To think it's hilarious that friends who turned their backs when I was suffering from severe anxiety are posting mental health day awareness posts on Facebook!

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Just that really. So easy to look good on fb but actually be a sh*t friend!

Totally agree.

I know adults who still bully and they are the one's posting about bullying awareness.

Likewise my most judgmental neighbours when my DD with ADHD was a child, are the one's posting about children with SN needing to be accepted.

Thanks everyone, not nice that others have suffered the same but sort of glad to know that there are nice people out there who understand.

I was being sarcastic, I don’t really think it’s hilarious. I’ve cried buckets at the people I thought were good friends who dropped me. I lost one really good friend because I alcohol made my anxiety worse and I couldn’t drink prosecco with her anymore so she found someone who could!
I try to focus on the good friends I do have and I’m very lucky.

Yanbu, op.

The biggest narcissists/bullies/arseholes post that sort of bullshit on FB. Yet when it comes to actually being a nice, understanding, tolerant person in real life, they're totally not. They display cunty, snooty behaviour, which is why I steer well clear of them and the company they keep. 'Birds of a feather flock together'.

Totally know where you're coming from! It's been pissing me off for ages!

I know it doesn’t feel like it now, but friends who do that are not worth your tears.
Do you have a partner to talk to? Family/Mum/sister?
It really helped me to go to counselling when everything in my life was going south. She pointed things out to me that I hadn’t seen and made me think differently about it.

& because of that I refuse to share these posts

I do think people understand mental health, but often have their own issues to deal with and have to make a decision somewhere along the line that they can't support in the way you might be looking for. Not everyone is equipped to deal with it or to help and have their own families and stuff going on. I do think it is a symptom of mental health that sufferer's of it expect lots of support from friends when really the best people to help are doctors, counsellors etc, and friends just can't keep on giving. It is a very sad situation.

To be honest I never expected anyone to be supporting me or counselling me. I just didn’t expect to get dumped by people I thought were friends. I do always try to support my friends when they’re going through any problems. Even if it’s just a cuppa and a chat.
The post that annoyed my tonight was a by a girl that selfishly set me up by tricking me into going somewhere where there was someone I was avoiding and they verbally attacked me. It set me back months. It was only because she wanted to go out and had no one else to go with. She knew I wouldn’t want to go and specifically told me we were going somewhere else. Anyway, she was nowhere to be seen when the anxiety kicked back in. Hope that makes sense.
I’ve had cbt and I take beta blockers and I’m so much better. Have a lovely hubby and some lovely friends.
I feel so much for anyone who has mh issues x

Totally agree. I hate when people post about celebrities with mental health issues but ignore their own friends. In my experience people don't want to know. It's easy to attach your flag to the Facebook cause du jour; much more difficult to actually support someone experiencing difficulty.

Awareness can help in many ways, not isolating people vulnerable to psychotic episodes, creating peer support links between people struggling with mh problems, having support to access hcp, having people there to pick up on suicidal intent and to intervene.

But i don't think for a second some mh awareness day post creates any awareness and i don't think that the general public sign up for and pay for and give up their free time to do mh awareness training, ASIST training, mh first aid training or so on. It's those effected first or second hand or those who work in related fields who make a choice to be informed.

Deleting fb helped me xx

Do you know, I am on the verge of doing that. There are few things I like about fb these days xx

I’ve unfollowed a lot of people on Facebook. In fact I’d say over 80% of my feed is now the pages I follow rather than actual friends. I think i prefer it that way, to be honest.

I’d love to go back to the days where we called our friends and met up with them to tell them what we’d been doing

Trouble is you can't win with mental health. Suggest someone needs a "good night night out " and you are insensitive and ignorant.
Bring up your colleague who is off work with depression appears to be out in London ( again) and it's helping her to have a night out.

I'm not sure that post is helpful Gosh
People are different and your friends are the people who know you and know what would help you.

I’d love to go back to the days where we called our friends and met up with them to tell them what we’d been doing

Then be the one to make that call. Social media is what you make of it. I haven't been on Facebook/Instagram/etc for years and don't feel socially disadvantaged in the least. There are benefits to it, sure. But try not to let what is said and done there affect your life. Your good friends will always be there for you, so take everything else as nothing more than pixels on a screen.

Quite unhelpful Gosh. Very situational.

I’ve been making an effort to black pepper. I totally agree. I need to come off fb and get back to living in the real world.

My friend calls in facebrag.

It is shit I totally agree. This is my take on all things friendship. I put a lot of value on friendships as I don't get on with the few family I have and me and DH and I don't really get on. I think friends who are happy only mainly have time for positive interactions and don't invest as much in friendships and those who have time can be in a similar situation. In our busy busy lives people just often can't be bothered is it selfish maybe or is it simply keeping their positive vibe going. Depression is one of those very draining things that unfortunately people have simply no time or inclination for or as someone suggested they don't know what to do. I think most people want light trouble free friendships. Obviously before I get flamed there are exceptions to the rule !!!

Depression and anxiety can be draining. I find I end up attracting a certain type of friend who actually seems to prefer those with mental health issues and they end up in a counselling role at times. Though if I'm v down, I withdraw.

I hope your mental health issues get better.
I don’t agree with your post. Life is far more complex

Sorry I hadn't seen your reply re the night out that's not good ! How was CBT I have seriously been thinking about that !

I can have huge sympathy for people suffering with all kinds of MH issues, my friend took their life because of his own issues and yes today as it is #worldmentalhealthday I have shared on stuff I have seen on Faceache.

That said though, I'm not a professional, I don't know how to help someone who needs it, and I feel useless as a friend in that situation, all I can do is listen so much and advise medical help - after that, I've got nothing. It's extremely draining, and I have to look after my own well being too.
I would probably seem like the kind of friend that have been mentioned above to some