To ask which one sentence changed your life?

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I’ll start.

‘My god girl- You’re pregnant.’

Said by a Dr to a 14 year old me.

"Don't worry I can do this. I'll be there for your new baby in the new year. Look after mum. Love you." (last text message from my dad before heart surgery.

12 hours later.

"Your father isn't making appropriate responses." (he didn't survive the surgery)

4 weeks later

"It's a girl."

I am so sorry xx you do not deserve what happened. Your friend was being cruel. Please, please go see your go and tell them how you are feeling. You do not have to, or deserve to suffer like this xx

Sorry that was for @petitecolier

"I'm having an affair with your husband".

But a few months later my very best friend changed my direction again with "you can keep allowing it to destroy you or you can just get on with your new life and make it yours". After a week of hating her for saying it, I realised she was right.

for all the pain and loss on this thread.

Sad/happy Didn't they tell you there are 2 lumps in your abdomen??---My flabbergasted gp, after I had told her about collapsing, and going to the out of hours clinic the previous day. Turned out to be stage 3b ovarian cancer and it had spread to my bowel. 2 surgeries and a round of chemo later (was I glad to see back of 2011 lol) I have been in remission for nearly 6 years. Every day is a Brucie bonus xx

Your baby doesn’t have a brain tumour but she has a quarter of her brain missing.

Paediatrician then went on to say she wouldn’t ever walk or talk and we should consider putting her in a special hospital

30 years later and DD is a pain in the arse, attitude of a 13 yr old and doesn’t shut up. She walks ( ok with dyspraxia) and has a job. She has global delay and autism and will always live with us.

We didn’t put her in a special hospital

@Toooldtobearsed your post was heartbreaking. I hope your life is good now.

I don't want you

I’m not a carrier of Tay-Sachs

Said by my son when he got tested at 16. A great relief because I am.

There’s only one heartbeat.
Got pregnant with twins after ivf/icsi but although I mourned the one who was gone my lovely amazing miracle of a DS changed my life.
Followed 15 months later by sane co sultans looking at me pregnant (naturally) in the May unit “how the hell did that happen?!” Cue lots of worried mums to be looking at him

Not life-changing, as it all worked out fine, but I attended an emergency GP appointment having felt utterly awful with another urine infection at 5.5 months pregnant wlth dd. He took my blood pressure, said ‘that’s very low’ and I commented ‘it’s been low throughout, how low are we talking?’ He paused, looked at me and said ‘I don’t know how you’re still standing’.

I went on to spend 5 nights in HDU with urinary sepsis - my organs had started to shut down by the time they got my blood results back. I was given antibiotics, spent a week in hospital & despite them assuming I’d have to deliver DD that night to save my life, she hung on in, I got better and made it to term. She turns 5 next week!

On 26th April this year: 'I've got some bad news....your dad is dead....he's hung himself' - my poor uncle who had to drive over to my house to tell me, after my mum had found him after she got home from work. My dad was only 51 and there were no signs, nothing. I miss him very much and it's changed me. I still don't understand why, I know I never will. I'm also cross at myself for not ringing my parents the night before for a chat. It was only early, about 8.45, but I thought I'd just ring them the next night instead. Really regret not just making the call. It wouldn't have changed anything but I'd have spoken to him.

On 30th June this year: 'So I've had a biopsy taken after they weren't able to find much on an ultrasound and it's not good news - I've got secondary liver cancer and it's terminal' - said by Father-in-law. He's currently in the last few weeks of life.

This year has been shit.

to all

*Makemineacab
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Exactly the same happened to me after my 6th round of ICSI. I lost one of my twins at 12 weeks but I have my boy and so I am so grateful!

"Your foot is blocking the drain. Move it!"
Said to me by my then partner who had pinned me against the wall and raped me in the shower. Still not over it and still struggling to cope with what happened.
to everyone as my sentence seems tiny in comparison to what a lot has been said on here.

carefaulait my son is just seven with autism and learning disabilities he has a rare chromosome disorder I wouldn't consider putting him in a special hospital either even though it's hard often

Some of these are heartbreaking. for those who have suffered such sad losses and disappointments. The crushing comments from parents are almost as bad as the terrible tragedies.

I have a few:
'Your mother and I are not going to live together any more' said by my dad to me (aged 6) and DSis (aged 3).
'Work hard, play hard' - my dad's motto for life.
'I just don't see us getting married' - my twit of an ex who did me a huge favour by dumping me four months before I met my DH.
'It's a boy!' - DH when he saw DS1 being born.
'You're going to have a little boy' - sonographer when we had a private scan at 24 weeks with DS2.
'I love you mummy' - said by both my lovely DSs.
'People who assume make an ass of u and me' - my wise ex-boss.

"It would have been easier if it had been you" said to me by my mother as we interred my younger brothers ashes.

I have no words for some of these. Awful. :(

“If you want to do it alone, we’re here for you. You won’t be a single parent family, you’ll be a three parent family because your Mum and I will be here for you”

Said by my dad to me when I was pregnant and shit-scared of being a single-mum.

And they have always been there for me.

“You have survived every really shit thing that’s happened to you so far”

‘Follow your heart not your head’ not sure it was the best advice but I enjoyed 3 years with someone who absolutely had my heart. He ended up breaking it but I’m so glad that I took that risk and wouldn’t have experienced a love like that if I hadn’t followed that advice and may well have ended up with the person my head was telling me to stay with. This would have been a big mistake in the long run, although would have lasted longer.

JustGandering that is absolutely not a tiny thing my lovely, that's fucking awful. I hope you have excellent support around you to help you cope x

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Had been away for a few days for husbands birthday, taking a leisurely journey home and decided to stop off at place we have been previously just about to park car , get phone call from one of my daughters In Tears telling me to come home, will not say what is wrong - thinking it might be a problem with my elderly mum , no she us ok, after explaining it will take a few hours to get home , she needs to tell me she does - her sister has passed away - she was only 26 . I will never know how we managed to make that journey home or how my daughter told me and had to tell her younger siblings 💔

“Scan is clear, it’s all gone” 4/10/01. Said by the wonderful De Hugh. Following 2 years of chemotherapy and a bone marrow transplant. I was 21.

TroubledTribble thank you. I'd like to say I do however only a few close work colleagues know about what happened and they do support me but I don't think any of them realise how badly it's affected me and how I am struggling. I haven't told any family and I think it's due to shame and embarrassment even though I know I have a nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about.