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Boom F2.

F2 is a true friend, F1 is a massive arsehole and you are well shot of her to be honest op.

Been reading this thread in and off all day and seriously cannot believe F1. She has shown her true colours. Your other friends sound absolutely amazing and I’m so glad they are there for you.

Pictish

Op gave her ample opportunity to speak to her she ignored her.
Friends gave her a way out she refused that too.
She refused it all only demanded op pay for it herself as she had no intentions of paying for the prize she told pta she was donating. Who says they are donating something with no intentions of actually paying for it?

She got off lightly op could have made a lot of trouble for pta for advertising her business as a prize without her permission thus damaging her reputation as she knew nothing about it and couldnt afford to give away her time and that amount of money to something she had no connection with.

Go F2. Bet she deletes her status pretty quick.

Ive asked F2 to remove her comment. I dont do public spats. F1 can live with her actions, if she wants to act the victim she can. She knows the truth.

Good plan

As much as I think she was cheeky AF to contribute your services without asking you, I also think it would have been better to speak to her properly before writing emails to the PTA and the HT, making her look a fool. Even if she was one, she was your friend.

A friend? Who was given numerous opportunities to save face and resolve the situation and refused all attempts to salvage the situation and the friendship and instead escalated it and refused to engage with the OP unless she capitulated?

Who, when faced with the consequences of their poor behaviour, turned up in person to offload a shit ton of abuse directed at someone who had already gone out of their way to downplay the cheekiness of the original offer?

Who was so desperate for approval from their new friends, but simultaneously so tight-fisted and convinced of her righteousness that she backed herself into a corner with her own stupid stubbornness?

No friend of mine would behave like that and I would be ashamed to include someone capable of that behaviour in my friendship group once their true colours had been shown.

I think you should tell the PTA what she said to you and get her booted off. You might as well.

She knows the truth

As does everyone else who matters. Sounds like, in the end, you are well rid.

Kung. Let her leave it. She needs to be called out on her shitiness. You dont need to be involved or F2 doesnt need to write anymore.

Arseholes get away with shit because they arent made to face what they've done.

Willow

I know. I've read it. I still think it was all unnecessarily dramatic and could have been sorted out with a discussion in person before the emails went out, even if it was a couple of days later.

The thing is Op, you say that "if F1 wants to act the victim she can, she knows the truth" is that she doesn't. Somehow she'll be 100% certain that her version of events are truth. A liar lies so much it's hard for them to know what's truth and what's not in the end.

Don't make f2 rush to take it down

You're dead to her now? Well at least you know what she values your friendship at. Roughly £15.

I do agree pictish
I'm not convinced that the result would necessarily have been any better. And I do feel for OP

Pictish
Where exactly were the chinese whispers?

Cf told op she had donated her services but not until op had found out herself.
She also told op that she wasnt paying for it but that she expected op to do it for free.
Friends even offered to pay towatds it but cf refused to consider it.

It was all pretty plain talking no whispering at all.

your too nice i wouldnt miss out

thy should stop inviting f1 out that will solve it-why would they want to be friends with her still!

Willow

I'm not going to argue the toss with you. That's my opinion and what I would have done. If you'd have emailed the PTA and the HT rather than engineer a conversation with your friend then that's fine. I don't feel the same.

I would contact the head of the PTA tomorrow and sat in light of F1's aggressive behaviour in your shop tonight you are now unable to offer the prize. You don't want one of her friends winning the prize then ending up in the shop badmouthing you!

Whilst CF is a 22 ct. arsewipe, I wouldn't tell the PTA I wasn't doing the voucher prize any more - it isn't the PTA's fault that your ex-friend is, ahem, somewhat volatile and a loose cannon. I do think they should know about her temperament though, so they can use their own judgment on her suitability.

Obviously she's furious at looking a total tool in front of the people she wanted to impress and taking it out on KungFu. People like that never think "dare we face the question of just how much of the darkness around us is of our own making".

Also block her on social media and your mobile and bar her from your shop!

just seen a post must of missed

your dead to me?

you should put no loss then

Yep I did. I'm just saying how I would have dealt with it...ie, in person and not through texts or mutual friends. Face to face, leaving no room for misunderstanding or misinterpretation or Chinese whispers. What with her being a friend.

Panda did try Pictish

The CF wouldn't respond to texts/answer the phone etc

OP-she could just edit it to say f1 is completely in the wrong & remove names but good for you not to stoop to her level.

At least you know that is the proper nail in the coffin now to publicly say you're dead to her 🙄

I'd say stay off fb & do a bit of mindfulness for the next few days to get you through! Remember, it's all character building!

Without knowing this girl, I'm kinda not surprised she'd erupted as she'd embarrassed.
You've done nothing wrong, but did you really expect it to apologise? She's trying to arse lick with PTA's and you ruined it for her!

Hope you're ok xx