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Fingers crossed for a nice update for you all.

aaaaargghhhhelpme - it was less than 6 hours from the OP finding out to her contacting the Head and the PTA chair - that was fairly fast in my book. It’s very easy to be caught up in the ‘moment’ but that is rarely the way to deal with a problem.

Anotherlegobrick - cf could be asked to step down from the PTA. Cf is representing the school and the PTA and if found to be aggressive and confrontational acting in the name of the school that could be a big issue

x-post Lego!

Anotherlegobrick - but that's not the point. Six hours since op found out. How many weeks/months the cf knew?!

She would also have known the op would hear about the flyers. The op finding out can't have been a fucking surprise. What, did the cf think she could get away with it so the first op heard was when someone turned up with a made up voucher?

as I've said previously, if it had been a personal issue I might have been prepared to wait a while. But this is the ops livelihood. I think the op had to strike before this got out of hand and it's half term next week.

I wouldn't have my business falsely advertised without correcting it ASAP

what a TOTAL bitch. As I've got older I've realised more and more (sadly) that life is full of toxic people and you really do have to weed out those you can trust/rely on. I have literally 5 people where I live (other than OH) who I trust with my life. Everyone else, I am "friends" with but very cautious.

You obv cannot rely on this person. She is not a friend. Block her, never forgive her and draw a line under it as a bad experience. You have other friends you can trust. She is not a friend.

My BFF runs a business - I would never in a million years offer a voucher from her to PTA or otherwise. I wouldn’t even ask her if she wanted to as I know she can’t really afford it. I really don’t understand some people. If I did she would def fall out with me, and rightly so.

6 hours during which F1 completely ignored the OP's attempts to sort it out with her whilst simultaneously talking to F2&3, refusing their suggestions of how to fix it and digging her heels in saying the OP was the unreasonable one.

@pictish and others saying that they would have dealt differently, I tried to say the same on the first thread and was very much the voice in the wilderness, accused of sock puppetry and generally told I was wrong wrongity wrong wrong.

I'm sure both the prize, the money and the friendship could all have been saved in different circumstances. But that woud not have fed the thread in quite such a satisfactory manner

The whole thing took on quite a surreal quality last night

bit To be fair, the accusation of sock-puppetry was down to another poster having a very similar name, and the poster who made the mistake apologised as soon as someone pointed it out.

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RobotGoat yes, but it came in the middle of me getting a mauling didn't it? These threads do not like dissenting voices.

And it was another poster who apologised.The person who accused me did not, despite being on the thread afterwards

F1 should be given time to work out how to apologise but someone who cocks up on a post, owns it and apologises should be ignored because the drama of the offense means more. Says a lot

Hashi she didn't apologise. Nor was I offended I mentioned it because it indicated just how unpopular a contrary view is on these kind of threads once its in full flow

I'm so sorry you've had to go through this OP.

I know the PTA must have an idea about what F1 is like now, but I'm wondering whether they need to know about the verbal abuse at the salon. Afterall, you are a local business owner who has --ended up kindly donating your services to a school your child doesn't even go to, and a representative of that school's PTA turned up on your business premises and verbally abused you. Doesn't look good for them. If I was a local businesses owner and heard about what happened in the salon, I would be worried about donating any of my services.

^KatharinaRosalie Thu 19-Oct-17 14:06:01
Sorry, my bit of a mistake, as one Bit was addressing another Bit. Will read more carefully in the future.^
This apology didn't exist?
Easy to call other people hysterical when answering on a legal point though.

What a palava. How are you feeling aoutvall this today?

I am the world's least drama llama but I would have emailed the PTA lady within 6 hours as I would have wanted to get on record as soon as possible that I hadn't donated the prize and given her as long as possible to sort out the tickets and the posters. I don't think that's overreacting and could be done at the same time as trying to make contact with F1.

There's always a mob feel about these type of threads with stupid posters accusing anyone who disagrees of being the CF or villain of the piece, I see it's happened here already.

MN should get an “Are you F1?” bot for such posters

6 hours and £45 isn’t much compared to a lifelong friendship. - no, especially when CF is not paying for it!

And - you really think this cf is a 'friend'?

Well we all deal with stuff differently.

CF refused to contribute anything when asked & Op didn't want to donate a C&C.

Why shouldn't she get onto the school/pta asap about that?

It's not as if the pta wouldn't have realised that CF downright lied.

CF has shown how little she values Op by her actions so Op hasn't lost a friend io.

I’m sorry OP, this must be really sad for you. You did the right thing. Hopefully F1 will see past her own embarrassment soon and apologise. Keep your head up!

Op tried to contact her and save her friendship. She tried to sort it out.
F1 came into her work and verbally abused her leaving her in tears. What kind of person does that? She’s unhinged. She’s no great loss as a friend. Why would you want to be friends with someone knowing that they can behave like that?? I don’t know about anyone else, but if any of my friends thought they had done something to upset me they’d be calling me worried that I might be mad at them. As would I. None of us would go batshit, verbally abusing or posting bloody Facebook messages!!

Quite honestly if I were you I would text her all the things you were too stunned to say when she was ranting at you, then block her.
Use the line a pp has said 'you were so keen to impress your new PTA friends you shat all over your old friends. She's fucking pathetic. She needs telling.

I fail to see the point of these posts saying

'I would have behaved differently/ better'

The cards on both sides have been played.

F1 has gone on to verbally harass the op! On top of her complete lack of respect for op, I really can't see what friendship there was to hold onto. F1 made it very clear just how she felt! I'm willing to bet that there has always been jealousy/ resentment in their friendship. Perhaps op was not aware of it, but that kind of bitterness and disrespect doesn't just appear out of no where!

Kung Fu I hope that you have slept OK, and that there is no more fallout over this!

For those who would've dealt with it differently - I think a similar outcome would be the result anyway. Just my experience of that type of Facebook poster! F1 had the opportunity to say sorry she cocked up, opportunity to donate £15 for the voucher, further opportunity to apologise.... I agree there could have been ways to deal with it slightly differently but if it was my business/money I would've dealt with it immediately. I just think this so called friend has been using OP for a long time giving very little in return and the one time OP stands up for herself it's friendship over - so it was never going to work out well however it was dealt with.

As CF has made it public on FB I would expect PTA to find out about last night and be in touch.

Hope you’re feeling better today OP, it’s horrid when you find out your friend isn’t who you thought they were