to think that DH can hold the baby for longer than an hour?

[PeppersTheCat]

DS is 8 weeks old and ebf. AIBU to think that DH should be able to hold him, without drama, for longer than 1 hour? I never get time to myself and feel like a touched-out tramp. I'd like some time to do hair, makeup, wash and take medication (I have a skin condition). I have anxiety and depression.

Typically, about 50 minutes in DH starts asking "How long are you going to be?" and/or standing outside bedroom door with crying baby.

Ps I get that my suggestion of a walk doesn't help you straighten hair etc - but it get your DH in to the habit of being left alone with baby. My eyes are rolling at the idea of having to type that BTW, very annoying.

Maybe you need to be really explicit with him: "I'm off duty now til 2pm, there's a bottle of milk and a dummy on the side".

Then if he starts whinging at you keep pointing out its his turn til 2pm.

Of course you should expect to be able to have a whole hour (if not more) away from your baby while your husband is there - obviously excepting times where baby is hungry!

I’ve got a ten week old EBF baby. He can be put down for short periods in his bouncy chair or on his playmat but he lasts far longer if someone is there talking to him/playing with him.

I went into town for a (soft) drink at a colleagues leaving do when baby was 5 weeks. I was out 1.5 hours with the understanding that he would come pick me up if baby got hungry. I’ve been out for a walk a few times and I’ve done the food shopping the past week while my OH has been at home with baby and a chest infection.

He does some night feeds with expressed milk so sometimes that means he has baby for 6 hours.

He’s great at settling him, he has his own techniques which are different from mine. I can happily hand over a fed baby, whether he’s happy or crying and know that daddy can settle him. Baby will sleep on his chest while he plays his PlayStation or watches a movie. Or they’ll play peekaboo in his chair.

Your baby has two parents and both of you should be capable of looking after him for as long as is necessary!