To be annoyed at this text from my personal trainer?

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I had to have minor surgery just over a week ago and the hospital told me before and after that I cannot exercise (including gym, swimming and most annoying sex) for 4 weeks after this.

I made my PT aware that I wouldnt be able to come to the gym until the end of this month. He has text me today asking if I will be in class tomorrow. I said no and reminded him of the ban and responded saying "lets hope you dont put weight on"

AIBU to be a bit pissed by his response? Im sure there was no malice but surely there's a better response? And Im not actively looking to nor do I need to lose weight.

What a shitty thing to say! Like you should disobey doctors orders just so you don't put on a lb or 2. For Fuck's Sake. I'd sack him.

I like Butterymuffins reply OP, I’d send something like that. To the point and gives him the chance to grovel when he realises what a test he sounded. If he doesn’t, yes I’d look into a new PT.

Twat not test. My auto correct tries to make me more genteel, never gonna happen.

Where did the OP say that he told her she'd definitely gain weight or that she should disregard doctors orders and exercise?
Nor does it imply that she's a cash cow. Surely if she gained weight she'd attend more? By not gaining weight be stands to gain nothing extra.

I had a PT and due to circumstances I had to miss a few weeks. He said something very similar and there was no malicious intent whatsoever. I was seeing him to lose weight and he knew gaining weight over that time would massively impact me.

The OP has said that while she doesn't want to lose weight she does talk to her PT about a fear of getting fat again. Perhaps it was supposed to be something similar, looking out for the OPs mental health in that area, and not some horrible, misogynist comment intended to hurt the OP.

OP if you have good rapport with him, no other issues and have a good connection then I wouldn't act the way many other posters have suggested. I'd put it down to slight tactlessness due to the use of text message, focus on getting better and move on.

I would text: let's hope you don't miss my money too much. You'll obviously miss it to pay for the empathy implant you so desperately need - you're fired .

Send him one back telling him it’s the least of your worries just now - perhaps he’ll see he’s out of order - get well soon

Maybe look into a female trainer op?

Don't be fooled OP the female ones can be just as bad, I had a girl who while I was killing my self on a treadmill would stand and say, Oh ive eaten three mars bars this morning, needed all the extra energy for the traing sessions, while i was killin myself after only having one weetabix three hours previously, felt like trottling her.

Op have you replied to the trainer?

Text him back: "Let's hope you learn some tact and diplomacy."

Female trainers are worse. When I was a gym-goer the one I had commented on my weight loss (I went a bit overboard at first) - I said I used to eat rubbish and she said I must have eaten a lot of rubbish! I wouldn't up with it for a moment now but am older and wiser (and wider!)

It’s highly unprofessional of him, not least because there are some people who would be so worried about their weight that they might go back to exercise too soon after a procedure. He should be aware of this.
It’s also very rude.
Find another trainer.

My friend is a PT and would be offering gentle activity to aid your recovery, not slagging you off. Twat.

Wow, I would've taken it as a joke, based on his job

Say to him that the surgeon has asked for your personal trainer's opinion over whether the procedure should go ahead.

Say your surgeon wants a second opinion, professional to professional.

Hoist him on the petard of his own conceit.

Then tell him of course nobody wants his opinion, because he's got all the sensitivity of a rottweiler with a nail in his foot.

(I'm assuming your trainer is a he. You can never tell these days. Women can be just as insensitive as men now. )

Inappropriate and unprofessional! Change your PT

Why are you guys all so damn passive? Text him back and say thanks for his concern about your health after surgery, but as you feel he perhaps doesn't have your interests at heart, you'll be looking for a new PT when you are fit enough to return.

Unless you are planning to eat for 5 everyday for next 4 weeks. How much weight could possibly put on?

Cheeky arse.

Find someone that you like. I've had two PTs and I chose them both because they more qualifications than just a PT course and because they both competed in sports. The first one did martial arts and my current one competes in triathlons and iron man. I felt that being sportsmen they had a more functional approach to fitness and were less obsessed with appearance.

That said, I probably wouldn't be very touchy about a message like that if it was all going ok otherwise. My current PT especially isn't great at communicating by text and they always sound a bit terse, but I know it isn't intended.

OP, what he said was clumsy and ill thought out but I think if you usually get on well with him it might be worth just sending a text back such as "I'm more concerned with getting better after surgery than putting on a couple of pounds". Messages via text can be lost in translation and he might have thought he was cracking a joke. It all depends on what your relationship is like really.

We dont joke too much, unless.he is telling me about the latest gymgoer he fancies
On 2nd thoughts he sounds like a complete tool and unprofessional to boot, unless you started it by telling him who in the gym you fancy and he thinks you welcome this sort of conversation.

Yes, he sounds a bit shallow and looks focused, not to mention predatory if he is using the gym as a meeting place to meet his next shag. I'm sure you could do better.

Rude

You do need a new PT. I dont have a PT but go to classes at my gym taught by a PT. All of the instructors do PT sessions at my gym and i speak to them about these issues casually even though I am not a client.

They have all categorically said dont bother so much weight loss / gain, look at fitness and muscle tone. They've also said it is good to have a rest from the gym even if you're not recovering.

He's a twat.

I'd reply fuck you and the horse you rode in on.

I had a similar thing happen with my PT. I badly pulled a muscle in my back moving a wardbrobe and texted him to say I wouldn't be training because it was too sore. He texted back insisting I should go anyway. I felt he just didn't want to miss out on the cash. I went along (felt bullied into it) and couldn't do most of the exercises. Was really pissed off he hasn't taken my word for it. I never went back.

How rude!
Text back:
“Let’s hope it gives you more time to speak to your clients with respect”

Context is evrtything. I have a personal trainer who would definitely say this to me as a joke, I've been training with him for a long time though and we enjoy winding each other up. Makes the sessions slightly more bearable! It doesn't sound like this is the case here though, so he's either very socially inept or an utter moron.