My granddaughter is beautiful, and . . . .?

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She's 10, year 6 and people actually stop us in the street to tell her she's beautiful. This has been going on for her lifetime. She says thank you.
She says, 'thanks, I'm also really smart and I'm a good climber'.
Her looks are the only thing that strangers comment on.
Thankfully, she's level headed. Her class had a one-off lesson on how the media treats girls and women, and she had a lot to say about it - so did her friends.
A girl's looks are not the most important thing about her. We all know this, except random strangers don't seem to have got the message.

People say my 1 year old is gorgeous. Feel like thumping them. She's not her looks.

Seriously? Do people like you really exist?

She's 1. What other attributes does she have at that age that people should comment on?

My sister is gorgeous, always has been and I vividly remember when I was about 10 being stopped on the way home by an old lady, Mrs Pugh who has long since passed who said to me ‘eee you’re not pretty like your sister are ya?’! I’ve never been one to take offence and i didnt then but commenting on peoples appearance has been happening for millenia! So what if people tell her she is beautiful, its not dismissing her other talents its just complimenting her on the first thing the eye sees!

People have always commented on how handsome (and tall) my DS is. But there is always a follow up question that involves what sport he plays.
He doesn't.
Everyone then moves back on to how tall he is.

What is beauty Martha?

Do you think we should call everyone beautiful?

You want to thump someone who says your child is gorgeous.
Okaaaaay.

cappuccino i think everyone is beautiful in there own way. I make a point of stopping people to tell them. I have always seen them walk away with a big smile.

I always tell other parents their kids are gorgeous even when objectively they are not. It’s just nice to be nice.

*their. The only people i dont think have any beauty are the ones who are evil. Its like the evil has distorted their looks.

Apple no that not true.

Its other mums who say this to me and when i tell them that theit DC are gorgeous they're the ones telling me "no, she's another level of gorgeous. She could be a model".

I dont want people commenting on my daughters looks. I dont want her to feel loved and valued for the way she looks but who she is as a person.

Unfortunately most beautiful children don't hold onto their looks, they peak too soon.

Also how beautiful you are does not make one a good model. That's to do with being photogenic.

If you say so OP.

I’m sure I’ve read this before?

Martha - yes. Beauty should not be taboo. It's good to be beautiful. Why shouldn't beauty be recognised. Equally, why shouldn't more ordinary girls be told that they're beautiful. If I'm genuinely honest, I don't know anyone who doesn't have something about them I f find beautiful.

People say my 1 year old is gorgeous. Feel like thumping them. She's not her looks

They're probably just making conversation / being polite. Chill out.

alexkate yes. Every one should be told they are beautiful. Always. Lifes too short not to make everyone feel beautiful. Theres something about them that will be physically beautiful. If you look at someone and cant find one thing beautiful about them then its you who is faulty.

Growing up good looking also means you develope a boring personality.

One girl I knew couldn't even say to me what music/artist/band she liked. Her response was erm..... whatever's on the radio.

My DS is ten people comment on his handsome he is and his very unusual colour of eyes. He has quite severe learning difficulties and loves the attention. The person who said isn't he so handsome pity he is the way he is almost did get a punch.

Rainbows - that is just not true.

Re: the earlier comment about cropping your hair short to avoid being referred to as beautiful, I don't think Cara got that particular memo.

The dd only knows how to answer back she probably has been told by her mum 'yes you are beautiful but you are also very good at a lot of other things, like climbing, xxx and you are clever and xxxx'

Any random comment about how someone looks (small, tall, big, slim, beautiful ugly etc...) are bound to make the person uncomfortable.
So why is it somehow ok to do that about a child being 'beautiful'?
Why is it ok to make a comment to a child such as this one that you wouldn't make to an adult?

Cara would look good with a bag of shit on her head!

I dont think Cara is physically attractive.

I think OP is getting a bit of a hard time here...
Dc2 regularly gets comments in the colour of their hair (due to a genetic condition.) Yes, it is striking and beautiful, but it does get a bit wearing when people feel they need to comment.

Yeah, wanting to thump someone for saying your baby is cute is fucking weird. What a bizarre attitude.

I hope you are not going to teach her the same revolting attitude @CappuccinoLoverr

@RainbowsAndCrystals

Growing up good looking also means you develop a boring personality.

Sorry but that is utter bollocks. Made up by people who are not particularly physically attractive, to make themselves feel better.

I know loads of physically attractive people who are a lot of fun to be around, and are very intelligent, and kind-hearted.