To think friend was being a bit tight over internet password

[CadgingCarol]

Name changed as I'm an over sharer.
Anyway I had some issues with paying my internet account recently basically direct debit hadn't come out and I'd been cut off long story!

I was stuck at home on my own with the kids, my older dc was going on and on and on about internet being cut off stress. I thought I'll ring up and pay to get it back on etc but realised I couldn't transfer the money as no internet! My phone internet wouldn't work either.
I thought shit, I messaged my friend who lives close and I'm a round about way asked her if I could borrow her internet password to get things sorted,
Her reply was "sorry I don't want to give it out" now we've been friends for over 4 years have each other kids do stuff etc etc so I was quite shocked at her response. It's basically saying she doesn't trust me isn't it?
Yes the internet being back on wasn't urgent but I still needed it back on ASAP. I wouldn't have given a second thought to giving a "friend" the password so aibu to think she isn't really a friend as she didn't help me out when I was in the shit?

[C8H10N4O2]

V8...not everyone is tech savvy. Some people don't know how to change their WiFi password and it would be a real inconvenience to have to.

Then frankly you need to learn. Just like you need to learn to drive to use a car or to use a washing machine to clean clothes. Its absolutely basic to change passwords regularly, especially from the default.

[PurplePillowCase]

you were nbu to ask
your friend is nbu to decline

tbh I wouldn't give it out either.
and no, the password is not on the box, we change it regularly.

[TabbyMumz]

V8..WiFi is not life or death....she can survive without it and get it sorted the next day. People lived without it for centuries.

[C8H10N4O2]

They or someone in their household they could then give it to, could download illegal films, look at / download child pornography, etc and it would be traced back to me first.

Actually they have to prove it was you if there are multiple people in the household. However its possible to block access to these which you may want to do anyway if you have children. Its also possible to block access to specific services if you don't want them used.

On modern routers this kind of configuration is no more complicated than learning to cook, fill the car or programme a PVR.

[fairyofallthings]

It's only on the side of her box if she has ignored the advice to change it.

[C8H10N4O2]

V8..WiFi is not life or death....she can survive without it and get it sorted the next day.

How? How does she access her banking if she has online banking (which was implied in the OP). Most utility accounts are access online now, especially if you want lower cost versions.

Do you live in a rural area? I don't think its obvious just how much more difficult it can be to access service providers and how dependent online villages are on their access.

Its like refusing someone use of the phone to report a phone fault or fix a phone payment problem.

[PurplePillowCase]

phone the bank?
drive to a branch?

[BulletFox]

No you were being v.nbu to ask

[PickAChew]

Hang on. If your home Internet has been cut off and your phone Internet isn't working, how the hell did you start this thread? Or is it all sorted now, anyhow>

[SunnySkiesSleepsintheMorning]

Your friend is not very kind. She trusts you with her children but not her internet, wtf?! Just remember this when she wants a favour.

[ShiftyMcGifty]

What I don't I understand is all these posters who offer their visitors wifi.
Why? I'm not on my phone nor are my visitors when they come to our house. We manage to actually chat with each other and don't need to checking our emails entire visit. Same for kids - they're invited over to play with one another, not on their devices.

[Blondeshavemorefun]

Yes a tad stingy

She's meant to be a friend yet said no

Anyone is welcome to out password. It's on the box

I even have neighbours when ours had problems and sometimes phone switches to theirs in our bedroom

I don't see the big deal - unless it was capped bb and she thought you may not ever get own bb again and use her data

[Pamelala]

If she were really worried about you just piggybacking her wifi for free forever she could have Gutenberg you the password & then changed it a couple of days later. She was mean!

[CredulousThickos]

Fuck me Pickachew.

Why the hell has it taken 138 replies for anyone else to pick up on that.

OP? We need answers.

[Etymology23]

@Notreallyarsed did you know you can usually extract the wifi password you have entered from the computer it's entered into? It's not encrypted once you put it in - on windows 7 you literally just right click the wifi network you're on, click properties and view password. Bit more involved in other systems but definitely not a password I would have the same as anything I cared about!

[SunnySkiesSleepsintheMorning]

The OP said she’s been having problems “recently”.

[Pamelala]

It's all written in the past tense so I've assumed it happened and has been sorted now and the OP is just reflecting now.

[bingbongnoise]

YABU. Your friend was not being stingy. It's her internet, and she pays for it, so it's her prerogative to say no.

Once again though, we have people saying people are tight/ mean/ stingy/ unreasonable/ awkward/uptight etc etc, because they don't want to do something they would do. I get sick of people being lambasted by posters, because they have a different way of dealing with things, and a different set of standards. Are you people like this with your friends?

I have to say the OP sounds a bit entitled, and from her posts on here, I can see why her friend doesn't want to share her wifi. I am willing to bet this isn't the first time she has asked for stuff for free. I know a few people like this actually.

I would absolutely say no to most people who asked for my wifi password, because I pay for it, it's mine, and I absolutely have the right to say no. Any friend who can't be arsed with me anymore, for being so 'stingy,' is quite welcome to jog on.

@pickachew

Hang on. If your home Internet has been cut off and your phone Internet isn't working, how the hell did you start this thread? Or is it all sorted now, anyhow>

PMSL just noticed this!!!

Maybe the OP can enlighten us?

How are you posting @CadgingCarol with no internet?

I am dying to know! 🤔

[BaconAndBees]

Hang on. If your home Internet has been cut off and your phone Internet isn't working, how the hell did you start this thread? Or is it all sorted now, anyhow . Good point pick

[BaconAndBees]

Detective Pick . We're a bright bunch on here - 138 replies!

[PortiaCastis]

Nip up the library cancel the cheque job done

[CadgingCarol]

I sorted it that night by ringing someone to log onto my online banking and transfer the money from my other account..which wasn't my first option as it took ages!..

[LonginesPrime]

I sorted it that night by ringing someone to log onto my online banking and transfer the money from my other account

Ok, so clearly this is just a huge mismatch in boundaries between you and your friend then!

[PurplePillowCase]

some of the internet security mentioned on here is quite shocking tbh

[CadgingCarol]

I would have sorted it the next day as obviously dp would have been back and could have drove to my mums etc...I needed it sorting that night though as homework needed doing on bloody education city, 12 yr old was acting like he had lost an arm with no snap chat, and 2 year old was acting like the dog had died because I didn't have peppa pig on tap.