To think friend was being a bit tight over internet password

[CadgingCarol]

Name changed as I'm an over sharer.
Anyway I had some issues with paying my internet account recently basically direct debit hadn't come out and I'd been cut off long story!

I was stuck at home on my own with the kids, my older dc was going on and on and on about internet being cut off stress. I thought I'll ring up and pay to get it back on etc but realised I couldn't transfer the money as no internet! My phone internet wouldn't work either.
I thought shit, I messaged my friend who lives close and I'm a round about way asked her if I could borrow her internet password to get things sorted,
Her reply was "sorry I don't want to give it out" now we've been friends for over 4 years have each other kids do stuff etc etc so I was quite shocked at her response. It's basically saying she doesn't trust me isn't it?
Yes the internet being back on wasn't urgent but I still needed it back on ASAP. I wouldn't have given a second thought to giving a "friend" the password so aibu to think she isn't really a friend as she didn't help me out when I was in the shit?

Ok bono, what's your wisdom or have you already transferred the money for the unpaid bill?

Huh?

You seem to be with op here, I don't get it? Don't pay your bill then no access? Surely that's simple? Why this drama?

My wifi password is on the side of my router... I haven't changed it because the risk is minimal (and no one I know has). Why would you? Are there burgulars who break into houses to "steal" wifi pass codes? Of course not! Even if they did it would hardly be a disaster... MN paranoia at its best!

People here wouldn't trust their best friend, or their sister say, with their internet baking details

ER no. Because the bank will use it as an excuse to not pay back money if fraud, even if entirely unrelated to your family members.

Do you not understand how breaking online banking T&C's puts everyone in a vulnerable position?

It's simple - keep your passwords secret! That's it!

Are people really silly enough to change their WIFI pin to a passeord they use for everything?

You're leaving yourselves open to hacking. Always use different passwords for everything.

My wifi password is on the side of my router... I haven't changed it because the risk is minimal (and no one I know has). Why would you?

So you can ban teens from the wifi to make them clear their floordrobe
So you don't have to mistype some random collection of letters and numbers into multiple devices
So you don't have to faff aboutreadong the code off the box every time you need the password.

Plus it's always good practice to change passwords etc from the default setting.

Soupdragon
Fair enough, though I don't have teens so haven't had that issue.
I struggle with those who seem to equate giving out your wifi password as being akin to giving online banking details.... the fact that free wifi is offered in most these days should indicate the level of risk involved.

I would trust a friend with my wifi password but I wouldn’t trust your story.
Really no reminders at all whatsoever?
Did your telly and landline get cut off too?
Why not ring them and pay from a different bank account? You can do that over the phone.
Also you were not being stuck at home,if she lives close enough to use her wifi,she leaves close enough to take the kids and go over there and use her computer/internet.
By the sounds of it, it didn’t happen on the day either, but you were more than happy to wait and sort it out.

So you don't have to faff aboutreadong the code off the box every time you need the password.

The problem then is that you have to remember the password, which makes it far more likely that you'll be using that same password for all manner of things. No one can remember dozens of distinct passwords we need for everything these days.

Kailoer- so patronising. I can take that risk. My internet banking hasn't beeen defrauded so it's a reasonable one to take. With something more high risk it would obviously be different.
But, SHOCK HORROR people don't comply with their banking ts&cs at all times. Some haven't even read them. Try not to faint clean away there

In my experience, people who make a big song and dance about trust, and demand (not ask politely, and happy to take no for an answer)their friends' passwords and pin codes are the least trustworthy people in the world...

Rebelrogue, exactly

I am reading this thread, with quite wide eyes.

I really don't think many of you realize quite how fortunate you are to have the services that you do. I am going to assume that most of you just have an internet service that is unlimited and uncapped?

Is this the norm? Is there a chance that your neighbour doesn't have this option and that she had a limited amount of data usage, or even a cap on her usage.

I do not live in the UK, and capped is a normal thing. Unlimited is quite a luxury.

Maybe your neighbour doesn't have an open package OP. I definitely do not give out my password to just anyone either, because I made that mistake once and the bugger downloaded ridiculous amounts of data, leaving me without for the rest of the month.

But what this thread shows, is just how dependant we have become on having this service available 24/7. It went down for one day and it seems that your household came to a standstill.

I do think though, that if she only lived two doors down from you, you could have just gone to her home and used her computer or phone to do what you needed to do. Or couldn't you have just used mobile data? How do you connect your phone when you leave the house where there is no wifi?

I do think there is a bit of a over-reaction happening personally.

What I don't I understand is all these posters who offer their visitors wifi.
Why? I'm not on my phone nor are my visitors when they come to our house. We manage to actually chat with each other and don't need to checking our emails entire visit. Same for kids - they're invited over to play with one another, not on their devices.

My DS'S have their friends over after school and they all bring their phones/tablets so we give them the WiFi password. I don't know why you wouldn't, and I've read the whole thread and still don't know why you wouldn't, unless it's capped quite low I guess, but even then I'd probably let them as they are just playing on the free games sites.

I also give it my friends when they're over and they need it, for example, to show me their holiday photos (which I'm also unusual for loving).

We also let our neighbours have it when they had family over from abroad as they don't have it.

If a friend wouldn't share their password with me but trusted me with their children I would think they were very strange. So OP I'm with you on this one.

She's not a friend.

I definitely wouldn't give a password to anyone who thinks it's ok to share PIN numbers and internet banking details

You may think it is normal behaviour between friends but it's really not.

You are far too trusting, OP.

Oh and op just because your dc’s are mates or best mates doesn’t mean you two are mates.

I do think though, that if she only lived two doors down from you, you could have just gone to her home and used her computer or phone to do what you needed to do.

That's what I don't get either. If you needed to use the internet, why didn't you ask to use hers? It's different letting someone use your wifi in your house to giving them the actual password that they could use at their house after the event too.

I still don't get why you wouldn't give anyone your wifi password. Well, unless you are incredibly stupid and have the same password for your wifi as for anything else, which presumably nobody on here is?

Do you think there will be less wifi for you if you let someone else have a bit of yours?

Do you think there will be less wifi for you if you let someone else have a bit of yours?

Well, yes. Not everyone just has uncapped unlimited.

People here wouldn't trust their best friend, or their sister say, with their internet baking details

ER no. Because the bank will use it as an excuse to not pay back money if fraud, even if entirely unrelated to your family members. Do you not understand how breaking online banking T&C's puts everyone in a vulnerable position?

The bank will only be able to 'use it as an excuse' (which btw in 5 years of working in bank complaints and fraud I've never actually seen) if they know about it.

If I called my bank because of fraud on my account, I'm hardly likely to tell them that my sister, mum and dh all know my PIN and that my sister has logged onto my banking for me when my internet was down...why would you? So it's a non-issue.

I would do it for a friend, but she does have every right to say no.

There are some gullible people about.

"Just because our daughters are friends doesn't make her your mate"
Well we talk most days, her dd is round here most days, we go to places together, have each other's kids at the drop of a hat etc etc so yes she is what I considered tonne s friend.