To think friend was being a bit tight over internet password

[CadgingCarol]

Name changed as I'm an over sharer.
Anyway I had some issues with paying my internet account recently basically direct debit hadn't come out and I'd been cut off long story!

I was stuck at home on my own with the kids, my older dc was going on and on and on about internet being cut off stress. I thought I'll ring up and pay to get it back on etc but realised I couldn't transfer the money as no internet! My phone internet wouldn't work either.
I thought shit, I messaged my friend who lives close and I'm a round about way asked her if I could borrow her internet password to get things sorted,
Her reply was "sorry I don't want to give it out" now we've been friends for over 4 years have each other kids do stuff etc etc so I was quite shocked at her response. It's basically saying she doesn't trust me isn't it?
Yes the internet being back on wasn't urgent but I still needed it back on ASAP. I wouldn't have given a second thought to giving a "friend" the password so aibu to think she isn't really a friend as she didn't help me out when I was in the shit?

this is the oddest thing i've ever heard. I tell my guests where the wifi password is!

Blinking tight!

YABU.

So you are close enough to use her wifi from your house? And you have been cut off for not paying your bill? I doubt that happens after 1 missed payment without any warning/reminders being sent out and ignored/not acted on.

In your friends situation, even with someone I liked very much, I would not give you the wifi code. I'd be happy for you to pop round and use my computer to do what you needed to do, but that's it. Couldn't you make payment by phone?

And yes, some people do change the password on their router.

If your DH's friend is stupid enough to give his bankcard and pin to someone else, then that's his look out and nothing to do with this situation. You can like and trust someone without giving them access to anything and everything.

I wouldn't give the wifi password to my neighbour. You could be using it forever without paying your bill. She doesn't know that; she only knows that you haven't paid your bill and you're close enough to be using hers, up to the limit if you wanted to.

@CadgingCarol

I sorted it that night by ringing someone to log onto my online banking and transfer the money from my other account..which wasn't my first option as it took ages!..

Really...........? You gave someone your internet banking details to log on to your account to transfer money from one account to another?

I don't know a soul who would give anyone their internet banking details. That is a horrific security risk. If your bank account got ripped off, you wouldn't have a chance of getting your money back, after willingly giving your internet banking details out.

This thread is getting weirder by the minute.

No I don't think she should have given you her internet password. But she could have offered to let you use her computer at her house. Or you could go to a local library and use theirs for a small charge or sometimes it's free.

Total madness

Ugh, all these people who are so unfriendly and lacking in community spirit need to work out the cost versus value of helping someone ( oh and the "it's a fucking friend")

I sure as fuck wouldn't help her with anything ever again. So in the end she's lost

Give the password
After a couple of hours change the password
Doesn't take a fucking genius to work out that's how you help someone

@worriedrose

I sure as fuck wouldn't help her with anything ever again.

So in the end SHE'S lost

Not really.

As I said, if I had a 'friend' who was always cadging, because she was cut off all the time because she didn't pay her bills, she is quite welcome to jog on and not bother with me again. I would be more than happy to have her out of my life. I don't need - or want - freeloaders like this in my life.

Wait OP- just read your update! You gave someone else your internet banking details? And allowed them to access your account?

You realise if ANYTHING goes awry, then you won't be covered by banking guarantees as you voluntarily disclosed confidential information to a 3rd party?

I'm not saying your friend would steal your money (though they could) but that information could accidentally be divulged in any number of ways- e.g. being written down, left lying and picked up by someone else, they could have a virus on their computer they don't know about etc.

TBH given your laxity on security, I'm not surprised your friend chose not to share the wifi password!

Pay your own bills. Who lacks common sense to the degree that they give out their online banking details though?

Could you not have just phoned the bank?

@bingbongnoise
Well that's a leap in the dark. I'm just going on what the op has told us
I could infer a thousand things, until I have the other point of view I'm going to go with what the OP has decided to tell us.
Because it's an Internet forum

I guess I could say, well OP sounds like your friend knows you're a cadger and I wouldn't give you anything based on that info. but I have to take her on face value

It takes 2 weeks for Sky/Virgin to cut you off after a failed direct debit and they try to take the money again during this time so if you had the money so readily available you should never have been cut off and if its poor money management that led to you being cut off she's right not to allow you access to her wifi, logging into someones wifi can giving you access to their network and unsecured network means you have access to everything on her hard drive. Also if you then fell out with her in future you'd have the ability to lock her out of her own network.

"What can a hacker who gets into your home or business router do? He could listen in on all your browsing sessions and see everything you're entering on, say, your banking site or change the DNS servers on the network to redirect you to identity theft websites. "

It's a security risk simple but you don't seem bothered about security giving your online banking details to others!

Proper weird!!! As if she wouldn’t let you use her WiFi. Bet it’s just pure ignorance. That maybe she thinks you can log on to her internet banking etc. In reality it’s rubbish obv and completely safe

TBH given your laxity on security, I'm not surprised your friend chose not to share the wifi password!

I agree. I know someone who gave a friend her netflix password, and within a month, half a dozen others had it, and kept popping onto her account watching stuff for free. She changed the password after a couple of months, but still, this just proved that you really should not give out passwords willy nilly. It's a dreadful security risk.

@plank

Proper weird!!! As if she wouldn’t let you use her WiFi. Bet it’s just pure ignorance. That maybe she thinks you can log on to her internet banking etc. In reality it’s rubbish obv and completely safe

You may be right.

But the fact that someone doesn't WANT to give their wifi password is a good enough reason to not give it.

No other reason is needed. If I don't want to give it, I won't.

End of.

Ok so I understand it may have been s personal password and that's fair enough.. but saying that my dp knows his mates pin code and gets cash out for him etc because he trust him

I know this isn't the point of the OP, but in this case it needs pointing out. You and your DH sound far too trusting, which isn't always a good thing as there's always someone out there to take advantage.
Your dp and his mate should not be knowing each other's pin codes, whether they trust each other or not.If something did go wrong and you got scammed, the bank would more than likely to tell you to bog off than re-imburse you for fraud. For compromising your own account.
Anyway. If your friend didn't want to give out her wifi password, that's fair enough. That's up to her. How does she know you won't keep on using it? Nobody can be totally sure. Although if you're not using it in her house and you're a door or so down the connection will be patchy or non existent to say the least so not much point in the first place!

Err... how are you posting if you have no access to the internet?

You can still ring your internet provider and pay the bill by phone?

i didn't know you could change your pin but i have no problem giving it to my next door neighbor and i'm not even friends with her

Fuck me. Now I understand when I read about people getting fleeced financially.
Idiots giving their mates PIN numbers for cards, internet login details and online banking details.

And I don’t give my WiFi password away. Obviously my children have it and one was at a neighbors. Child could send YouTube videos to my smart tv, with an app could control another tv, send loads of stuff to my printer and with apps alter a few other things. That was just kids messing around on a mobile.

Laptops if unsecured and many aren’t secured once connected to the same network all files can be accessed.

Not only did I change the WiFi password, but I also changed the generic password from my provider to log into the ISP. Why? Because these passwords are all the same for each network. I can sit outside and have fun changing your details. I don’t have to ask you for your WiFi address.

You are incredibly trusting OP to give your banking log in details to someone else. I hope that trust isn’t misplaced

I let my kids friends have our wifi password if they are here, they can't use it if they are a small distance from the house and don't live local, so can't see what the problem is?