To ask which one sentence changed your life?

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I’ll start.

‘My god girl- You’re pregnant.’

Said by a Dr to a 14 year old me.

Would you like to dance? Sixty years ago.

You are worth more than that

I hadn't thought I was

Will you marry me?

You have epilepsy.

"I'm so sorry but Mummy has died."

I was 6.

Some gems from my mother:

'She's a better daughter than you'll ever be' (said about my sister)

'You little bitch' (said to her 3 year old granddaughter when she politely declined offer of a cake)

'well it's not like she was your mother' (when I was devastated by death of an older friend)

'You're so strange no one will ever want to live with you'

There were many more but my darling stepfather cancelled them all out. He had taken me on as his own when I was 18 months old. As he was dying I thanked him for this. He said 'Nothing to thank me for my lovely, it was my privilege' ...I miss him.

Me to my dad: ‘are you ok? Do you need help?’
Dad: ‘I’m fine, go away, leave me alone’
So I did. These were the last words he spoke to me, as he died of a stroke minutes later.

Will never completely get rid of the guilt I feel that I walked away from him and didn’t alert anyone, even though I knew something was wrong with him, because I was upset at how he’d spoken to me. I was 14.

A cheerful one “I’d like to offer you an MSc studentship to study xxxx. This includes fees, living costs and field expenses”.

I still have the tea stained letter. I worked my bones out to get a good enough BSc to get on the MSc course, but would never have afforded it without the studentship. It was long before student finance was widely available. My dad had been too ill to work for over 10 years. DM was working 3 jobs to keep body and soul together. The MSc was the gateway to another world.

That MSc has been the foundation for the rest of my life. 25 years later, everything that has come since goes back to that. I even met DH at a conference held at that university.

The removal of public funding for able and deserving higher education candidates in the last 25 years makes me very angry.

“Sometimes you have to take the bull by the horns” - said by a dear, much older work colleague to a 18 year old undecisive me, A kick up the arse I needed that put my life on the path it is today.

“I don’t know” - said to me by my perfect boyfriend of 3 years who I loved the bones of, and had been recently quiet - when I asked him if he loved me.

"You know he will kill you unless you leave"
Said by his mum.

Ohmy you've reminded me of a work one when I was 18 and working weekends at a local tourist attraction and YT job during the week. I applied for a permanent position during the week and I didn't get it. The Manager, a strong woman called Jean told me she hadn't given me the job, not because I couldn't do it but because I had so much more potential and I was selling myself short. Her confidence in me gave me confidence.

Abort it. - my mum, she said it with each of my children .

It’s a boy
It’s a girl
We can only find one heart beat
It’s a girl

She’s been remanded. May not mean much compared to others , but this broke my heart.

My heart goes out to you all.

“NO. Stop the games. Accept she’s my wife and back off both of us or lose me” said by dh to mil in April this year. After 4 long years of hurt and torment aimed at me.

Finally. Finally he saw through her bullshit.

She hasn’t accepted it. She was ignoring me. But that’s better than the nasty comments sly digs. Now we have ds she wants to have contact with me. Nope.

“You are worth more than this”

Said to me by me. So I stopped taking drugs and turned my life around.

"he's gone" said when my beautiful 5 year old nephew contracted meningitis.

"I'm going to refer you to the gynae unit" from my GP and "a hysterectomy is the best course of action" by my specialist afer 20+ years of gynae issues. The hysterectomy gave me my life back!

These are heartbreaking reminders of how life has so many ups and downs and shocks. Love to everyone who has been through difficult times and well done for your resilience. x

And it's lovely to be reminded of life's breathtakingly good moments too.

Your dad is gone, in his sleep, just as he wanted.

Another one I have just remember is See, Do Get
If you see what you always see, Do what you always do, you will always get the same results.

There are no heartbeats, both are gone, I am sorry.

Said to me by a police officer: There isn't enough evidence against your stepdad, but hopefully he will do it to someone else..

I wouldn't wish what he done on my worst enemy, so why would I hope for him to do it to another innocent child

‘Your DB died last night’, said my DH to me the day after my DB died aged 34 from bowel cancer this August.

‘Yes, that is tardive dyskinesia,’ said by my neurologist to me, confirming that I did have a untreatable drug induced movement disorder caused by antipsychotic drugs.

Silence for 10 mins during an internal ultrasound followed by ‘I think there is nothing in your uterus - it looks like an ectopic’ said by a consultant during my last pregnancy.

Crap things that will never leave my mind. Ever.

"What do you get out of this relationship?" Said to me on here.

Followed by the reassurance that it doesn't matter what label you give to his behaviour, if it doesn't make you happy you don't have to live with it.

I hadn't really questioned it before! I was so busy trying to fix him that I had forgotten to focus on my own needs. Once I accepted that I would never get what I needed from him, I started divorce proceedings and am now living a happy life with a lovely new DP.

Thank you MN!

So sorry for all of you who have experienced loss and trauma as your life changing moments.

Frenchie - it sounded to me like your dad was trying to protect you. He also knew something was wrong and was sending you away so you didn’t have to see it. You couldn’t have stopped him having a stroke even if you had alerted someone.

I don't love you and I'm fed up of you being ill

XH when I had just come out of hospital, after nearly bleeding to death.

He left. I'm now happily remarried and live how I'd like to, not how XH wants to!