. She was only diagnosed with a brain tumour a month previously. She was only 2 months older than me, with young children too. It’s changed my outlook on life enormously.

‘It’s a boy!’ and just under two years later ‘It’s a boy!’

‘Your Dad’s got cancer’, a year later ‘The MRI shows more dark masses’

I liked the first two best! The second two we’ll deal with as time goes on, life is for living and as a family nothing is put off.

Not so much words I heard but words and images I saw on a screen - exH's username and password to a post-your-own-gay-porn site.

Also, years and years later - last year actually - words of the guardian ad litem appointed to represent my DCs when exH tried for the third time to get the post divorce judge to find me in contempt of court and send me to jail, and issue a non-molestation order against me, "This is emphatically not a case of alienation of the children by the mother." Followed by an apology to me by the judge, in open court. I walked on air out of that courtroom.

ExH had tried since before our divorce was finalised to punish me by initially threatening the law on me, then harassing me through the courts over the years by means of three motions for contempt of court and the petition for the non-mol order. I was in court every three or four months from 2009 to 2016, filing answers to his motions and amended motions, filing answers to interrogatories, attending hearings, and getting nowhere.

There are 2 for me - both said by DH to me:

"work have offered me a job in America" - we moved 4 months later and accepting that post was the best decision we ever made. Had to come back "home" a few years later unfortunately but would go back in a heartbeat. We found a life and a community and a home there that we've never had where we live here in the UK.

"They want me to go back in for more tests - they think it's something serious" - a few days later he had a biopsy and we were told it was almost certainly cancer - a week later that was confirmed and our world came crashing down around us. We're slowing getting through and hoping for a positive, cancer-free, future but we're not there yet and regardless of what the future holds, we, and our 4 DC, will never be the same again

You better leave work very quietly because if the boss sees you he’ll fire you.

So much for the line manager approved flexible working.

you are some amazing people. Thank you for sharing your sorrow and joy.

"Want to come to Asia and teach English with me for a year?" Actually asked to my sister by her friend. I went instead. 10 years later In left with a DH and DS bound for his country. I have never lived back home since.

"Congratulations on your new nationality"
I really thought it was just a paperwork thing (got to keep my original nationality). In reality it was a very emotional day.

"They're not going to be doing any more surgeries; it's a case of waiting now and keeping her comfortable." Said to 16yo me by the school nurse, telling me my best friend wasn't going to survive her cancer. My New Years resolution this year (aged 33) was to focus on finally healing from losing her.

"You're not supposed to be able to see your skeleton!" Shouted by my usually unflappable dad, in tears, when I was resisting treatment for anorexia. Seeing him so sad and afraid was the wake-up call I needed to get help.

"I know it's cheesy but this is the first day of the rest of your life." My dad again when I'd come out of an abusive relationship and was feeling hopeless.

"You're the most beautiful person I've ever seen" said by a childhood friend after we reconnected as adults. And a few months later, "I think my head just exploded. I love you too." 8 years married now!

Gilligan, what a rollercoaster! I’m glad you have a lovely DH and I really hope you manage to achieve your resolution. She must have been a lovely friend.

They've found two bodies

Some daft young bloke stopped me on the way back from the shop last night and told me I was to have a happy remainder of my life with his blessing.

Who knows, perhaps he was a magician disguised in a toggle coat and it might be true!