TMI - friend's wife's impending birth

[Sprinklestar]

Had a text from friend re his wife's latest check up. Baby due imminently. But did he really need to share how many centimetes dilated she already is? Isn't that a bit too personal?! And would his wife really want all and sundry to know the state of her nethers? Maybe I'm old fashioned but in my day, you went to the hospital, gave birth, and that was that. There was no examination in the weeks leading up to the birth to tell you if you'd started dilating yet. And there was certainly no need to share any of this info with your team in the workplace!

[hammie46i]

@Durgasarrow

Did he call her his wife or his individual with a dilating cervix?

LOL!

[Durgasarrow]

Did he call her his wife or his individual with a dilating cervix?

[Playmysong]

I agree with you OP, this is TMI. Can’t believe the number of people who think this is okay. Oh well each to their own.

[IKEA888]

I agree. no need for it at all.
social.media !

[Branleuse]

Oops, zombie

[Branleuse]

No big deal. Its not obscene, its a way of knowing how imminent labour and birth is.

[VinylDetective]

@Therebythedoor

This is a zombie thread. Hopefully the friend's wife has had the baby by now.

You would hope so - it must be bloody uncomfortable with an almost three year old in there otherwise!

[Therebythedoor]

This is a zombie thread. Hopefully the friend's wife has had the baby by now.

[Savingshoes]

Agreed that it's an unnecessary violation of privacy and could possibly put pressure on her "perform" by measuring time etc. Pregnant women get asked so many questions about their changing body, often by people who have no interest in their happiness and welfare it is very thoughtless of her DH to offer information up

[Iloveyoutothefridgeandback]

She's a few centimetres dialated?! Ew! Gross! And I bet the midwife saw her pee pee hole and her poo poo hole when she checked!

Seriously, grow the f up OP.

[NoGinNotComingIn]

I told my husband he wasn't allowed to share anything and that during the birth I did not want him giving anyone updates. His parent's were furious that we went to hospital and they heard nothing for 18 hours until there was a baby here, they were anticipating a running commentary (my own parents didn't even know I was in labour!)! I don't know why people feel the need to over share or even ask, my mil asked my husband if I'd torn and had stitches 😱 I mean what did she want or need to know that for???!

[BoomBoomsCousin]

It's pointless information to share with you, and far too much tedious detail if you're just work colleagues but it's hardly worth getting annoyed about. He probably has no idea what it really means and is just nervous and excited and so going a bit overboard. I'd think it was cute but boring.

[hammie46i]

It is a bit too much info, in my book.

[Winterwoollies]

@DorthyTyler is going round a few threads trying to be controversial. I guess trolling MN is a hobby. Not a very good one though.

[IgiveupallthenamesIwantedareg0]

My Dad would tell me stories about our births (me plus 3 sisters) - no men anywhere to be seen, the maternity ward polished and gleaming, the new Mums sparkling - all prepared for the regulation visiting time. Dad also told me that outside the entrance was like outside the football stadium before the gates opened - only men, in various states of nerves, smoking the last cigarette and waiting for the "go" sign.

[maras2]

This child is nearly 3 years old now.
ZOMBIE THREAD.

[jessstan2]

I can't believe he is giving a running commentary during his wife's labour. I think if I was his wife I'd make him turn the 'phone off until it's all over.

[AlexaAmbidextra]

Why should anyone be remotely interested in the state of his wife's cervix anyway?

[AccrualIntentions]

think that there is SO much talk of bodily functions when you are pregnant that it becomes a normal part of your daily vocabulary even if you would never have mentioned anything about that sort of stuff before.

And that's why I'd be mortified. I'm still a person, even though I'm pregnant. I wouldn't tell someone intimate medical details before so why the hell would I now?

[TheVanguardSix]

Each to his/her own. I've had friends who've given us the blow by blow account from induction to dilation to delivery and then I've had friends (abroad) who've announced a birth without telling a soul outside their immediate family that they were even pregnant.

Me personally? You won't know a thing about my labour or delivery. You'll hardly know about my pregnancy. I don't even remember how much I was dilated at certain points (I had a talk with someone recently who could remember how dilated she was at certain stages during her last delivery which was years ago! Totally impressed by her memory!).

Wish your friend well and don't give it a second thought.

[AnyFucker]

This wouldn't bother me at all

[WitchesHatRim]

YANBU. Sharing with colleagues how dilated your wife is is way tmi

[TheFirstMrsDV]

I think that there is SO much talk of bodily functions when you are pregnant that it becomes a normal part of your daily vocabulary even if you would never have mentioned anything about that sort of stuff before.
Pretty much every time someone talks to you they are asking about your boobs or your bowels or something. The whole world seems obessesed with TMI

So I can't be too hard on excited expectant couples.

[Wightintheghoulies]

I find it more off putting when couples you don't know well announce "We're TTC!" I'm never sure what to reply.

As opposed to all pleasantries when talking about a woman's expanding cervix . 'Oh excellent, isn't that lovely. Soon her mucus plug will go, and the baby will make its way down her birth canal. Delightful news, keep me updated! I'd love to know what degree tear she may have, and if she needs stitches!'.

Just because the person talking has lost all sense of normal social conversation due to baby-brain, doesn't mean that the person they're speaking to has.