TMI - friend's wife's impending birth

[Sprinklestar]

Had a text from friend re his wife's latest check up. Baby due imminently. But did he really need to share how many centimetes dilated she already is? Isn't that a bit too personal?! And would his wife really want all and sundry to know the state of her nethers? Maybe I'm old fashioned but in my day, you went to the hospital, gave birth, and that was that. There was no examination in the weeks leading up to the birth to tell you if you'd started dilating yet. And there was certainly no need to share any of this info with your team in the workplace!

This wouldn't bother me at all

Each to his/her own. I've had friends who've given us the blow by blow account from induction to dilation to delivery and then I've had friends (abroad) who've announced a birth without telling a soul outside their immediate family that they were even pregnant.

Me personally? You won't know a thing about my labour or delivery. You'll hardly know about my pregnancy. I don't even remember how much I was dilated at certain points (I had a talk with someone recently who could remember how dilated she was at certain stages during her last delivery which was years ago! Totally impressed by her memory!).

Wish your friend well and don't give it a second thought.

think that there is SO much talk of bodily functions when you are pregnant that it becomes a normal part of your daily vocabulary even if you would never have mentioned anything about that sort of stuff before.

And that's why I'd be mortified. I'm still a person, even though I'm pregnant. I wouldn't tell someone intimate medical details before so why the hell would I now?

Why should anyone be remotely interested in the state of his wife's cervix anyway?

I can't believe he is giving a running commentary during his wife's labour. I think if I was his wife I'd make him turn the 'phone off until it's all over.

This child is nearly 3 years old now.
ZOMBIE THREAD.

My Dad would tell me stories about our births (me plus 3 sisters) - no men anywhere to be seen, the maternity ward polished and gleaming, the new Mums sparkling - all prepared for the regulation visiting time. Dad also told me that outside the entrance was like outside the football stadium before the gates opened - only men, in various states of nerves, smoking the last cigarette and waiting for the "go" sign.

@DorthyTyler is going round a few threads trying to be controversial. I guess trolling MN is a hobby. Not a very good one though.

It is a bit too much info, in my book.

It's pointless information to share with you, and far too much tedious detail if you're just work colleagues but it's hardly worth getting annoyed about. He probably has no idea what it really means and is just nervous and excited and so going a bit overboard. I'd think it was cute but boring.

I told my husband he wasn't allowed to share anything and that during the birth I did not want him giving anyone updates. His parent's were furious that we went to hospital and they heard nothing for 18 hours until there was a baby here, they were anticipating a running commentary (my own parents didn't even know I was in labour!)! I don't know why people feel the need to over share or even ask, my mil asked my husband if I'd torn and had stitches 😱 I mean what did she want or need to know that for???!

She's a few centimetres dialated?! Ew! Gross! And I bet the midwife saw her pee pee hole and her poo poo hole when she checked!

Seriously, grow the f up OP.

Agreed that it's an unnecessary violation of privacy and could possibly put pressure on her "perform" by measuring time etc. Pregnant women get asked so many questions about their changing body, often by people who have no interest in their happiness and welfare it is very thoughtless of her DH to offer information up

This is a zombie thread. Hopefully the friend's wife has had the baby by now.

@Therebythedoor

This is a zombie thread. Hopefully the friend's wife has had the baby by now.

You would hope so - it must be bloody uncomfortable with an almost three year old in there otherwise!

No big deal. Its not obscene, its a way of knowing how imminent labour and birth is.

Oops, zombie

I agree. no need for it at all.
social.media !

I agree with you OP, this is TMI. Can’t believe the number of people who think this is okay. Oh well each to their own.

Did he call her his wife or his individual with a dilating cervix?

@Durgasarrow

Did he call her his wife or his individual with a dilating cervix?

LOL!